What can I do to become a more positive person?

Answer 1

Surround yourself with positive people. When you catch yourself being negative put a positive spin on the situation and smile. when you smile you present yourself as positive person to others and they in turn will respond to you positively. With all that good energy floating around negativity will be a thing of the past. You have to choose to be happy and positive.

Answer 2

I'm not familiar with the circumstances behind your question, why you think you're not a positive person, so I'm just going to fire off some suggestions in the dark as it were.

One issue to consider is whether there's a physical or mental issue that's getting you down, that's causing either short-term or long-term depression. Our bodies are delicate biochemical machines, and sometimes seemingly minor things like blood sugar being out of whack can make one's mood grim. So: one thing to try might be going in for a checkup. Or, if you know there's an issue that's getting you down, go in for therapy.

Another thing to try, if you're not doing it already, is to up your level of exercise. For example, try going outside for a walk every day after work or on your lunch hour and see if this helps a bit.

Another thing to seriously consider is cognitive therapy. Cognitive therapy is about helping people modify their thought patterns, especially depressed or unhelpful ones. It's a very practical sort of therapy. If you're interested in learning more about it, one of the more popular books on the subject is The Feeling Good Handbook by David Burns.

Finally, when was the last time you did something nice for yourself? Are you dissatisfied with your life in general? Is there something you'd enjoy doing or trying, a class or a trip you'd like to take? A new job or a new career you'd like to try? If it isn't going to do anyone any harm and it isn't going to bankrupt your family, why not go do it?

Answer 3

Kitty L
Level 2

Positive affirmation helps. Put up positive pictures or people and things that make you feel good when you see them. Put them on the mirror or refrig. Associate with positive, happy people and avoid negative people.....(misery loves company.) Engage in pleasurable activities, whatever that means to you, write a list of your positive assets (get them from friends or family if you can't think of them) and post that on the mirror each day. Look in the mirror and recite them. Volunteer to work with the less fortunate that have more series problems than you do. Helping people will make you feel better, but not in a selfish way.
Explore your spiritual life. Good luck, Kitty

Answer 4

Our attitudes are influenced by what we read, what we watch on TV, the music we listen to, and the people we spend time with. If you watch read empowering books, watch uplifting movies, listen to inspiring music, and hang out with encouraging people, you will become a more positive person.

Also, develop an attitude of gratitude rather than entitlement. Focus on solution-based thinking. That is, rather than bemoaning the problems of this world (or your own personal problems), try to look for ways that you can be proactive and be part of a solution. Volunteer somewhere so you can make a greater difference.

A great book to read is Viktor Frankl's 1946 book "Man's Search for Meaning." He was able to look for positives even while living in the wort circumstances: "We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way." Good luck and God bless.

Answer 5

Understand that you are the only one you can control. You can't control anything else in the world. You can control how you react to the world. And that's it. That is the only thing you control. Do something that will make somebody elses day. Hold a door open for someone. Do little things and they will add up to a big thing. Try not to look at things that happen as always being bad. Try not to take life too seriously. You should laugh more, do things that you think are funny. Say words like weiner dog and underpants. Those are funny words. Just laugh more. It beats crying.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, I agree with Trip S. Although I don't think he needed to be so blunt. I had a relationship with a guy like you. That black cloud followed him everywhere, along with the chip on his shoulder. Its a way you think of yourself. Anyway, when you were born, there was an enormous hole in your heart that your Creator made. It can only be filled by Him. He gave you the resources (Jesus rising from the dead, Bible, church, etc), now what you do with them will determine how you live your life here, and especially where you will spend eternity. Now, talk about a need for positiveness!

Answer 7

Repeat after me.....YES!! Say "yes" to more things and go along with the flow, and see where it takes you. Being positive is a choice...Which do you choose to be?? New experiences will help you understand the differece between a positive and negative attitude. Choose to be positive. Party on!

Answer 8

just stay positive and try to make others more positive,or just hang around positive people ..

Answer 9

Definitely don't listen to at least some of the answers here.....they can be real put downs, which don't help.

Find something that brings a smile to your face and then do it every day. Believe that you can and you WILL.

Answer 10

if u are naturally a negetive person this is goin t o be a hard task because in all honesty it s hard to change urself and for u to do that you would be robbing urself of who u are and that sucks