My boyfriend once said that God sent me 2 him 2 cure the loneliness he has in his heart. But being a highschooler, he began 2 do things that were nt Christian like. As for me, I asked him wether or nt these things were OK 2 do as a Christian (cuz I was new 2 Christinanity.) He said that as long as we are not cheating on each other than it is fine.
A few months later, a pastor came to his church and talked to him about highschool relashonships. After then, everything went downhill for us. He would get really frustrated easily and not talk to me. As this went on for 2 more months, I was crying everyday. So on the final day, he told me tht our whole relashonship wz lust & that highschool relashonships nvr work anyways. He was the 1 who started doing the lusty acts. But he makes it sound like im the one to blame.
Was this the right way to end our relashonship? I keep on asking God 4 the answers.
im hurt, embarassed, and confused.
Who is the one to blame in this situation?
please help
2006-09-09 12:57:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Here's your answer from God:
1. High school boys will say anything to get into your pants.
2. Anytime some says, "God told me," or "God Sent me," assume they're lying.
3. I can't believe you bought that pick up line "God sent you to me."
Stop trying to assign blame and educate yourself about birth control before you end up pregnant and single.
This may sound tough but it's better than any of the other crap advice I've seen posted on here.
2006-09-09 13:10:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this won't feel like it is any help to you now but I will say it anyway. Perhaps it will help you in a a few weeks or months.
What you are going through right now is something that nearly everyone goes through during their first few years dating. Our first love feels so strong and like it is meant to last forever. But the first love is hardly ever a lasting love. We all need to have some short relationships to end in pain before we become wise enough to recognize good relationships that really will last.
The part religion and "God" has to play in this is all irrelevant. You would quite possibly have had a similar short and painful relationship even if neither of you were Christian.
I hope this helps you to heal and gain some wisdom out of your pain.
2006-09-09 20:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jim L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first off i want to congradulate you on becoming a believer of Christ. that's so good and awesome for anyone. i don't even know you, but knowing your a christian is awesome. there aren't many out there these days!!! being a christian will result many new and wonderful things in your life, you'll love it!!!! it's the best thing in the world, trust me!!
second i'm so sorry for you. he was using and manipulating you and he didn't know a thing. that could have defintly resulted in you not understanding christinanity. i can't say who's to blame, it seems like him, but only God knows.
2006-09-09 20:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I'm going to be basic, and give you a bit of my life's story. It's similar to yours. I pray you learn from this. I'm 21, in college, and a Christian. I ave been standing for Christ like since the 6th grade. In high school, I dated, but I had a policy...no sex! If they couldn't respect it, they were not for me. Recently, I met a young man, he seemed to want to know about God...mislead me, being that I am young, I loved this boy. 24-7 confusion stayed in the middle of our realtionship, and it seemed that he would have it no other way...soon as the boy decided to be for real about God, in came Satan, ready to steal that joy...due to the recent acts of this guy, I had to let him go. Couldn't take it no more. His sins were wearing me out! Honey, don't cry. Be happy because God did give you the answer, he moved another devil out of your life. You came to Christ, and that boy only had a godly figure, but he wasn't a real Christian, because if he was, he wouldn't have acted this way towards you. You were just starting out...don't let a devil in sheeps clothing turn you from God. Be of good cheer. Don't hold on to sin, because it will destroy you. He wasn't the one for you, you maybe crying right now, and I know it hurts, I cry, but the most important thing is that you let go and keep standing. Repent for the lust, and do all you can to get back and to stay in God's good graces. He will deal with that boy, and when he do, that boy will be back to apologize to you. I know where you coming from. So it's ok to cry, but don't stay down too long, the devil prays on the weak. Be of good courage. Keep praying, God hears you...trust me, and in due time, his time. he will move for you.
2006-09-09 20:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by missinterlectual 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From your words it sounds like both of you had no true understanding of The True Christian Faith... it sounds like that young man is coming to understand more... you did not give details but you make it sound as though you were sexualy active...for ones of The Christian Faith that is, as they say, a no-no-(sin)... you need to get with some good women who are strong in the faith and experienced in counceling in these situations... If you are being made to feel as if you are to blame...you first need to evaluate your part in all of it...how much encouraging did you do... how much did you want... I am not saying you have all the blame...it sounds like both of you were equal in it...if he is clearly making you the scape-goat then he is not the fellow for you... and if he is gettting this from his counceling then you need to look elswhere for your counceling...you seem to say you are not of his church...so go to yours and seek councel on this. from women you can trust.
2006-09-09 20:08:14 · answer #5 · answered by IdahoMike 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one is to blame when a relationship is not meant to be. He did not take the best route for ending the relationship, but if it was over, it was over.
The answer is that there are lots more options out there to spend the rest of your life with. Lots more BETTER options.
2006-09-09 20:01:23 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its unfortunete, many of todays youth, especially guys have become "cafateria christians" this is to say they pick and choose which sin is acceptable and not. My quess is he decided to leave the fun sins out of the sin cattagory. And when he was reminded of it he blew a gasket because he knew hed have to be called to answer to them, and he was reminded he couldnt do them anymore.
As for who is responsble it is most definetly him consevered by the vice of lust, he did nothing to try and stop it, over powering him, and he fell from grace. It is his and only his fault.
2006-09-09 20:05:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
we make decisions all our life, some good, some bad. your ex boyfriend was uncool for dumping you that way, and even uncooler for telling you the things he did. You are better off without him, study your bible and learn for yourself or with the help of church elders what the right and wrong things are for a Christian relationship.
2006-09-09 20:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by SETFREEBYJESUS 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
by doing what he has done, his sins and behavior as such, he has come up with these words to try and justify himself and relieve himself of guilt. Its always easier to come up with excuses to justify sin then to face the fact that one has sinned. He wants to blame you, so as not to have to face his own shame and repent of it. If you feel convicted ask for forgiveness and move on. Don't allow him to cast his sins on you in an attempt to make himself feel better. You sound like you have an honest heart.......Follow it.
2006-09-09 20:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by nyker 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The boyfriend has a wrong idea of Christianity. and he is the only one to blame.
2006-09-09 20:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by I-o-d-tiger 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋