Most highschool kids will do some underage partying/drinking. Would you rather them do it at home under your supervision, knowing that you may be responsible for mishaps of their friends, or would you rather turn a blind eye and let them do it away from home?
It's really easy to say that your child will not be partaking in these types of activities. It is also easy to say that you will teach them what is right and wrong as the age comes. Realistically, they will still AT LEAST try whatever it is that they do when the time comes. I think it's the most scary when you have a child that you taught well that is out 'trying' whatever it is that they are trying. Anyways, just wondering if there are any out there that are open to having your home open to your child and their friends instead of them heading out to a park, alley, or someone's house where the parents are gone. I'm also open to any other reasonable alternatives.
2006-09-09 11:42:59 · 17 answers · asked by JustJake 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My mom never lets us do any partying at her house. Which resulted in 1 kid leaving when 16, 1 teenage pregnancy, and one high school drop out. We did a lot of sneaking out and drinking everywhere else. My husbands parents let him party at their house and all 4 of their kids did better off as teenagers. They never had to sneak out and just drank at home. As for when my children get to be at that age I am still debating what to do. I don't want to condone that type of behavior but I don't want to let them do it away from my house either. I will probably let them party at our house, I would rather them do that than go out somewhere and get in trouble or hurt. My husband did turn out really good.
2006-09-09 11:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by Christinamk227 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My house was full of teenage boys almost every weekend for 8 years. BUT, no alcohol was allowed. Why did they keep coming? All were highly intelligient, had been raised to be honest and lawabiding and I made our house fun for them. Allowed them to take over our large kitchen table (10 boys could sit at it) for board games, magic card games, etc. Let them use 15 x 18 living room to network all their computers for gameplaying. I let them stay up all night with their games. Encouraged them in their learning pursuit of Medieval History and their involvement with the Society for Creatvie Anachronism. I took them to movies, museums, libraries, the ocean, the mountains, special events. No, I did not pay for everything. The boys would bring money and food with them. I even went to Washington DC as a chaperone for 8 of these boys and we had a great time. They had tried to give me a group of girls, but the boys all asked for me. (plus many 8th grade girls are into too much pop culture stuff so I didn't want them) Out of 100 students on this trip, my group and another were the only ones to choose to go to the Ford theater and the FBI building. (The girls all wanted to find a shopping mall - imagine that!)
Well, these boys are adults now and still not into drinking or drugs. The other thing I did was read newspaper articles to my children from time they started school - the accidents where drunk drivers caused someone to die - and we had many discussions. The same goes for the local evening news. Another help was that members of my children's father's family were always getting into trouble while drinking and some even died from liver cirrhosis. My children learned well.
2006-09-09 19:12:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let my kids but not other peoples' kids. My parents let my brother and I drink in our home. I"m nearly 21, been out on my own since I was 17, and I don't drink now. I think the worse thing you can do is say "My kids will never do that because I tell them not to." It's much better to teach responsibility than anything.
2006-09-09 19:01:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Better in your house. The key, right from an early age (and I mean like 6 years old), is to bring your children up in an environment where responsible drinking is the norm. Children should never be told that alcohol is "only for grown ups" or only for "big men".
That also means that, on occasions, the parents have to take soft drinks because "I don't fancy wine or beer today".
2006-09-09 19:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you allow underage kids to drink at your house you can end up going to jail. This was on the news a couple of years ago. The parents were upstairs and one of the teens left the house and they hit and killed someone and the parents of the kid that was having the party ended up in jail. It is not worth it. It is up to the parent's to warn against the dangers of underage drinking, not promoting it!
2006-09-09 18:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your child is taught right then they have no desire to experiment with things.
I never did, and I was allowed to do and go everywhere once i got my license. What type of message would it have sent me if my parents had told me that underaged drinking and bad, being a drunkard is unacceptable, drugs are not allowed in our lives.... unless you do it at home when supervised? Its a double standard.
I was taught to have pride in myself, and be be above my peers. I would be treated my age. If i wanted to act like a teenager, then i would be treated like one, i wouldnt have been trusted and wouldnt have had the freedoms i had. But i always was taught that if i wanted to be treated like an adult i'd have to act like one. Adults follow the rules. Thats what was expected of me by my parents, and i didnt except anything less from myself.
As far as drinking went, i asked my parents once what wine tasted like, and they said we'd have some with dinner some time. We did, i tasted it, it was okay, but i decided i didnt like it that much, and they made sure to explain to me that it was allowed at dinner with the family. BUt if i did it else where it would be my butt for drinking and driving because i was underaged.
it wasnt exciting enough for me to ever consider having any anywhere else.
I'd never let my kids party at home, i wouldnt let them party at all. its not a lifestyle we allow in this family. simple as that.
2006-09-09 18:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
your question reads..Do you let your teenage, high school kids party at your house ....answer...no..drinking under the age is against the law and you can be held liable for any damages.that sounds like a good reason..be a responsible parent..
2006-09-09 19:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want your children to have any respect for you at all, you should not allow them to "party" at your house. They will appreciate it later in life. You must sacrifice being a "cool parent" or they will walk all over you.
2006-09-09 19:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by robyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see no problem with letting them party at my house. My friend's daughter and friends graduated and she let them have a party at her house. She brought them some wine coolers( she had already spoken to the rest of the parents ), took everyones car keys and went next door to grandma's house and would occasionally drop by to check in on them. The daughter was thrilled, they had their fun in a safe environment, and the only damage was puke on her bed the next day! But all in all it was just fine!
2006-09-09 18:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by hawt2trawt 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
My mother in law would allow parties and sleep overs with my bf just so that he would stay home and not be out in the street.
2006-09-09 18:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by ME 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋