he's still in love with his xgf, but he recently found out that his xgf is getting married to someone else. but the thing is both of them have still feelings for each other i guess. i really love this guy but i don't know what to do anymore. but he has been showing signs that he is interested in me romantically... i don't know it seems like he likes me somehow but he really consufes me please advice...
should i just try to get over him? or wait till he gets over the girl then i come into his life? what should i do right now? be a good friend? or let loose of him totally?
2006-09-09 13:16:32 · 4 answers · asked by cutiefannick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she is getting married to someone else, what is the problem?
Many people have someone in their past that they will always have feelings for, don't you?
2006-09-09 13:19:50 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
They both sound dumb. If he really deserved you he would set his feelings aside for her and get to know you. Uuhhh... she's freakin getting married. How much more of a clue does he need. And I don't think he's romantically interested in you. Sounds more like he puts on a show for you just to get into your pants. He probably thinks about her when you're having sex too. You could be his friend with benefits but I don't think it's going to go any farther than that.
2006-09-09 20:29:57 · answer #2 · answered by what attitude? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU ALREADY KNOW THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION. IT'S YOUR CALL, BUT THINK ABOUT IT....
ARE YOU REALLY GOING TO SIT THERE AND WAIT FOR HIM TO DECIDE WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE?
DO YOU HAVE APPROVAL-SEEKING ISSUES? LOW SELF ESTEEM? DESPERATE?
IF NOT, THEN I CAN'T THINK OF ANY REASON TO ALLOW YOURSELF TO PUT UP WITH SOMEONE WHO IS SO CLEARLY EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE...
LET LOOSE OF HIM TOTALLY. HE STILL HAS UNFINISHED BUSINESS WITH HER AND HE IS CARRYING BAGGAGE THAT WILL CONTAMINATE ALL FUTURE REALTIONSHIPS. THAT SHOULD BE A HUGE RED FLAG FOR YOU. DON'T MAKE EXCUSES FOR HIM.
HE MIGHT BE SOMEWHAT INTERESTED IN YOU, BUT PROBABLY NOT. YOU JUST SERVE HIS EGO AND HIS NEED TO FEEL SAUGHT AFTER...
HE IS HUNG UP ON SOMEONE ELSE, AND JUST BECAUSE HE LIKES YOU, YOU DON'T OWE HIM ANYHING. GOING OUT WITH HIM WOULD BE LIKE TAKING HIS EX ALONG WITH, AND YOU DON'T WANT THAT. YOU CAN'T MAKE HIM LOVE YOU.
MOVE ON AND FIND A GUY WHO THINKS THAT YOU ARE #1, TREATS YOU LIKE HIS #1 CHOICE, AND INSPIRES YOU TO FEEL LIKE #1. FIND A GUY WHO YOU WILL WANT TO BRAG TO YOUR FRIENDS ABOUT BECAUSE HE IS SO GOOD TO YOU..... YOU DESERVE NO LESS.
WHEN YOU ARE REALLY IN LOVE WITH SOMEONE, YOU WON'T WONDER, WORRY, OR QUESTION HIS FEELINGS FOR YOU BECAUSE HIS BEHAVIOR WILL MATCH HOW HE SAYS HE FEELS.
WHEN SOMEONE IS IN LOVE WITH YOU, YOU WON'T BE TRYING TO FIGURE HIM OUT OR WHAT TO DO ABOUT HIM, ON YAHOO ANSWERS.
2006-09-09 20:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about how he really feels about u.. be frank and ask if he's jst using u as a replacement.. dnt enter a relationship if u knw the guy still loves his ex...
2006-09-09 20:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by hilary_aaron 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋