he used to be daddies boy and after our split he took it really badly.
he recently left home for the first time and he would like to show his dad his new home.trouble is, they are both stubborn and neither will make the first move.i'm fed up of suggesting ways to start again and offering to take him to visit dad.i think it would do them both good to bury the hatchet once and for all. any good ideas out there on how they can resolve this silly and imature situation?
2006-09-09 11:25:02 · 19 answers · asked by jean t 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
like father like son, ey ??
2006-09-09 11:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by cassey s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell them both that life is too short for this to go on any longer..how would your ex husband feel if your son went out one day and had an accident ...how would your son feel if he found out his dad was terminally ill???? hope not but you never know what is round the corner and when it will happen,my husband had an argument (in a pub )with his ONLY brother over something stupid one night,the next day he had a phone call to say his brother had died and they never had time to make it up,lifes a ***** and of course you find yourself trying to be peacemaker as we women do.. why not get a few of you to go out for a meal, say for your birthday, and whoever turns up will not do an about turn out of the restaurant..just a suggestion and i hope you resolve this problem
2006-09-09 21:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by doreen c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can ask your son to contact his father as a favour to you. My man's teenage son has not spoken to him for a year after his ex told the boy lies about their finances. My man still contacts his son regularly and tells him he loves him but is either ignored or gets an obscene, abusive response. Tell both your ex and your son that time is precious - neither of them can know whether the chance to talk to each other may be gone forever.
2006-09-09 20:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try to be their mediator but unless these two decided on their own that they would like to work it out together as a family I don't think any outside help will work. If there is anything that needed to be changed, it will have at least to start between them. The best thing for you to do is to pray for them because the prayer of the righteous man avail much. For with God nothing shall be impossible.
2006-09-09 11:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be very helpful but if that was me i would just leave them alone, the more you try to sort out their tiffs the more they are both more likely to stand their ground. I assume you have told them both that life's too short etc and that god forbib if anything happened between any of them then the matter would be out of their hands and they could NEVER speak to each other again, hope this helps some-what.
2006-09-09 11:51:39 · answer #5 · answered by Nadine P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be if they went for a drink to break the ice then he could make his dad a meal for after, then he could show him his house. Or alternativly he could have a house warming then they are not alone so there would'nt be as much pressure and his dad could take someone with him. Good luck
2006-09-09 11:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fell out with my dad and went to move in with my mum then after about a year i met someone in Leeds. One day something was going round in my head, what if i never contact my dad say sorry even though its not me, what if i dont and something happens il regret it more than what i did with my nan when she passed away.
So one day even though it wasnt me i wrote him a letter saying sorry went to the house and posted it b4 i could post it he came to the door and offered me inside were like the best of friends and im so glad i was the bigger person.
We laugh at how silly we were.
goodluck hun xxx
2006-09-11 23:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow jean you are truly a special lady/ mom.
i have had to research these types of problems and i found an author that solved my problem. just give dad a book either buy or library, steve biddulph- manhood, raising boys. the secret to happy children. and leave the rest to hope.
2006-09-13 11:31:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he's old enough to live by himself, he's old enough to sort things out with his dad. If that doesn't help, suggest the three of you go for a meal out. emphasise the fact that you are all adults now, equals, and able to understand each other in a totally mature way.
2006-09-09 11:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by Oracle Of Delphi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell thm both how u feel and 2 stop bein so immature about it. Say hes urs dad (2ur son) and that is your bloody son (2the dad) and tell him 2 get a grip if he wants any kind of relationship with his son b4 he loses him forever.
2006-09-09 11:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by Lou 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the son is not accepting his mam's split up and maybe she has a new fellow in her life and the son cannot accept this situation.
2006-09-09 11:38:05 · answer #11 · answered by lovelylass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋