I want to be ok, but how do I do it without sending the abuser to jail?
2006-09-09 12:31:21 · 11 answers · asked by maguathehearteater 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The same thing has happened to me. I was fortuneate enough to have insurance that paid for counseling. I went to counseling every week for over a year. I talked about how I felt about the abuse and the abuser. Towards the end I had to talk about the actual details of what happened, over and over. All this talking out loud, especially about the actual details of the abuse, brings you to acceptance of what happened. One thing to think about, you may later want to prosecute the abuser. So at least document the abuse. You have a time period to prosecute, too. After that time period has expired, you no longer have a case (this is true for most states - check out the law in your state). I pray for your healing... it is a tough, long road, but can be done.
2006-09-09 12:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by RKC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be thought of as "getting over it" but rather healing from it. You can't do that as long as you still have contact with the individual. If you are under 18 just don't say the individual's name or if you are aware of anyone else under the age who is being hurt. Then they have to report you. If you are over 18, you can tell all to a shrink and they can't do anything but listen and help. I'm in the same dilemma. I don't want to hurt him and am actually afraid of what could happen if i see him again. The best advice everyone has given me is to work on my own healing without being in contact with the purpetrator at all.
2006-09-09 13:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get it out in the open in a safe way. Confront the person, if you can (best if someone supportive is with you). If you can't confront the person face to face, do a Gestalt type therapy, where you roll play both parts of you and the abuser. Get out what you want to say to this person. TAKE BACK YOUR POWER! You have that right to reclaim your power. Again, it would be good to have a supportive person with you while you do this. You may feel like the abuser took part of your soul from you; that is the power I'm talking about. That power is yours and is always with you; you only need to reclaim it.
2006-09-09 12:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by danaluana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
those are circumstances wherein councelors ruin the confidentiality: a million. you're a risk to your self or others. 2. You seek for therapy to ward off detection or apprehension for against the regulation. 3. you have enabled all of us else to commit against the regulation. 4. Your therapist became into appointed by the court docket equipment to evaluate you. 5. Your touch with your therapist is for the purpose of determining sanity in a criminal proceeding. 6. Your touch is for the purpose of installation your competence. 7. The touch is one wherein your counselor or psychotherapist would desire to record a checklist to a public corporation. 8. The touch is one wherein your counselor or psychotherapist is to offer counsel to be recorded in a public place of work, if such checklist or checklist is open to public inspection. 9. you're under the age of 18 years previous, and are the sufferer of against the regulation. 10. you're a minor and your counselor or psychotherapist rather suspects you are the sufferer of tangible or sexual abuse. Your therapist would show counsel in case you are the sufferer of emotional abuse. 11. you're a guy or woman over the age of sixty 5 and your counselor or psychotherapist believes you are the sufferer of tangible or sexual abuse. Your therapist would show counsel in case you are the sufferer of emotional abuse. 12. You die and the communique is considerable to come back to a selection a controversy on the subject of a deed or conveyance, will or different writing performed by you affecting an interest in assets.
2016-12-12 05:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all only you know why you do not want this individual to pay for what they did to you. But no matter what you do need to seek counseling to get through your problems in order to go own with your life. But.. in the long run confronting the individual could have a great effect on you dealing with your situation and also they need to seek help for what they did.
2006-09-09 12:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might depend on who the abuser is. I know there is no excuse at all for such a thing, but in my situation I was abused for two years and I hated him for many years, but in my 40's I finally forgave him. To this day, I do feel better of myself. But, everyone is different.
2006-09-09 12:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by Terry B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what is best for you. Let the law take care of the abuser. Get counseling and remember you are not alone. Take care!
2006-09-09 12:38:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember it wasn't your fault. Carma will catch up to this person its not worth putting your self in more danger. But maybe if you helped others who have been abused it might help you to know your helping to conquer abuse in the world.
2006-09-09 13:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by Isabella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get some counselling for a start; see your doctor he/she may help or should be able to refer you to someone who can
if the abuse has been that bad- the perpetrator needs to be brought to justice so as to avoid them doing the same to someone else
2006-09-09 12:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by fairypelican 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never get over the abuse, but, counciling will help you deal with it.
2006-09-09 22:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by sweet luv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋