Hey.
I feel silly for going to a message board to get love life answers, I'm completely stumped. My guy friend (we'll call him Bob) & I have been good friends for about 3 years now. In fact, he's my best guy friend & we talk about everything openly. But lately I've noticed a change. U ever been friends with a guy and u talk & talk and then one day you look at each other and its like "woa did you feel that?" sorta thing? Well, I've started to like him more than just a friend, but I'm afraid to go out w/ him because I don't want our friendship ruined by a messy breakup or something (its happened to me before so i'm cautious) & we believe really differently when it comes to some serious issues. But I think Bob likes me too because (well first of all a few of my friends seem to think it) he's started calling a lot regularly & wanting to hang out (just me & him instead of the usual w/ friends). I know that's not much to go on but do u think he likes me? Should we go out?
2006-09-09 14:59:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please don't feel silly asking the question here. If there's one thing I've learned about relationships, it's that no matter how outrageous the story, there's always a similar story or someone else that's been through almost the exact same situation.
As for your question, I don't think even your best friend may be able to answer that just yet. It's that "whoa" feeling that makes you so confused and 10 years down the road you'll feel like you should have known all along what that feeling meant--only you didn't.
If this is really your best friend, do you think this friend is someone you can see yourself with? If yes, I say go for it. If not, then I say please let him know that if you two ever have that talk. Good luck!
p.s. don't think of the messy breakup. there is no messy breakup YET. but on the other hand, there is no happiness with that potential mate YET. this is what's called the leap of faith. it could go either way and only time will tell.
2006-09-09 15:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sin™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you hesitiation because you have a good friendship and you don't want it ruined by a ruined romantic relationship. However, the fact that you are feeling things for him, and that you think that he is feeling the same for you, has already changed the relationship. I say go for it. See what happens. Who knows? It may be the best thing to ever happen to your life. Good luck!
2006-09-09 22:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people are worried about ruining friendships. You just have to decide if you're willing to loose him as a friend. If you don't try it out, you might always wonder what it would be like. But if you do go for it, you have to be willing to loose his friendship. You just have to spend some time thinking which one you'd rather do. It might be hard, but whatever decision you make you'll get through it okay.
2006-09-09 22:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by iamsamsamiam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he's probably liked you for a while, and is just now mustering up the courage to pursue you.
Be cautious, but don't ignore this. This could be really special!
2006-09-09 22:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes ur best friend so u should be able to talk to him n find out..use the what if senario with him n see what his answers will be
2006-09-09 22:08:33 · answer #5 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋