the wife left him for another man. he sounds very bitter about it. but he hasn't started divorce proceedings yet
2006-09-09 10:45:50 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you will be getting into a mess ,leave him alone.
2006-09-09 10:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by nanny2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends if you are believe in the Bible or not. If so- then no it is adultery. I think other religions have similar views on this issue. On a more practical note. Dating someone who is bitter isn't a good idea. Also, one would wonder why the wife left him for another man. Sounds like a negative thing all the way around. You can do better!!!
2006-09-09 10:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by VANESSMC99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's okay to date a married man because he is getting divorced isn't he? Although he is getting separated from his wife, then maybe you should leave him to get on with it and be a supportive friend. He may still be hung up on his wife so you should give him some space as he might not be ready for a relationship yet.
2006-09-09 10:50:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in this situation, I would be VERY careful about getting involved. Is he telling the truth (or is he the one that was caught screwing around)? Are you prepared to be put aside if his wife decides she wants to come back? Are you prepared to be put aside if he does get a divorce and then decides to play the field for a while? Once he is 'free' he will probably want to use that freedom a little.
That shouldn't restrain you from dating and getting to know him without having sex, but if he's all morose and still pining away for his ex, then you know you're only a 'pacifier' for him to sooth his hurt feelings. If all he wants is sex, then if you feel like helping him out of his depression, go ahead but don't expect him to be trusting for a while. If that's all OK with you, then by all means, go ahead.
It would be much better if he was in divorce proceedings-that would show that he's over her and wanting to move on, but it sounds like he's still in love and still hoping she'll come back (assuming that the story is true).
2006-09-09 10:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by VodkaTonic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be separated from my spouse whilst going by way of divorce. I dated at the same time separated. The difficulty I had (or should I say the trouble the ladies I dated had) used to be that divorce is tremendously destructive. I notion I was once emotionally stable. The fact was I was a large number. If you happen to date someone who is separated be all set to peer him emotionally wrecked and be all set to take care of a variety of baggage. It wasn't until my divorce used to be finalized and matters settled down (3 years later) that I was competent to be excellent dating material.
2016-08-09 13:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has not started paperwork..than don't do it. He is holding on to the wife for one reason or another. If he truely has come to grips already and accepted the divorce..he would of filed already.
All he is doing is protecting himself by not getting divorced as well so he will always have an excuse on why not to marry you.
He has issues. Let him figure them out on his own.
And also...sounds like he wants to be married..He is going to try to form you into the "wife" and if you can't fill her shoes like she did herself..then he will always be pissed off at you and take it out on you for what the wife did to him.
Men are stupid...watch out
2006-09-09 10:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, don't go there, you're only going to end up getting hurt.
If he hasn't started divorce proceedings he isn't sure of his intentions himself.
Do yourself a favor, and wait, if he's worth it and the real thing, when he's divorced, you can see each other.
In the meantime, stay out of this mess, it sounds ugly, and it's probably only going to get uglier, you don't want to be in the middle of that.
2006-09-09 10:48:58 · answer #7 · answered by Angeleyes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's best that you make sure that he's ready to separate, and wait until he sends in the divorce papers. If not, you won't know if he's really ready for a new relationship, and whether he might try to get back with his wife.
2006-09-09 10:48:27 · answer #8 · answered by huh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since he sounds very bitter about it then I would say to leave it and see what happens. there is a chance that if the wife changed her mind and decided to come back that he would. that is something that you do not need.
If it is meant to be then waiting for a few months will not hurt its better to be safe than sorry when you are dealing with situations like this.
2006-09-09 11:07:22 · answer #9 · answered by vexon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be separated from my spouse even as going via divorce. I dated even as separated. The hindrance I had (or will have to I say the hindrance the ladies I dated had) used to be that divorce is totally harmful. I THOUGHT I used to be emotionally steady. The fact used to be I used to be a multitude. If you date anybody who's separated be ready to peer him emotionally wrecked and be ready to manage plenty of luggage. It wasn't till my divorce used to be finalized and matters settled down (three years later) that I used to be in a position to be well courting fabric.
2016-08-21 07:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by darland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not till he is officially divorced because if she was to find out it can cause them problems through the divorce proceedings and there you would be caught in the middle.
2006-09-09 10:48:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋