Nice guys always come second,how true ive been doing it all my life,some blokes batter and abuse and are never short of lovers,nice guys stay lonely why?
2006-09-09 11:03:07 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It goes back to cave man times. Men needed brawn not brains to fight off wild animals and bring home the dinner. Women wanted to mate with the biggest , strongest, most aggressive man around to ensure their off spring would be physically strong enough to survive. Unfortunately modern woman still looks for this big tough rough man, now we need someone who will help around the house, mind the kids and be gentle and caring, but we are slow to learn and still look upon a "good man" as a "weak man".!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-09 11:16:53 · answer #1 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No they don't...........Honest.
All the women that I know have searched and wished to meet a nice guy.The reason, I think, that we see so many women in relationships with 'bastards' is down to a few things.
First of all there was the chemestry......that wonderful feeling when she first met the man. He seemed like a nice guy, and was good, honest, dependable and loving. Then...he changes and becomes a bully, but the woman still loves him and hopes against hope that he will change back again to the man she met and fell in love with. He probably feels powerful because she is still with him.
Then for some women there may be children involved and, although it would be better for everyone if they split up, they stay together...again in the hope things will get better. It never does.
Some have had their confidence distroyed. Being told every so often, when he is in 'bastard' mode, that she is useless and not attractive any more and that no other man would want her. Being told, when he is in a good mood, that she is everything he ever wanted in the world and that she is a very beautiful woman. This is soul distroying and is enough to break anyone. She would find it hard to trust another man and would lack the confidence to leave him and go it alone.
It has been going on for generations. Many women married the men they fell in love with and gave up everything to have children and look after their man and the home. Years later he turns into a bully. By this time the world had passed her by and she is not qualified to compete in the workplace and is probably too old to retrain, or so she would have been told.So what is left to do. If she leaves she is leaving the house she made a home and would be unable to start again. Sad.
Nice guys deserve nice girls. Some girls are not so nice but there are lots of lovely girls wishing to meet someone just like you. You sound wonderful. Hope you meet your girl soon. Good luck.
2006-09-09 12:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by Learner 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's somethign about the way you present yourself. The first impression, things like that. One who is in practice. I guess its' also about confidence. If you think about it, Suppose you are a bastard, so you dont' care what an outcome will be . One way of the other its' all the same, you just do what you do, you are havin fun. You forget about what didnt' work out in no time at all because it doesn't matter, you just go somewhere else. Nice people for some reason care about the feedback, at least most of the time. I am not saying this is way I would like the world to be... You didnt' say what age you are, because this is quite important. If you are 18-20 something it's not really much of maturity for either men or women, and the expectations aren't big.
2006-09-09 12:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by shortnotsilly 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi alex, we women do prefer men to be bad boys, i know, i met my `bad boy` years ago and then married him, he was terrible then he really was, but he changed to a `nicer bad boy` when we married, we now have a great happy family, our own buisiness and things couldnt be better to to truthful. I have been married before, and like you say batter and bruied, i was just this, he was supposed to be the nice guy, but turned out not to be, just trust your innerself, remember, if you think a guy is no good, just get to know him like you would the `good guy`, and make your own mind up, Good luck, you will find the right man for you. XX
2006-09-09 11:14:25 · answer #4 · answered by paula25catt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice guys are no challenge. Women today want a guy that is a challenge - that she can break down and own. If the bad boy becomes nice then he will get dumped too. Nice guys watch out - that includes me too -
I see it all the time -
2006-09-09 11:13:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think that women can sometimes be deluded in there approuchs to men thinking that a bad guy is gonna change because of there natural calming influence on tham!.....another thought on the good guys is that they maybe are not challenging or exciting enough for a women!
2006-09-09 11:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by moshett2 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, true and NOT true, basically, the kind of man a woman wants tells you exactly the kind of woman she is and vice-versa. There are girls and there are women, lots of girls look for "boys" that can treat them well in bed and nowhere else, as it is for them, 'Sex is all that matters'. Putting it short, these days, most girls look for sex, flings e.t.c, while women look for love, tenderness, care, responsibility and above that, REAL MEN. One day you would come across one of these few women, just remain nice.
2006-09-09 13:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by Brains7733 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im on my boyfriends comp and although he is good to me i always used to pick the bad ones.my friends used to laugh at me as there could of been a room full of nice blokes and one bad and i would chose the bad one,my reason is i like a bit of a chase and good blokes dont do that and because they are to nice i ran.
2006-09-09 11:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by kylus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women Prefer bastards because they know where they are with a bastard. He will always treat them like ****, so no surprises there then. Simple as that.
2006-09-09 12:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by bigsmall 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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