i've been dating this guy for two months and his job keeps him very busy he is a drill instructor so he works 24/7 and we don't get that much time together so where i work at we see alot of drill instructors and some of them are married but still flirt with the ladies in the store I work in so when i haven't heard from him in a week this lady was saying oh he's married that's why he hasn't called u he's a dog just like all the other drill instructors so all this time hearing this from her and not hearing from him made me get so frustrated that i left him so many voicemails and text meassages cussing him out and then later finding out that he didn't call me because his grandmother died and he went out of town i feel soo bad and i want to show him how sorry i am for jumping into conclusions because of what that lady said.....how can i stop this lady from bothering me? need advice please
2006-09-09 11:46:56 · 18 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to learn to trust him and yourself a little more. That comes with taking chances and as such, should be up front and honest with him from the beginning. You should always have a policy of being honest with each other and not pay to much attention to others who may not know the whole story, or only think they do. Often these people tend to thrive on other's problems and only are ensecure in their own realtionships. Go to him, apologize truthfully, and make a policy with each other NOT to jump to conclusions that will hurt either of you in the future. Lots of luck to both of you!!
2006-09-09 11:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by RULKN4ME 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First rule, don't listen to strangers.
Second, never jump into conclusions before speaking to your partner.
Okay, At fault here is you for being influenced by what the lady said, I hope she was not purposely trying to ruin your relationship. If she bothers you tell her nicely you do not appreciate her attitude towards so and so and you do not want to talk about things with her anymore. Just be polite. You see going off at your partner did not help.
Now about him, do not blame it on the lady, it's not her fault. Just let him know you are very sorry for jumping into conclusions and that you want to work things out with him. Promise it won't happen gain, and it shouldn't. And ask if he wants to keep the relationship. Don't feel too bad if he says NO. You just have to remember that words and actions can never be taken back. One more thing to consider is the time you have together, or you even sure this is what you want or need in a relationship? Hope things work out.
Oh yes, I forgot about the "not seeing each other much". Even when my boyfriend is out of the country on business travel and it costs $3 per minute, He calls me in the morning and at night. You might want to look into it, is he telling you the truth or does he care for you or not. He should've called to let u know about his grandmother or if you two aren't that close, still should've let you know there was an emergency.
2006-09-09 18:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by ladida 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to ask yourself this do you like this guy
and if so what someone else says shouldn't really bother you
unless you don't trust him but if the guy has not shown you any reason not to trust him you totally dissed him and i would be surprised if he talks to you again. Well enough of that most men love well you know sex get your grove on and give him a night he won't forget start with a nice romantic dinner at home were something very sexy and then turn the lights down low put on some barry white or some soulful jazz light the fireplace if you have one and let your fingers doing the walking and let him know that your body is his to unwrap and play hope this helps it comesa down to this us men the nice ones and the bad ones
we all love to be pampered and played with. Tell the lady that her
opinions can be kept to herself and that you don't care what she has to say be polite about it but tell her you have a good guy and
secondly she may just be jealous tell her to leave you alone stand up for yourself and your man.
Lastly find out if he is married to cover your *** I doubt you want his wife after you on a war path and if he is tell him to hit the road
he is cheating scum and you don't need that in your life if he is put yourself in his wifes position how would you feel if you were the one being cheated on? Come on you can find single guys all over you shoudn't be sharing one guy and allowing this adulterer
to continue. COVER YOUR BUTT FIND OUT IF HE IS MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-09 19:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to other people. Trust your own instincts. If what he says and does don't add up then maybe u should look into it to see if he's lying or not. If his grandmother died and he had to go out of town then he could've told u. Why wait until after?...If you don't feel like it's gonna work with him then save yourself the heartache and break up with him.
2006-09-09 18:55:01 · answer #4 · answered by BaBy K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the lady. Do you or can you trust your man or not? That is the real question that you need to answer for yourself.
2006-09-09 18:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by wittmasterjay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him the situation and that you acted very irrational..as for the lady ignore her. She's unhappy with her own life.
2006-09-09 18:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just pull him aside or ask him to join you for lunch and tell him genuinely that you are sorry. Look him in the eyes! Use H.O.N. - Honest, open and nice.
2006-09-09 18:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should do a public records search to see if he really is married.
2006-09-09 18:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by socalicd 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go and tell him what happened and say that your deeply sorry.
the truth is better then anything.
about the lady... tell her that she should stop
bothering you, or ignore her.
But first, go and tell the guy what happened and
understand him if he tells you how he's feeling with
the situation.
2006-09-09 18:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by cass 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go 4 it
2006-09-09 18:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Mudtime4me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋