Would I be safe if I turn my parents in for abusing me?

Question

My parents abuse me- Emotional, and some physical (and maybe verbal- if yelling& cussing is considered as that) (*****PLEASE KNOW- MY PARENTS ARE ASIANS- THEY WERE BOTH BRON& RAISED IN KOREA*****) I've been raised this way all my life, but the abuse got harsher since 2 years ago. I was dealing OK with it, until, the abuse got harsher- he even tried to throw a flower-pot at me. I'm sick of it now- I feel like I'm NEVER gonna be good enough for them, and I just want to die, so I won't be hurt anymore. I want a different family- one who will love me as who I am-UNconditional love. But I can't turn them in, because I'm Asian, and I'm not a US Citizen here. My dad said that if I turn him in, I'll be sent off to Korea- with the rest of my family (and I KNOW he'll kill me if that happens) My wiah is to somehow stay in the US, with a different parents. WOuld that be possible? Or do I have to go back to Korea? And should I turn my parents in? WHat if they kill me? Please help- I'm NOT lying

I was orn in Korea- I know that sucks

I'm 13 yrs old, BTW

Answer 1

I was abused when I was a child. Abuse if not something to take lightly. Emotional abuse is much harder to prove that physical or sexual abuse. If I am reading what you said correctly, yourparents have not threatened to kill you. The only threat that they have made on you is that you will be sent back to Korea with your family, should you try to turn them in for abuse. I also believe that you said your father tried to throw a flower pot at you. If you are being abused and have physical evidence then you need to tell someone that can help you, as far as a teacher, nurse, counselor,, family memeber or friend. Anyone you feel you can trust is who you need to tell. I can assure you that if authorities are notified, they will investigate the situation. They are not going to send you to Korea because you are concerned about your well being. However you also need to keep in mind that there is nothing written in a law book that says a parent can not cuss at their children. Parents do it everyday, but that does not mean that it is right. But I can say that I have never heard of any state taking a child away from their parents because of language and words. Children usually get taken away for physical, sexual, drug abuse and neglect. If your life is being threatened, that is when the state will pull you out of your home. I think that you should talk to a school counselor and let them know that you are feeling unworthy at home. Let them know that you are getting negative attention at home. Let them know the way you feel and often they will be able to help you through your situation and your parents will never have knowledge that you said anything. I know from going through abuse when I was a child that it was not something that anyone should have to go through. I remember that what I looked forward to and what kept me going was knowing that I was going to take everything about my childhood and do the opposite. I was going to make sure that my child never felt neglected or unwanted. I knew that I was going to show nothing but love to my child, and that is exactly what I did. My son is now 15 years old, I have done exactly what I dreamed about when I was a child. I have broken the cycle. I tell you this because I hope you do what I did. Take the negative in your life and make it positive, and give yourself something to look forward to. Positivity will keep you going. You may feel that your parents dont believe in you, but that does not mean that you have to stop believing in yourself. I hope this helps you in your decision making. I hope that you understand I am not disbeliving you. I completely believe you feel you are being abused, however abuse has many different definitions; the sad thing is the state only recognizes a few of them.

I walked a mile in your shoes years ago. Take your experiences and know that you can make a difference. Know that you have the strength and knowledge to change the things that you dislike the most.

Answer 2

I know that it seems as if you are the only person in the world experiencing what you are experiencing but you are not!
I know that being the daughter of immigrants is not easy because you want to live the American way of life like all your friends but you seem to think that your parents are against you and are holding you back.
Here is a little insider about your parents point of view. They grew up in Korea where the values are different. They are raising you the same way they were brought up most probable because they don't know any other way. Even if they don't always show it, they do love you "unconditionally" and want the best for you. All this is also new for them so you have to try to go easy on them from time to time. You will see...if you give a little, you will get a little...

Answer 3

First, I am so sorry that you are going through this, no child should feel unloved by there parents. You said emotional and physical...which means verbal and the action of touching in some way...hitting or what have you. If you're in school, talk to your counselor that's what they are there for....if they send you to the store...tell the clerk, tell someone because your life is worth it. I don't know about sending you back or stay here but I do know you need some help, and you need to get help....hang in there

Answer 4

Did you know that if you were born in America, that you are automaticaly a United States citizen? If you don't mind going to a foster home, tell a teacher or a police officer. No one is going to send a kid to Korea, they don't have the interest or the budget.

They won't put you in a foster home if the abuse is just emotional (even though I know that can be terrible). If you can prove the physical abuse with a mark, that's your best chance.

Let us know how it goes.

Answer 5

O my gosh! u poor thing! I am so sorry!!!! But I won't give you pity I will give advice, I believe that you should take this cautiously, do research, see if this situation has ever occurred before ask around go to people you know that want you to be happy and ask them for help you should NOT be abused!!!!!!!!! emotional or physical! And don't kill yourself!! That would a very big mistake! I know you probably aren't religious, and if you are then you have a different religion, but go and find the mormons! they will help you I promise!!!!!!!

Answer 6

Well if you turn them in they won't have a chance of killing you. Go to the police and tell them everything, them knowing the conditions might have you stay there or they'd hook you up with a family. THe police knowing that they abuse you, wouldn't let you around them. Tell the police everything, about the threatning to kill and everything. You should not be treated this way, turn them in immediatly!!! Don't worry about getting killed, if you tell the police that they proabably wont let you get near your parents...i'll keep you in my prayers and thoughts

Answer 7

of course ull b safe. if u call child services, they take u right away and the parents cannot talk to you or see you. you'd probably live in a place with other kids for a while then move in with some new family. and all this time they have absolutly have to be away from u and if they try to see you thye can go to jail. so basically ur perfectly safe.

Answer 8

Call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at:
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

They can help give you some guidance.

Answer 9

All children have the right to protection especialy when their parents abuse them get some help fast as it sounds like it is getting worse. No parent has the right to abuse their child talk to some1 at your school and if you have left school then speak to your GP every thing is confidential they will help you. Good luck and please get help fast.

Answer 10

If you feel the abuse is getting to bad to handle, yes you need to turn your parents in. If you do turn them in be sure to tell about your death threat. When you turn them in they won't be able to see you and though you might get sent back to Korea you might be safer.