im scared of approaching women. im scared of being nude. i hate it if people get angry with me. im an adult. im not scared of things like bungee, its just people fears. u have any methods to beat social fears?
2006-09-09 12:46:05 · 6 answers · asked by july j 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Let's see now, I used to be like you and it's hard to think back now to how I changed. I think the first step was enlisting in the Air Force. I was forced to get over my nervousness of being nude etc. and had to learn not to let people's anger get to me. Then after the AF, I moved to NYC where I moved into a "comunity apt." where there was five of us sharing room in the apt. Again I was forced to face reality and my social fears. The best I can advise you to do, is face your fears head on - get out their and join a church, a club or organization in which you must cope with social problems and while it will be hard in the beginning, you will find that it will help you and you will learn how to cope. Sorry I can't help you anymore than this.
2006-09-09 12:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by Dale 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult? What do you consider adult? People 18 years old are adults, but not mature and not grown. Our brains are not fully developed until we are about 25 years old!!!
I get the idea you had a rough childhood! Are those 'fears' terrifying, or just intimidating? Most of us are not comfortable being nude with other people, and I am not comfortable approaching men, except in a friendly way. Then I am all out there! Maybe you are just being careful. Who knows? But you.
2006-09-09 19:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Positive reinforcement will help. Tell your self you can talk to anyone without fear. Keep repeating it and go ahead and talk to people. Tell yourself you have a right to your own opinions and other people don't have to agree with you. If they get angry that is their own problem not yours. Try this every day and it will help.
2006-09-09 19:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Della Mae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is getting to be my standard answer for questions like this. You are not alone in these feelings. Lots of people have them and many people have learned to deal with these feelings.
Try this web site for more info. WWW.RECOVERY-INC.ORG.
It helped me with similar problems and it can help you.
2006-09-09 20:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by chris B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either see a shrink or take a public speaking class.
2006-09-09 20:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by Maria18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there aint no reason to be dude, just go to some random girl and tell her you want to have sex.
2006-09-09 19:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋