http://groups.yahoo.com/group/here4you
What is it like for a child to grow up in a violent home?
Chaos: The children may never know what to expect at home. Their
parents' mood can change instantly from loving to enraged.
Fear and tension: The daily anger and violence create a living
nightmare for the children. They may grow up being afraid of
everything and trusting no one.
Danger: Often, the children are the intended victim of one or both
parents. Other times, they get caught in the middle and are hurt or
killed by accident.
Confusion: The children often receive mixed messages. For example:
at school they learn hitting is wrong, at home they learn that
hitting is used to "solve" problems.
Isolation: Often, an abusive parent shuts off the family from the
outside world. And the children may withdraw from their peers and
other adults too.
Hopelessness: The children often blame themselves for the violence
but they feel powerless to prevent, stop or escape from it.
Love/Hate Relationship: They may feel protective of an abused
parent. But they may also resent him or her for not stopping the
abuse. Sometimes the children may feel close to the abuser.
Other times, they may hope he or she goes away or dies. They may
feel guilty for not being able to rescue the family or for loving
someone who is abusive.
2006-09-09 14:28:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Here are some things that come to mind, many of these are long term effects:
---The child may have a false sense of what a family is and what relationships are (children live what they learn, the pattern may be repeated because it is all they know)
---The child may seek solace in drugs, alcohol
---The child may make unwise decisions in order to remove themselves from the situation
---The child may gravitate towards criminal behavior
---The child may become unfeeling, rough and jaded missing out on childhood
---The child will suffer academically
---The child may have low self-esteem and expectations
2006-09-09 14:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Athena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah..sounds familiar. I've created my own prison - been in prison.
I don't hate myself - But I Hate the fact that I exist.
2006-09-09 21:37:06 · answer #2 · answered by justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow,...just wow, the poem on the site is AMAZING and I think the meaning of the the yahoo group is really important. Thank you for posting this.
2006-09-09 21:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes alot of this involves my background..
and it sucks, because i got stressed out so bad, that i became anorexic.. and it sucks like hell.. and i wish i could just start another life.. cuz i always wondered wat it would b like to have a normal life and not have to worry about food..
but i am just tryin to live my life to the fullest for now..
2006-09-09 21:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kim S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now i am really in to Its Goin Down
2006-09-09 21:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are answering you own question here....
2006-09-09 21:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by I Drive a Mini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok
2006-09-09 21:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by Smart_Dumb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋