he told me he cares about me and he thinks i'm putting barriers up because i am afraid of rejection. this is not the case. i just dont care about him. but he became SOOO abusive when i told him. now i feel a little bit afraid to move on. what's going on here?
2006-09-09 10:53:05 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he demanded money to cover the cost of things he has bought me and dates he has paid for
2006-09-09 10:58:00 · update #1
Get a restraining order and a rottweiler...
2006-09-09 10:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by William K 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow , well I think I know what you meant. I think it is not right but I know what state of mind he is in. Duh you must move on bc you are not into him but also it is wrong for him to ask for money from all the things he bought you. A important fact that you should have included should have been how long are you guys been going out?? Also the aggressiveness, if these are the 1 st signs GET OUT. I have been inthis situation b4 and I am telling you do not deal with it. JUST GET OUT OF IT. Thing then become more difficult and you are going to be come more dependent and attatched to him and it is going to be harder to leave. Do not be like me and mourn a relaitonship with a guy that has hit you and crave to be with him again. I know it is stupid but do not give him any money and tell him iti s over .
2006-09-09 18:03:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
10 poniter here lol just joking, ok heres what you Must do, chill a sec, then think of how the best way to break this thing off with him,i'de just tell him you care a'lot about your friendship with him, but your just not in the mood to try and have a relationship at the moment! do it around people though if hes become violent hun,
or maybe a Letter detail out why your just not for him, let me know how it goes
2006-09-09 18:00:11 · answer #3 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder you're not into him! What's going on is that he's trying to hang onto you and using anger and abuse to do it. Do you owe him any money? I mean, did you borrow from him? If you have, then pay it back and then leave him. If you haven't then just go. Be kind to him but you don't have to feel bad about not loving him.
2006-09-09 18:38:40 · answer #4 · answered by Belinda B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya.. what the hell does he demanded money off me mean? That is a little cofusing. And by the way, if you were my girlfriend and told me you were not really "into" me I would be pretty angry too,why not just break up with him?
2006-09-09 17:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by Entrepreneur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You said he was abusive, keep a diary and talk to a domestic violence specialist. You may need a restraining order.
2006-09-09 17:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him to get lost and get rid of him. if u dont really care for him, its not fair to have him be your boyfriend and raise all his hopes. break it off now and move on. if he gets real abusive, call the police.
2006-09-09 19:57:04 · answer #7 · answered by crophilia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put him out,change your phone number and the locks,call the police if he comes back,move on with your life.
2006-09-09 17:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is really insecure and why would he want money darlin you need to get rid of him and find somone who will respect you by not being abusive and doesnt take you for granted good luck
2006-09-09 18:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by avatardemon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry doll but your boyfriend feels he has spoilt you and sees you as someone he thought possitive about its best not to accept prezzies from a man unless you are really into him.
If....... you are in any way doubtful then give them back it will be worth not having trouble move on.
2006-09-09 19:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by paulawis589 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋