I want to dump this guy i just started dating, and since he never calls me, should i just dump him by eliminating him from my "relationship status" on facebook? Or is that too mean?
I know...weird question. For those who don't know, facebook is like a myspace for college students, except not as creepy
2006-09-09 12:56:50 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Delete him! He isn't making too much effort.
2006-09-09 13:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by Paula P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I dumped my very first girlfriend Amber because of something like that. Well it was more of a long distance relationship, we were friends when I was in NYC, and well she moved to Nevada. And well we were a couple a week or two before, she was really great, but super shy. So well I was cool with it, and in the beginning we'd talk a few times a week. But suddenly, she just started to stop talking to me less and less. And at one point, all together, except for once in a while, maybe once a week I get an e-mail or have her IM me quickly. Her parents didn't want her having a boyfriend, both of them were super abusive. I so badly wanted to beat the living **** out of her dad, he had a drinking problem and broke both her legs at one time.
But well back on topic, I was beginning to love her. And well I just can't be in a relationship with a girl that does everything in her power to avoid me, and only talk to me once in awhile. She wouldn't let me call her house, because of her dad. I e-mailed her everyday and then less and less. She signed on but blocked my screename, and all my friends told me that she was on. At first I wouldn't believe that she would do that to me. But I secretly IM her from one of her friend's account, she answered and thought I was her friend. I mean seriously a relationship needs alot communcation, that's how you learn more about each other, and your bond between a boyfriend and girlfriend really increases like that, and well sometimes decreases because of certain things. But well you get the point. So well honestly I'd say to dump him because well he can't just leave you hanging like that.
Honestly you need to do it at a slow pace though, that way you don't go crushing his heart too fast. I mean with Amber, I just slowly started to e-mail her less and less. Eventually I stopped saying I love her, and eventually miss her. And then it was just plain e-mails, nothing too long. And then one day when she was on, I told her we needed to talk and I broke it off with her, after explaining to her why I had to do it. She was really upset and I haven't heard from her since. I told her I would love to be friends, since she was such a great friend to before.
So well just see if you can work it out with this guy, and if you can't slowly try to give him the message by showing less and less interest. If he doesn't make an attempt to stop you, or seems to not care, then just tell him it's over and then find somebody else. There are millions of guys out there. Don't ever let one guy stop you from living.
2006-09-09 21:00:49 · answer #2 · answered by Khalil S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never calls = Not intrested or maybe he's too shy to call you, before you dump him ask him what's wrong why he's isn't calling you..
If he's not intrested anymore dump him before he dumps you, in a mean and awefull way hehehe just kidding, if he's not intrested no matter what way you dump him he will not be hurt.
2006-09-09 20:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Bassem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and explain to him how you feel first and listen to what he has to say. If the two of you cant seem to resolve your newly found dating problems then it's best not to hang on to the relationship so that you dont strain future ones.But still make sure he knows why you're doing it.
2006-09-09 20:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by xodusj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't wanna be with him and you dont like him anymore than tell him you're better off friends. don't delete him form your "facebook" but take off the relationship thing if you do break up.
if you're breaking up with him just because he doesnt call you isnt a good idea. why don't you call him? or see him in operson. maybe he's nervous. give him some more time.
2006-09-09 20:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont dump him because hes not as clingy as you want. wait a while and if he doesnt care for you, ditch him. but for now dont let go. i know my friends they went out but then they never talked or even said hi. they were ok in the beginning but they then found out it wasnt ment to be. ask him about his communication skills, he might just be shy and maybe nervous. dont be a jerk - wait a while THEN decide.
2006-09-09 20:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gonna feel bada bout it, tell him, or drop anote in his locker, if you think about it and then think that your relationship isnt at all going anywhere,( b/c a relationship have chemistry not just for saying that your dating,) just dump him.
2006-09-09 20:02:01 · answer #7 · answered by silvana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he never calls you is no reason to dump him. talk to him and communicate! that's very important. if you honestly don't like this guy, dump him because of deeper reasons. do it face to face like he deserves. don't do it on the internet! that's very mean.
2006-09-09 20:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him with a phone call.
2006-09-09 20:00:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should find out why he never calls you. I got mad at my friend once who never did that until I found out that they're phone wasn't working, and when it was, they had been on vacation. (They were in another country so cells didn't work)
2006-09-09 20:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by straight_a_blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personal first is best. The other option without addressing the issue to him first is very heartless and cold.
2006-09-09 19:59:16 · answer #11 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋