ok..im sixteen..me and my girlfriend have been together for around 7 months.I love with girl with everything in me. We have been through alot..and got in some trouble with our parents.Therefore i had to switch schools.We see each other a couple times a week but not for 2 long because i cant drive yet. In 3 months i will have my liscence and will be able to devote my life to her again, My delema is I care the world for her and i fear she doesnt love me back. Her mom hates my guts for some reason and she never sticks up for me or our relationship. I just want her to love me like i love her. She says she does and I guess if she didnt want to be with me she would of left already. We have not ties binding us. We almost had a kid but thats no longer an issue.But if she didnt want me all she had to do is say it. And i feel as if im becoming less and less in her life, she doing things with friends, and i feel like i anoy her when i call her but i just want to talk. Any way what do yew think?
2006-09-09 11:33:17 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What i feel is..if she loved me soo much that she almost made herself the mother of my child.. i knoe thats hard to say because im only 16 but i accepted my mistake...and i learned from it..but there had to be love if she would allowed what happened to happen..
2006-09-09 11:47:39 · update #1
With the pregnancy scare: We became stoopid and believed we could take on the world. Turned out we couldnt, I was on here a week ago asking people if they thought she was pregnant. Turned out she wasnt, but i learned my mistake..I live with it everyday. And her mom has no clue about that, only my parents knoe, Her mom hates me becuase when my parents found out i decided i was gonna move with my dad and get away and he lives 50 miles away from her. At the time i thought i would be best, because i was switching schools and i couldnt live with seeing her and knoing she lives right down the street, it would of tore me up inside, I didnt end up moving but her mom hates me becuase i thought about it. Oh and please mind the spelling and punctuation, im a 4.0 honor student, i just dont show it on the weekends.
2006-09-09 11:52:32 · update #2
At 54 I only had to read the first few words. 16 is too young to worry about "love". Love is more than a feeling, more than sex. Love is a commitment, staying with someone even when you don' like them. Love is a commitment to stay together fr a better life. Love is not a feeling after a few years.
2006-09-09 11:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey kid, sounds depressing a little. Well, sometimes people are afraid to tell the truth, like telling you that feelings have changed, or whatever it is. One thing for sure is she might not care as much as you do if cannot even stick up for you and your relationship together. They say you'll know if the relationship will work out or not if you are still togther after 2 years or so. You are young, you proabably hear it alot...but try to think further in your future. Do you plan to go to college, what career, your hobbies, and see if she fits in? Ask yourself what you love about her, what makes you want to spend the rest of your life with her? Relationships have to have compatibility to work out. And many do not because the first thing is attraction and looks before you discover your differences or similarities. So what I am saying is don't freak out if you discover she does not love you the same. You have many opportuinites to find true love and it WILL be worth it. Asking her over and over will not help, none of us will know the real answer. Only you and your girlfreind will know. You'll know from what you heart tells you, just stop and listen. Good luck and remember your future is what you should focus on, with or without a girlfriend.
2006-09-09 11:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by ladida 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sure she loves you but I am also sure her parents are concerned that you guys are way too serious for just being in high school. Doing things that can cause pregnancy is a big deal and a life changing thing. You have your whole life to be adults. enjoy a movie or video game for now. Talk when you can and on a rare occasion send her a note or Small token of your love. Do not overwhelm her as she probably gets an ear full from her parents and she does have to live under the same roof with them. If she were to defend you to her parents it may just make things worse and they would forbid you to see each other totally and you do not want that. Try to abstain form the hormonal pleasures and enjoy the fact that you are a couple and love each other enough to hang out when you can and respect her right to hang out with her friends when she wants as well. No girl likes to be smothered it only pushes her away. Good luck to the both of you.
2006-09-09 11:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by JENNLUPE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I am 18 and I remember when I was young like u... a long long time ago..
naw.. but for real... This is what I learned in my experience..
Once you love someone you will know if you guys love each other. It is hard to see that there are more girls out there because your in a state of mind where you think she is the only one and it will be the end of your life if you let her go but the REAL truth is there is someone out there that will love you and will make u happy(If it happens not to be her). But anyways I use to feel the same way with my girlfriend.. I use to feel as though she didn't love me and I use to get depressed. We also almost had a kid.. but that is no longer an issue. Our relationship grew stronger and is still growing until this day. The truth is she has changed alot.. she was afraid of loving me because she was afraid of getting hurt.. I don't know if that applies to you but just keep trying to be in her life.. make her happy by showing her how much you really do love her.. buy her flowers unexpectedly, kiss her and tell her you love her. In the end if that doesn't work than she is not the one for you.. and yes you will get hurt but think of it this way... YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE ELSE who will satisfy if you look for her.
2006-09-09 11:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by Krsna A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young man, I am talking to you, not at you., YOU ARE 16, THIS IS NOT THE LOVE YOU WILL HAVE AT 18-20, OR EVEN AT 23-5, BY YOUR WRITING OF YOUR LETTER, I SEE YOU NEED AN EDUCATION. Concentrate on spelling -English , school...ITS Your hormones talking at this point in time in your life..you have to step back and look at life's bigger picture..GO to college, learn what it takes to be a man, and some day love and support a family...your hormones are very strong right now..know that and act accordingly
2006-09-09 11:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by 65MPH-HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to her , because communication is the key of a relationship; and try to know how she's really feel. If she never sticks up 4 you that does not mean she doesn't care either you or the relationship maybe she's scared of her mother. Tell her how much you care about her and how much you love her . when you go to see her bring her a gift or a flower something that you know she'll like. when you talk with her on the phone tell her nice things such as "you miss her" "you love her" etc .and you'll see how she's going to react .good luck
2006-09-09 11:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by val88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The point is, you guys almost had a kid, of course her mother doesn't like you. She's trying to do waht hre mom is telling her so that the same thing won't happen again. She still loves you because you love her so much. Wait till you guys get a little older and then things will be settled.
2006-09-09 11:45:19 · answer #7 · answered by melomane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she might be getting borred with your relationship, but she is too scared to leave. I don't mean to make you feel bad but maybe you are coming on too strong for her. I think you should just talk to her about it and if she wants to leave , then let her. There are many other girls girls out there. Rejection is really hard, I know. But so is surviving love at 16(well I am pretty sure, I am only 15) Anyway, I don't know if there is really much you could do. But in my opinion, I would kill to have someone love me like that. The one I love has broken my heart too many times, but like I said, you just have to move on. If you need to talk, let me know. I am usually great for advise.
2006-09-09 11:39:37 · answer #8 · answered by malohalo_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is slowly growing away from u so ask her if she still wants to be with u. u have the rest of ur life to find some one so dont get sad if she says no.
2006-09-09 11:42:44 · answer #9 · answered by Hollisterbebe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** man... no wonder the mother hates your guts... did you say you "almost had a kid"? didn't you use protection??!!! no wonder she's ticked off... the mom had to pay for the abortion... that is really stupid... if it were me i'd lay off... and NOW. i think i'd just let ma cool off for a bit.... it would give her a reason to lay off and stop chomping at the bit... you dug your hole and if you can't get out of this relationship that's your problem... sorry man but no way in hell would i let my boyfriend near me if he got me pregnant or i wouldn't have sex with him if he didn't bring condoms along. good luck... you are going to need it...
2006-09-09 11:49:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋