My hubby is in the army. He and I have been married a little over a year now. He is being deployed to Iraq on December 1st. What should I do? What would be a great way to cope with this and not constantly worry about him? He is supposily going to camp booka which is suppose to be the safest part in Iraq. But I am still a little scared for him. And he will be gone a whole year. This really sucks!!!
2006-09-09 14:32:25 · 15 answers · asked by Kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i feel sorry about that..my ex husband is in iraq to but not as a soldier he is working..
But what i would do is spend as much time with him as i could take pictures, get him some to take with him. Keep in touch through email but also letters he can hold and see..join some groups that can allow you to vent how you feel being a lonely wife and maybe they can give you tips on how to get past it..send him cookies, and stuff that will last, always let him know how much you love and think of him..
There is groups in yahoo, and msn
http://groups.yahoo.com/search?query=military+wives
http://search.msn.com/results.aspx?q=military%20wives+site%3Agroups.msn.com&CO=50&RS=CHECKED&FORM=COENUS&cfg=COENUS&ba=0&v=1
Find some groups near you in real life as well that can give you ideas and help you pass the time..
Get a hobby or something to help you pass the time and that way it will really hit when he comes back and you start to remember how alone you was..
I know that from my husband trucking i liked to have fell apart because he was gone to much..i am thankful he has a job close to home now..
2006-09-09 14:35:34 · answer #1 · answered by away right now 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, marrying someone in the army comes with this risk. Just think about it this way: No matter what happens, you can't change anything. If you're really scared for him, nothing will happen except you'll spend lots of sleepness nights. It's kind of like whatever you do, what exists will still remain the same. Just make sure to send him mail (if you're allowed) or just get a cat or a dog to keep you company. But DO pray for him.
Best wishes.
2006-09-09 14:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by Besch 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel for you. I had a daughter and 2 son-in-laws in Iraq. It is scary.I will tell you the best thing for me was to learn how to pray without ceasing.If you wake up in the middle of the night pray for him, if you are at loss for words, read the bible outloud.That was how I survived.God bless you and your husband.Oh they all came home safely.My daughter now has a 1 year old baby.
2006-09-09 14:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by nancy e 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really can't understand what you are feeling but can only offer advice with a sympathetic ear. You're gonna worry regardless. Try keeping yourself busy, be around friends and family. Keep a picture close when you need to see his smile to remember the love you two possess for each other.I wish you luck in coping with the absence of your husband. It's gonna be hard but it'll get better. Keep you in my prayers.
2006-09-09 14:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your husband living in America so he Willl be safe there, but if you were from Canada, so you must have to look some alternate ,.,because most of Canadian soldiers were never come back,. any ways ,.,be brave life and death is a part of the world,. and soon this war wil be over, then everybody happy,. you also don' t worry be happy,. keep in contact on phone,.,.
2006-09-09 14:37:13 · answer #5 · answered by RAMBO 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check with your nearest base. They usually offer support gorups and counselling to spouses with deployed partnersto help cope and develop a social support network.
2006-09-09 14:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by limgrn_maria 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a good support system here at home. Family, friends and other wives will be a big help. Stay busy and keep in touch.
2006-09-09 14:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by blueyes2001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is allways the case when you marry a army man, BUT just try to keep busy, dont think too much on were he is, think of it as another mission, & hopefully he will be back soon safe & sound,
2006-09-09 14:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to write a list of all the reasons why he is going to go fight.
You need to write down all the reasons why you think he is going to fight.
Put them in in a frame, hang it up in your bathroom, everyday when you walk in there until Dec 1st, you'll understand that what he is doing is for an honorable acceptable reason.
thanks for asking
2006-09-09 14:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what to tell u...my dad went to Kuwait and Korea for a year each...its sad but u can still keep in touch...buy a webcam and talk to him everyday...at least u can see him that way...i didnt have that when my dad left...we didnt know about that stuff....after the first few weeks, u'll feel fine, u will still miss him but it wont be as bad as the first day...and when he comes back...=)
2006-09-09 14:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by ξℓ Çђαηφσ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋