she is VERY MATURE, but her mother doesnt know if she should date
2006-09-09 15:07:45 · 33 answers · asked by okay. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure, if the girl can look after herself and knows her limits there's no problem with that.
2006-09-09 15:10:16 · answer #1 · answered by Jaq 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I'm a romantic, and would love to see all girls starting to date when they are 16+. I think that at 14, girls should be dreaming about the time when they'll go for dates.
I think that it's very important that a girl who is just starting out to date have a lot of self confidence. She needs to be responsible, and take care of herself.
If they do go out for a date, the parent should know where the young people are going. In case plans change, they need to call home to ask permission or explain the situation. A link to the parent in case of an emergency (cell phone) always comes in handy.
The young man also needs to understand that he cannot mistreat the young lady. Parents can tell the young man that they trust their daughter with him because he seems like a nice young boy, and they know that he's someone they can trust to take care of her if something should happen.
Good Luck :-)
2006-09-09 15:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by smazedmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, fourteen is still to young for dating. No matter how mature the kid may appear to be. Relationships are a lot of work and it's really the time in your life when you should enjoy being with your friends. Going out to the movies, or to sports games, hanging at the mall. Besides there is plenty of time for dating when you get to college.
2006-09-09 15:12:52 · answer #3 · answered by mJc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing, a 14 year old girl is far from mature. True maturity comes with age. My daughter will not date at 14, and she's (of course) one of the most dependable girls I've ever known. I'll probably let her date at 16, but I won't like it.
2006-09-09 15:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
no- what would be the purpose of her dating- is she ready to get married- is she ready for the emotional burdens and ups and downs of an adult relationship?? She should be focused on her education and what kind of adult she is going to be. The only thing dating will do is disract her from those things.
Fourteen years old, I don't care how mature she seems, is too young to handle the emotional baggage that comes woth dating.
2006-09-09 15:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
14 is not mature. 14 you are still a young child. Please listen to your mom. Dont become another child that goes out and gets themselves in trouble. You still have a few years before you should go on dates. Your mother is just looking out for you so you dont become another victim.
2006-09-09 15:12:30 · answer #6 · answered by ncpeterpan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure. But only with limits, like a curfew and the cell phone has to be on at ALL times. And both parents know the boy and exactly where the couple will be going. Or maybe set a limit as to how many nights a week the couple can go out, so it doesn't interfer with school studies. Maybe after time the curfew can go later or other bonuses can be added. It will take time to build up trust, so have patience. It'll work out, if not now but in the future, i'm sure!
2006-09-09 15:12:23 · answer #7 · answered by Kat uh lynn <3 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
It depends on what you mean by date... Dropping her and her boyfriend off at an afternoon matinee and picking them up right after might be okay. But out for a saturday night date - NO WAY. Way too young.
2006-09-09 15:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by guitaryogi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking to Mom,she might give you that chance,It's hard for Mom,you got to understand,she has been there and done that,she is only looking out for you,because when you are hurt she is hurt.You and Mom talk it out and go from there,14 is a good age to start out and if Mom says go ahead don't let no one pressure you for no reason,sex or other wise.Have self repect.
2006-09-09 15:14:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is just divorce practice, IMO. You sample what you like, but when someone rubs you the wrong way, you ditch them. In this way, people learn that, instead of compromising and allowing another person's desires to be more important than your own people just ditch the person who doesn't agree with them. I think 14 is too young for dating. Try doing things in groups with other people your age. You don't have to be sucking face and proving your maturity to other kids your age by engaging in progressive psuedo-sexual activity. Worry about getting enough out of highschool to have a responsible productive life instead,.
2006-09-09 15:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
14 is too young to be dating ..This is the time for having fun with girlfreinds and going to the mall and the prom but dating no..There is time for that later on .....Mature or not
2006-09-09 15:13:13 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋