well i am almost 15 and i have been going out with my bf, who is the same age, for almost 3 monthes. i love him, i really do, but i have never kissed him.
we still show affection to each other though! he holds my hand and wrapps his arms around me...etc. but we havent kissed probably because both of us are pretty shy...i mean it was hard enough for us too ask eachother out!
but im starting to feel kind of retarted not kissing him cuz i have so many friends, even younger than me who have kissed or have gone beyond. everyone tells me to just go for it and kiss him but...im shy around him...im not shy at all with my friends...but when i get around him...i turn shy..and call me old-fashoned, but i always thought that the guy should kiss first...
what do you think i should do? i dont wanna just "go for it" because it is not gonna work...do u have any ideas...and dont tell me im young and stupid..i hear that too much from my parents... what do u think?!
2006-09-09 14:13:36 · 16 answers · asked by hmmmm..... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well u shouldn't have to kiss anybody if u don't feel right. when ever u feel like it and u are no longer shy then its the right time. just because everybody else does it doesn't mean u have to do it now. don't ever let some one pressure u into something u don't want to do.
2006-09-09 14:55:12 · answer #1 · answered by ♥maibelisagift4rmgod♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, shame on your parents if they EVER tell you that you are "young and stupid." No parent should tell their children that (even if they think it, that is a BIG no-no! It destroys your child's ego. (hear that, parents?) ).
Now to Y-O-U. You are "almost 15". Most people live to over 80 years of age today. Are you in a race? Are you afraid that he will leave you if you do, or do not, kiss him? Give yourself a break! The relationship is working, from what you are saying. If and when the TWO OF YOU are ready to pursue it further, then the TWO OF YOU will do so. Not based on what "others are doing."
If we all did the same things, life would be amazingly boring.
PS Take him to see "The Illusionist." That is a good movie both of you can watch. Want to take him to see a GUY movie? - go see "crank." Not much for the ladies, a little T & A, just a little. But what a movie. Very quick.
2006-09-09 21:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are doing it the right way. Every little step we take further makes us want more and makes the things that contented us before become less satisfying. I remember my first kiss and remember my first french kiss....once you kiss holding hands will not feel the same, one you french kiss, a kiss won't be the same...its just how it goes. When your both comfortable it will happen, the fact that he hasn't jumped you means hes a gentleman and probably a keeper.....I could tell you a dozen ways to work in a kiss but I think he should come up with it....why not just tell him sometime on the phone that you kind of wonder why he hasn't kissed you yet. At your age, kissing is perfectly acceptable!
You want to hear about my first french kiss? I was babysitting next door, hanging cloth diapers on the clothes line when my boyfriend just turned me around and planted one! It was a surprise and absolutely fabulous. God Robert was so cute....and I was your age! I should look him up on classmates!
2006-09-09 21:22:27 · answer #3 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time! Go at YOUR OWN pace. Your friends may want to rush, but YOU should keep it special. He might not be ready either. It's your and his decision. Thats what I love about realtionships. There personal. You can have millions of friends, but only one true love. They are personal. They see only you in a crowd of a thousand. You're focused on eachother. Like I say, "Love is always what you make it," If you wanna get married tomorrow, do it. If you wanna enter the School holding hands tommorrow, do it. If you wanna meet in an alley at 12:56 PM, go ahead. LOVE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT.
2006-09-09 21:20:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 16, I haven't kissed. So? It's really not a big deal, just go for it. It just makes him want you more, is that what you want? If so, you should go kiss him, this way he'll more comfortable around you. In addition, guys love girls who make their first move.
It's okay, you're still young, you have much to learn. You don't need to ingratiate with the society to be in the society. When you were begetted, you were in the society and you still are, just be who you are, that's what you're best at.
2006-09-09 21:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by krazych1nky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not stupid but young. It's time to come out (a little more)of your shell. He likes you,you like him, you've been together for 3 mos. Go on and kiss the fella. Just remember to take your time else where.
2006-09-09 21:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not concentrate on all that sweetie
because if he gets too wild
in a kiss you could end up pregnant I mean
after all it is the passion one cannot control
be glad you are not entangled in a kiss
there is heat in kissing
2006-09-09 21:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by Queen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your shoes years ago and trust me he wants to kiss you too, so let him make the move.
2006-09-09 21:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel you should kiss him, then kiss him. If you feel you don't want to yet, then don't. Never rush into something, no matter what, if you're not ready.
2006-09-09 21:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by panchorific 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what you could do is just start a conversation with him when yuo two are alone and then ask him a question when he answers it kiss him.
2006-09-09 21:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by chelsea c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋