Ive been dating a girl for a couple of months, and we were friends before that for close to five years. We have a lot of trust built up over that time, but in the past three weeks, shes admitted to me two things she lied about. I forgave her after i had her promise me that we wouldn't lie again. But, i think she's lying again. I don't have proof she is, but im fairly certain she is. I just want her to tell me the truth. How do i confront her without her getting upset? I know she will deny it at first and if i push it, im sure she will get angry with me. How do i get her to tell me the truth?
Any suggestions?
2006-09-09 10:55:59 · 18 answers · asked by srm4hvk29 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
say, i wanna ask you a question and i wont be mad or anything no matter what you say, i just wanna know the truth..then ask her the question nicely like that.
2006-09-09 10:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kendra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship full of lies isn't a relationship, it's a one-sided love affair.
You need a girl who will be honest with you, who will trust you, and herself, enough to always be truthful and upfront, this girl isn't it.
Respect yourself enough to find someone who can truly be with you, any good relationship's foundations are trust, honesty and respect, even a friendship can't survive without those three things, and it sounds like you don't have any of them with this girl.
You'd be far better off breaking it off and finding someone who deserves you, someone who will be honest and trustworthy.
Once a liar, always a liar, the only time a liar is ever truly sorry, is if they get caught, and the only thing they're sorry for, is getting caught, not for lying in the first place.
Time to walk away.
2006-09-09 11:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by Angeleyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love & Trust, the largest parts of any relationship. If you don't trust someone at least 95% it is hard to think or do anything else but wonder. Life is too short to put yourself through that much torcher. Either let youself get over the feeling or, if it won't go away even after having a conversation about it with her...Let her go. It will never feel right.
2006-09-09 11:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by atripplem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first suggestion is that you want something more than "I just want her to tell the truth." My guess is that you want her to tell you the truth and stop lying. Here's the deal. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior so it's quite likely that you'll continue to have the problem if you continue the relationship. Your desire to confront is understandable but there just doesn't seem to be much chance to not upset her. Tough choice.
2006-09-09 11:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to understand that "TRUTHS HURTS" by the truth itself and also to the person who deny the truths - the person who lie (deny) or the person who hears the lie. You should tell her that
- The best way to start a relationship is truth and honesty.
- You had a difficult time reconciling between what you know and what she tells you.
- That you like to hear it directly from her what the truth is.
Good luck.
2006-09-09 11:00:04 · answer #5 · answered by EagleDotCom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wont - once she has lied then the plate is cracked - damaged beyond repair. Just drift along gently to the next woman or no woman - you are better off as someone with no one than no one with someone. If you stay you will fry your mind loving her and having her let you down and cause you sleepless nights. If you really want to ' confront ' her then just bring it up calmly and make sure that you stay calms and she is the one that gets upset and mad.
2006-09-09 11:00:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
each Taurus has some style of persistence point and while it is composed of relationships they're very affected person. they do no longer prefer to hurry into something as an apprehension that they might get injury and that they won't be stable emotionally. Tauruses like me, are caught of their techniques, so one extra individual of their lives may be stressful for them to take up. Tauruses are moody and extremely sensual; we adore to touch, to comprehend you're there.....yet we are laid back. in some circumstances we retreat to have a thank you to de-stress ourselves. If he's in a lazy temper he will retreat. If he's in a loving temper, he would be loving. Its stressful for Tauruses to have faith with the aid of fact they do no longer prefer to waste time with somebody who does not have their perfect pastime. He makes comprehend fellows watching you with the aid of fact he's conscious while different adult men want you and he's possessive of the people and issues he loves. he's no longer a stalker, yet as quickly as you're his female, you're HIS female, and purely his, whether its purely in his suggestions. He needs to comprehend while you're dedicated as he plans to be if he could ever get with you. this is why he's being so observant. he's likewise questioning while you're a choosy female that demands various paintings to thrill....all of that throughout a nutshell is a common Taurus guy.
2016-11-07 00:08:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw the magic words, "I THINK" find out the truth and throw it in her face. It's not fair that you are hurting and she is not. You say that the two of you have built up trust in the past. Hmmmm that's not what your question implies.
2006-09-09 11:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by MAD MEL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use the 'sandwhich' method.Something like ; I love spending time with you,but it seems lately that a boundary has been broken.what can we do to fix it? Make a poitive statement, state the problem and follow up with a positive.Good luck.
2006-09-09 11:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if her personality is not telin the truth always and u dont like that, u got 2 options, deal with it or dump her
2006-09-09 10:58:57 · answer #10 · answered by coolpowwow80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋