okay my dad is alcholic , arrogant, very selfish, and doesnt know what to do with his life . my mom is very close minded and seems like she wishes i was never born. my brothers(i have 3) are still kinda young but i always fight with them and they all always insulting me . my other reletives are (both sides from my mom and dad) are always talkin $hit bout each other and never are there for each other. im only 13 and it seems like my world is falling apart. i try to get along with my family but they arent open and wont let me help them .
2006-09-09 12:08:18 · 10 answers · asked by dlc 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You still have time to prepare yourself to fly away from it all when the time is ripe. Just prepare yourself. In order to keep yourself busy, away from home fights and doing something for your future, try to study and take constructive activities -as much as you can. Then you'll have little time to be at home seeing all what's happening there that makes you feel bad. It won't be possible for you to help them right now, you must prepare yourself because in the future they'll need your help and now it is the time to get ready for that.
Just don't hang around whith those guys that are up to no-good, they won't give you any help when you need it. Keep your cool and don't run away! you never know when your help at home is gonna be needed.
Cheers to you
2006-09-09 12:27:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your family is more open than you think ---- most times these are the most pliable(changable) people.
instead of fighting with everyone try being the most agreeable person in the whole world.
start by agreeing with any insults and give the little twerps a hug, that will really screw them up and soon the insults will stop.
try telling your mom and dad you love them -- no matter how hard it is for you to do so, and try helping your mom and dad in any way that you can -- no matter how hard it is.
ignore the other part of the family, they dont matter at this stage of your life
and last but not least go talk to your school counselor -- that is what they are there for -- tell them what you just wrote here, they might be able to suggest some kind of after school thing that you could do.
dont give up keep on striving to be the best you and soon you will be the golden child.
good luck!
2006-09-09 19:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by Forever Looking 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a life for urself by studying hard in school in order to give yourself every chance possible when it comes to scholarships etc... Don't follow their footsteps. It is not up to you to fix them. They are adults and make their own choices and will have to live with the consequences. Whenever they insult u just ignore it and find a safe place to do something positive like read or go outside and play. It is really the only choice you have honey. Thins will not go on forever. In a few short years you will be away from all of it and then u won't have to look back. Try going to find this site on your computer - http://www.al-anon.alateen.org Maybe you can find the answers you seek or an 800 number to call for some support. Good Luck sweetie and remember that your life has value and meaning.
2006-09-09 19:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your family isn't going to take advice from a 13 year old that thinks they know everything. (Trust me - I've been there - its just a side affect of being 13). Try to do the best you can and just go on with life. Everyone goes through this as a teenager - you just learn to cope with the fact that not everyone will meet your expectations.
2006-09-09 19:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is difficult to deal with at such a young age, but the fact that you notice these things and are trying to help shows that you're strong and not at all selfish. At times you have to learn to distance yourself from such problems, I know that they're family but the effect that their negativity can have on you will damage your self esteem. Try your best to reach out to your parents. Ignore your brothers, hopefully they will mature and treat you better. Talking folks will remain talking folks. Don't try to understand it, that's how people are and trust me no family is perfect. Pay attention to school and try to better yourself so that you don't end up like them. Do what makes you happy. Best of luck!
2006-09-09 19:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by BaBy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand what your going through. Except for my parents all the rest of my relatives are **** talkers. I understand totally becuase I felt like I should help solve their problems and have everyone to get along but you know what. With people like that dont even bother. Worry about your future, becuase obiously theirs is already too far down. Worry about your education and your futre wich are the things that will get you to a better place in life. If hey dont want help then help yourself, and about your brothers talk to them and tell them what is going on, maybe they feel like you and the way they treat you is a way for them to express their emotions.
2006-09-09 19:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by Maria E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have one hell of a family. I am sure there are more like yours, some may be more awful., you are thinking, is that possible. I am so sorry for you, just hang in there, maybe something will get better, if not, you will grow up, and then be able to make things better for yourself anyway.
2006-09-09 19:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by PEPPER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad but true, there's a lot of cases where parents need to be taught like in your case. With that kind of family, you need help far greater than the help of a friend or a neighbor. You need God's intervention. And to prove to you that God is able to change the things you can not change as much as you wanted to. All you need is to bend your knee in prayer and ask for GOD'S help. For with God nothing shall be impossible. lol
2006-09-09 19:34:06 · answer #8 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice is for you to bide your time until you turn 18. Once that happens, pack your bags, walk out the door, and don't look back.
2006-09-09 19:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by Merge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree bide your time. Be patient with them and try to live right. Maybe you can teach them by example
2006-09-09 19:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by leahb1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋