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What is it like for a child to grow up in a violent home?

Chaos: The children may never know what to expect at home. Their
parents' mood can change instantly from loving to enraged.

Fear and tension: The daily anger and violence create a living
nightmare for the children. They may grow up being afraid of
everything and trusting no one.

Danger: Often, the children are the intended victim of one or both
parents. Other times, they get caught in the middle and are hurt or
killed by accident.

Confusion: The children often receive mixed messages. For example:
at school they learn hitting is wrong, at home they learn that
hitting is used to "solve" problems.

Isolation: Often, an abusive parent shuts off the family from the
outside world. And the children may withdraw from their peers and
other adults too.

Hopelessness: The children often blame themselves for the violence
but they feel powerless to prevent, stop or escape from it.

Love/Hate Relationship: They may feel protective of an abused
parent. But they may also resent him or her for not stopping the
abuse. Sometimes the children may feel close to the abuser.
Other times, they may hope he or she goes away or dies. They may
feel guilty for not being able to rescue the family or for loving
someone who is abusive.

Answer 1

As far as hitting at school and hitting at home goes it is never the same. They normally hit at school because they are taught at home they are better then anyone else. So being they are a god and raise above everyone else they are ok with hitting at school and never get hit at home and never hit anyone at home.

The ones that hit at home or rape their sisters are the best kids at school because they have been taught not to tell anyone outside and to stay out of trouble. If they make trouble at school they would get chained up in the celler and beat every night for a week.

So I would say you have no idea of what you are talking about.

There was no abuse in our home but I'm sure that some would say there was. I say in most cases you should mind your own business and leave others alone.

My mom and dad did not get along at all and both told the three of us kids me and my two younger sisters. They would split after we all three was out of the house before we was 10 years old. We all moved out after we were of age 18 years, and they did just that. I remember bailing my dad out of jail for not wanting to pay her the monthly support payments. I remember all the fighting and I remember that my dad slept in the living room for years and mom slept in the back bedroom. Both of my sisters are slim and have no health problems. One has three kids which are now grown and both sisters have taken to long Haul Truck driving. I my self have done very well for myself in the business world and none of us blame our parents for anything. My mom made it to the 3rd grade and my dad made it to the 7th grade and then spent years in WW2.

It was a rough life growing up but I promise you that we have our crap together better then most people who had both parents that so called loved each other.

I am glad I did not live in the now day's belief of how parenting should be because I would have false beliefs of how thing should be. I would think that even if I did bad it was still good. I would think that if I did good that I was better then everyone else.

No you keep your way of looking at things and I'll keep my way. My daughter is just fine and has not been abused and nor was I or my sisters. We just did not have as much love as you think was needed in our lifes but it only made us stronger.

Sorry but I have a chip on my sholder from my child hood from others trying to tell us how to live our lifes and we have out done them. Most problems we had was from outsiders trying to stick their noses in our life.

I guess some people can't allow others to live their lifes the way we think best. We don't need your god we have our own ways.

Leave people alone unless you really do know of REAL abuse. I would like to find some of the people who caused us the problems when I was a kid so I could go show them a copy of my bank account and my kids who are now grown and my grand kids.

Answer 2

That applies, in many ways to being in any abusive relationship.

Answer 3

You described most of my life. But I am evolving