I lost a baby several months ago. Whis was completely devistating to me. Now my sister in law is preg. We are close and I love her very much! I went to see her last night and kept crying. I don't want to hurt her or rain on her parade. I am happy she will be a wonderful mother. How do I deal with my dissapointment and heart ache with out crying every time I see her.
2006-09-09 11:12:15 · 20 answers · asked by niaflower 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thank you all for your kindness
God bless
2006-09-09 11:25:44 · update #1
I think it's okay that you're crying.
I'm sorry for the loss of your baby. I wish I could cry with you. I feel sad.
If I were your sister in law, I would understand. Cry as much as you need, until you heal.
I will pray for your healing, and for all of you. May your baby play with the angels in joy and hope of seeing you on the other side. Amen.
2006-09-09 11:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Losing a baby must be a really hard and devastating thing. But you must realize that it happens to a lot of people. I think that it would be best to go and talk to someone about it. Crying is a very natural thing and you will stop when you are ready. But right now is the time to talk to someone... possibly your sister. Tell her how you are feeling. When you talk to someone, you are making it easier to get over something like that and you are able to let unwanted stress out. I know it's hard, but you just keep living your life and know that the baby is in a far better place where it is loved and waiting for you until you go there. God bless you and may the best come your way.
2006-09-09 19:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by xindependent_1989x 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of my best friends lost her 5 month old to sids a few years ago - and it was very sad and devistating to her - and I couldn't hardly stop crying myself - i hurt so bad for her. I feel sad for you too - it is a great loss to endure. I'm sure your sister must understand - your emotions are still raw and it hasn't been all that long ago.
When my friend lost her baby boy - we talked about him and she told me not to be afraid to bring him up and remember what a sweet boy he was. And we did cry many times over the years - but we remembered the good too. It is ok to remember your baby - even if you lost your baby before she/he was born - it is ok to grieve and keep the memory of your child alive. Someday you will see your child again in heaven and be together again.
You will someday have another child - and then you will have a baby to love again. You can love your sister's baby in the mean time... I'm sure she is your sister she will understand your pain is still fresh and you need time to heal. God bless.
2006-09-09 18:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being depressed about your short comings won't make what happened any better. It sounds like you really want to have another one. Work on that instead.
However, if you are just competing with your sister in law, throw that rig back in 1st gear and get out of the truck. You might have a problem. Don't do that. You probably need to spend more time with your husband than other people. Cut the immediate family out of it. This has ruined many, many, many, many, many, many, many, I need to say more, many, many, many relationships. In laws and relatives are not your family and you are not in competion with anyone. Church or relationship classes might be in order here. Love your family, not your parents, in-laws or siblings. Outside influences will tear up your home. Enough said.
2006-09-09 18:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by OhIdonno 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lost a baby,yes is really,indeed, a hard experience.But think in this: You do not need to cry anymore,because your baby is at the heaven,with God father,Jesus and with the Holy spirit.Your baby is living at the heaven, in a big and beautiful mansion;and angels are taking care of your baby.Your baby, is living good and healthy at the heaven.Your baby do not want to see you; crying or upset, not anymore.Why? because he is alive at the heaven,living with God and Jesus.I know is hard,because many years ago,we lost a baby too (my Lady,she lost the baby).Took time to recovered that hard moment,but now we have more kids and everything is right.We know, that the baby we lost (a boy),is at the heaven waiting to see us one day.Be happy,smile,it is not the end in your life.Go on,go forward in your life.your baby from the heaven, want to see you smiling,happy and alive.God bless you every day in your life.I will pray that God comfort you every single day, until you will be 100 % happy again.Good luck.
2006-09-09 18:31:10 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept my condolences. You deal with disappointment by doing your grieving and crying when you feel the need openly and as much as you need. You won't rain on her parade by crying when you see her although some may not approve. Those who don't approve are those who don't understand your grief.
2006-09-09 18:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by DelK 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are being very sensible with your sister, but You need counsilling, can you try again for a baby?. If you go to see some-one they would be able to understand you. Go to your GP and they will put you in contact with someone. You are being good to your sister, and maybe you can try again. Good Luck!
2006-09-09 18:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jeanette 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You'll be a mom someday. The sooner you are happier for her, the sooner you'll be in a good place to have one of your own.
Grieve for your child, and put all that love towards her and the new baby on the way. God has a way of noticing that... :)
2006-09-09 18:15:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Cry until you get it out of your system.Accept the fact that these kind of things happen for a reason and when your ready try again.
2006-09-09 18:15:29 · answer #9 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well I'm really sorry ur baby passed away and it's ok to cry but u also can get sick but im not sure how u can stop crying but don't worry you'll b a mom 1day
2006-09-09 18:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by jinxy_jv 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋