My husband and I live in FL. and we gained custody of my husband's 3 children from a previous marriage, due to the mother putting them around a man who was a potential danger to them. They have lived with us for well over a year now and my husband and I have a child together as well. My husband is in the military and he recently received orders for us to move to Japan. The mother can take us back to court now and try to regain custody of the children due to them move. The mother lives in GA. and only has visitation with them, my husband has full custody. Will the courts split up my family? They have lived with their half brother since he was 3 months old. Does this play a factor in the judge's decision for maybe not changing custody again back to her? Please do not respond, go to the JAG office on the base. The JAG office mainly just gives out information on Wills, etc. and we have been down that road already. Please help.
2006-09-09 12:47:43 · 5 answers · asked by Dylansmom 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
The move to Japan should be irrelevant, the Judge will decide what's best for the kids, but as far as your husband having full custody then he should be allowed to move them overseas. The military covers him in alot of ways to oversee parental rights, I wouldn't worry too much. Although it would not be a bad idea to check with attorney's around the area, there are some who offer initial consultations for free... It's not like he will be in Japan forever, all of you will return eventually. Check for Legal Advice though just to play it safe, And God's Speed to your Husband, I know what he goes through, been there and done it, with the military.. Good Luck / Semper Fi
2006-09-09 12:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by Devil Dog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The courts always try to keep children and their mothers together. If she has shown improvement in the court's eyes she may very well have custody returned to her. If you know of some tangible reason (not something from the past, something presently occurring) to show that she is a danger to her children by all means inform the court and show proof.
Your word is simply not good enough, nor is his. A report from a child psychologist, a current report from a failed drug test, photo evidence of illegal or immoral activity, these are the types of things you would want to show the court.
Being a mother, and knowing the importance of a mother's love, you should try working with her to help her become a better parent so her kids will have her around. Step parents are wonderful, but they never replace the love of a natural mother. Keep in mind all parents screw up. Even you.
2006-09-09 19:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I doubt ( but then I have been wrong on may cases) but normally if they have been with you for a long time and you have the custody and there was a reason for the other parent not to have custody you have a good case, but you need an attorney. ( also hope you get a very pro military judge)
2006-09-09 19:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is gonna be getting passports for them, you have to have a letter saying that the mother agrees with you taking them out of the country, I a military wife also just watched a friend of mine go through the same thing it was a long hard battle so you better get on it now! Good Luck!!!!!!!!
2006-09-09 21:21:41 · answer #4 · answered by stormy2u2001 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between screwing up... and actually putting the children in danger.
Get a good lawyer... it will be a long fight.
Welcome to Japan when you come! If you're to be stationed anywhere in Yokosuka, I highly suggest The Negishi housing area? It is a bit remote, yes, but it is a wonderful community... and you don't have to deal with the... ah... mischief... of the very young single sailors.
2006-09-09 20:23:55 · answer #5 · answered by MotherBear1975 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋