Please, dont pay attention to the question. Its just an attention grabber. Sorry.
I'm in high school and there is this girl that I like. I think she likes me too cos she is always trying to be around me and she is always smiling at me. She is shy and I am shy too.
I'm planning to give her a note next week. It will say: "I really like you and I think you are very beautiful so I was wondering if you wanna be my girl friend. If you are not interested, please feel free to say No"
What do you think?
Is it too bold?
PS: I'm new to this dating thing. Thank You
2006-09-09 15:05:33 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
nope...it direct and to the point....but take it from an old man and write "I like you and think you are beautiful, so I was wondering if you'd like to go see a movie with me.?"
and when you talk to her look her in the eye. It instills a feeling of trust in her and shows her you are confident. also it is been proven that women like to hear their names.
2006-09-09 15:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by rsist34 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NIx the note thing. I had a guy write a note to me once- a complete stranger that saw me in a Starbucks. He wrote this note telling me he thought I was beautiful and that he was shy but wanted to go to dinner--blah blah blah. It really creeped me out more than anything. If you truly like this girl--talk to her. You don't have to tell her you like her right away--but getting to know her will ease up the shyness thing. Then you will feel more confident to ask her out. Good luck!
2006-09-09 22:19:29 · answer #2 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense to any of that....but notes just suck. You have paper and pencil doing all of the talking for you. It is just lame. If you and that girl are all alone and you are on a bit of a personal subject, just ask her to be your girlfriend. Make sure you don't just blurt it out of the blue. Or better yet, walk up to her tell her that you want to talk to her, and then tell her that you like her and then ask her to be your girlfriend. You don't have to worry about a subject change or anything. Hope this helps and good luck.
2006-09-09 22:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by lady_ellie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well coming from a woman's stand point that would not be too bold especially if you both are shy...If I were you I would say a few more things than that..Like .........I really think you are beautiful,I have been noticing you alot lately..and I think you are a sweet person,and I really like you..So I would like to know if you would like to be my girlfriend.If you can't I understand but can we at least be friends...Try that...
2006-09-09 22:10:10 · answer #4 · answered by crazyinlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont think so. Dont go with a note just ask. I was shy to but dont be be outgoing and loving. Girls like a guy you can stand up and asklike a man, not notes like a Puss*y. I think that is exacticly what you should say.
2006-09-09 22:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You stole gnarls barkley's line from the song Crazy. No notes. Approach her as you would a friend and look her in the eye and ask her out to a movie. Practice what you are going to say to her first. Good luck.
2006-09-09 22:10:19 · answer #6 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
*Sigh*
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but asking her in a note is a bad idea. While notes save you the possible embarrassment of a face to face confrontation, and they hide your shame if she turns you down, they are impersonal and cold.
If you want to leave her a note at all, it would be better to leave her a note asking to talk to her. You should want to talk to her face to face.
1. Because she can see your face to know that you are serious.
2. So that you can see her face to judge her response.
3. It's more personal and sincere.
4. You come across as more confident.
5. She has to deal with you, not the reactions of others if they chance to see your note.
Then when you are face to face with her, preferably without others around to distract or influence, tell her what you feel. You like her, you think she is beautiful, smart, funny, caring, witty, etc... Then ask her out on a date first. The girlfriend-boyfriend relationship should be after a couple of dates so that you know you want to be with each other in a relationship. No matter how young or old you are, stating that you are girlfriend/boyfriend means that you are exclusive, and won't date others.
Ask her to a movie then to grab a bite after. That way you have some time to relax around each other while you watch the movie, and plenty of conversation after at the resturant, coffee shop, or where ever you go.
First dates can be awkard, so make sure that whatever you choose to do is something besides one on one time. There should be some distraction, something to do, something to talk about. When you are just going out to eat, you may run out of things to say, or just be unsure of what to talk about. Long silences aren't romantic, and they won't get you a second date.
Make sure you ask her plenty of questions about herself, what she likes, what she doesn't like, her hobbies, favorite sports, favorite music, movies, etc... The more you get her to talk, the more she will reelax and open up to you. She'll probably ask about you too, so make sure you listen to what she says. If she admits to hating football, don't spend a lot of time talking about how your favorite NFL team is doing in the pre-season.
You should also complement her. When you pick her up or meet her there, tell her how great she looks. Try to find something to pick out, like her eyes, hair, a great outfit, etc... Don't focus on a body part below the neck, she'll think you are a pervert. Look her in the eyes and smile often. It shows that you are paying attention to her, that you are having a good time, and that you are interested in her as a person, not just a pretty face.
At the end of the night, walk her to her door (house or car). Tell her what a great time you had and that you would like to see her again. If she's interested, she will say so. "Thanks, so did I" or "Call me" or something encouraging. Then call her the next day to repeate your thanks, what a great time you had, and ask a about another date. Women hate it when guys don't call us, it makes us think that they either forgot about us, or just don't care. If she says yes, then you are in. Just keep up the good work, be yourself, and treat her with respect and manners.
Good Luck!
2006-09-09 22:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My opinion is the note would be perfect! Since you are both shy, the note says it all. I hope this helps.
2006-09-09 22:13:27 · answer #8 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not too bold, maybe too corny. Maybe just ask for a date? say "HI"? All she can say is no, and she wont think of you as the weird guy with the note.....
2006-09-09 22:09:15 · answer #9 · answered by don3070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what you think you should do. the note sounds like a good idea but it does sound junior highish to me.
however I would suggest talking to her and developing a friendship before you make that sort of move
2006-09-09 22:11:26 · answer #10 · answered by Davy D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋