I just want to thank you all for answering this question i asked earlier.?

Question

I have had so many replies which was all very good and true to the point. I just forgot to tel you coz i ran out of space. Is my mum wanted my 15 yr old girl laura, my eldest, and she got her by enticing her. I am 38 yrs old, all my children are very happy and do not want anything to do with this woman and i must name her Mrs Kath Johns of Leyland Road Penwortham Lancashire, as she is nothing but poison to myself, my children and my family. Given the chance this woman, would violate me in any way she could possible. I just want you all to knowI love my children all 4 of them very very much, like you would not believe, this woman has and is still trying to get my 3mchildren into her own care without any respect of my family at all. When i ring her, she says she hasnt got a daughter and puts the phone down, i am running out of space on this one, but there is more to tell, if you would care to listen and have my veiw, i would like your opinion please [e-mail] this cant go on

Answer 1

I'm glad to hear that Laura is back with you, and she now knows what her gran is like.
I know it may be hard, but I think you should just cut yourself off from your mother.
When she has grown up, or realises what she's lost, then she will have to make the first move, but on your conditions.
Good luck Paula, I hope things improve in the near future.

Answer 2

step one is you need to take a big step back, the hate you have inside you at the moment will only effect you and your family, she is no-where near you, so does not see the stress and hate you are feeling but your children do, so in that way she is winning.... forget the getting back at her, trust me that does NOT help in the long run and will only add flames to the fire so if it is poss remove her name and remind your self you are better then her, and that you will not stoop to her kind of level. Sit down with someone you trust and go through why and how things got to this stage, working out reason will ease the pain... when you have done this sit your kids down together and explain to them the whole story from front to back and let them know it has been eating you up, this will make a bond between your family stronger, for it will show you trust ur kids and will help them understand why thing are like they r!!! In your heart you know if your mother is worth fighting for and if the answer is no then shut the door and never look back... start a new chapter with the heading happy ever after and good luck

Answer 3

I have a 'mother' like this. In practical ways- I only ever write to her, (keeping a copy every time) never phone as she twists my meaning and puts her own spin on everything I say. She begged me, last time I saw her, to let her phone me 'once a week just so she could hear my voice' but I refused - don't want to go down that path again. She writes to me, poison letters sometimes with veiled threats that only someone close to her would understand, I keep them (for record) but only reply if I feel like it.
I don't visit her at home, never will.
I don't phone - she twists everything I say, forgets I ever did, lies about our mutual past and people that are dear to me.
I might write once in a while.
I 'treat her like a puppy' as the other reply suggested - rewarding behaviour I want repeated, and ignoring anything else.
She is too old and set in her ways, and has had her way too long to know any different. She is a control freak and always will be.
She may 'not have a daughter' - but I sure as blazes don't need a mother like her.
And neither do you.
There are other nice mothers out there, 'adopt' one.

Answer 4

I think there is a lot more to this story than you are telling us.Naming & shaming your Mother in a public forum like this is t
otally wrong.If you are capable of this,you are capable of anything
We have only heard your side of the story.

Answer 5

its hard to let go my mum nags me everytime i see her and tells me what to do with my kids ,things she never bothered with me.
I go go for weeks avoiding her but end up going to see her she is hot and cold but what you seem to have going on is worse than whati'm getting and its hard as she is your mum if she says again she has no daughter say fine i'll let you see what having no daughter is and as hard as it will be don't ring her and put phone down when she calls ignore her for a while or if she rings ask who it is if she says mum say i don't have a mum pay her back ring your brother to see how she is.
she is wanting attention and is being silly about your move was she a good mum before you moved?
she is probably missing you and is being silly u probably need to be silly back.

Answer 6

Sorry hun - but putting names and addresses of your family members is not on.

Answer 7

you are your children's mum. you know what is best for them. Keep you chin up. use your friends, they are the family you chose. sometimes our cards are dealt wrong and we end up with parents that struggle to bring us up. Be the best parent you can and your children should respect you for it!!!

Answer 8

Thats ok paula,glad to be of help,though it wasn't much good to you.It seems like you have your hands full there-best of:-)

Answer 9

Good

Answer 10

sounds like you have been in the wars, hope it gets better for you soon anyway