I have no idea how to go out about this. I have looked online, and really not found all that much. I see stuff about sequencing your ideas and such, but I don't know where to start, and I guess where to go from there and where to end. I'm just at a complete loss. This is my Mom's cousin, she was 43, had a few unhappy years, lost a lot in her life, and commited suicide a few days ago. Please don't reply on the morral values of suicide, not in the mood. I just need help thinking of something appropriate to represent this woman. A quote that I found was good is "Death is not the greatest loss in life, the greatest loss in what dies inside us while we live" ... I feel that is very true to fact for her. I don't want to go out this in a sad way though, the one to read this is my Mom, and she is working on it as I type. Just want to have more ideas for her. Thanks in advance :) ... Also... wasn't sure where to post this question, hope it was an appropriate area.
2006-09-09 10:58:10 · 10 answers · asked by Kass 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2006-09-09 11:04:36 · update #1
My prayers are with you as you face this difficult time.
I suggest the following sentiments.
Her life, though troubled these last few years, was filled with the many colorations common to us all: ups, downs, happiness, sadness, success, failure, smiles, and frowns. Today, I choose not to dwell on the things that led to the end of her life by choice. Instead, I would like to concentrate on the qualities she possessed that touched and uplifted all of us to some degree.
(LIST THOSE HERE):
-She had beautiful________ eyes that sparkled if only momentarily.
-_________ had a laugh that was purely infectious.
-She carried herself with quiet dignity even though she knew (in her soul) that her future was uncertain.
-When ___________walked into a room, she commanded the attention of everyone in it.
-She was a special woman, a member of my family, who exemplified both the seriousness and the shortness of life.
She mattered.
Her passing has shown me the urgency of letting our loved ones know everyday just how much we love them and just how much they matter to us.
2006-09-09 11:18:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
So sorry to hear of your loss. No loss is easy and one of that nature is especially difficult, I know, I've been there.
I've always felt that a eulogy should not just reflect the life of the deceased but also their personality. Try listing all of the things that your aunt loved in life: what was she passionate about, did she collect anything, what made her smile, laugh, cry, angry, etc.
Use that list to help you and your audience remember her life, not her death. You can't ignore her death, it's true, yet there is no need to dwell on such a dark ending. Better to remind everyone on the beauty that can be life and share in the grief that yyour aunt can no longer share in this beauty but that she did have it, once.
Hope that helps.
2006-09-09 11:05:26 · answer #2 · answered by MAQdragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I am very sorry for your loss.
Anyway, a reply to those who will moralize about suicide - I believe that people who committ suicide were very ill people, so they were not responsible for what they did. The persons who commit suicide do not go to hell, as some would have you think.
Regarding the eulogy, focus on the fact that this brave woman suffered a lot in her life, and thus "lived out her purgatory on Earth" and must be in heaven now, at peace.
Again, I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-09-09 12:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, the best way to remember someone is to remember the best of what they were while they were alive. Maybe she was a poet, or an artist. Maybe she was a special neighbor. Usually, suicide comes as a surprise to most people who really don't the person. I hope she has something worth remembering. If you fail to find a blank it's better to read a poem or some narrative to remember them by then to recall specifics about their life. Each of us has value, we just have to look beyond the surface.
2006-09-09 11:12:33 · answer #4 · answered by Sandelf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak from your heart, and only say good things about the deceased. Perhaps relate some pleasant times you shared together... perhaps some goals and achievements of the deceased. Focus on nothing but positive words and comments... you can't go wrong. I would avoid quotes by others... but I might quote the words of the deceased if I found them to be inspirational or especially insightful.
2006-09-09 15:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Mike S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about your audience. Everyone is already sad; they know and feel the loss without having to say anything. Try to keep it light and about her good qualities. Did you learn anything from knowing her? You'll want to keep it short and leave your audience with good feelings about her.
2006-09-09 11:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mac dragon is right...but you could also add the unawareness you all had about her recent battles with life in general... to the point of her taking her life....add somethings like spending more time with each other...telling each other you love them ..more than you do now. sharing more time,love,happiness with everyone in your life.
2006-09-09 21:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
http://www.memorialserviceplanning.com/examples_of_eulogies.htm
The above site has examples of eulogies
The site below has examples of readings, poems, verses and quote s that are used for funerals.
http://www.heavenlywhitedoves.net/funeral_poems.html
I wish you luck - I couldn't do what your doing I would cry all the way through it.
2006-09-09 11:10:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would use what Middlefinger listed.
Wow, that was Perfect !!!
Middlefinger has a gift for words!
2006-09-09 12:18:16 · answer #9 · answered by Moma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-09 11:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by Hunter Jumper 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋