he keeps reminding me what a nice guy he is and how much he cares about me. he said i might end up with someone who beats me if i finish with him. should i just carry on? the lad hasn't done anything wrong. i'm just not that "into" him
2006-09-09 10:43:37 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it would be more cruel tp string him along. good luck xx
2006-09-09 10:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by princess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For you to think about asking a question about it means you see an element of redemption in it. You've said it yourself he's a "nice guy", if you don't find him interesting anymore (as I believe you once did), it could just be that your relationship has ran out of passion. Don't be proud or shy to both talk about this, every relationship looses its steam after a while, but that's no reason to go changing old for new. However, if the issue a matter of gross differences (or indiferences), ADVICE: a broken relationship now is better that a broken marriage in future.
2006-09-09 21:16:57 · answer #2 · answered by Brains7733 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend is thinking of leaving me, I don't know why. It's been 4 years and she hasn't given me a valid excuse. I' m a nice guy, although I don't always tell the truth until 3 months later. I like to pretend that I go on weilding courses when really I go to Alcoholics meetins. What should I do?? But I'm not an alco, it was just a mistake (hic!) I had a hangover and I love her
2006-09-09 18:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by george m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be fair to stay with him. If the relationship is not going anywhere it's best that you go your own way, you are wasting your life on him just because he's a nice guy. No offence but he sounds a bit arrogant to me, why else would he feel the need to remind you how nice he is?
2006-09-09 17:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by stumpymosha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This type of thinking will bite you in leg one day. its true, girls are more attracted to bad boys. but those are the same people who will destroy you, use you and give you a lot of pain and heart ache. I would recommend you to leave the societal programming the media, music, friends had programming you to become. Instead, mentally block out what you may find to be attractive and look at things under a new light. look at your nice guy and ask yourself, what are some great characteristics about him that you can fall in love with. And focus 100% of your attention on noticing them.
I have been a bad boy and a nice guy. The best guys on earth are not either one. They are nice guys who knows how to be bad. Which is what I am learning to balance in myself. I can keep myself intersting, convey that i'm an alpha male, a leader, a MAN. but again, I would never hurt her. Again.. guys like me are rare.
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2006-09-09 17:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by Guy w/ Answers 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So manipulative but still a "nice" guy? Not to mention that love, attraction , all that fun stuff that makes a relationship work really needs to be going on both ways. Don't let him make you feel that you need to settle ...there are plenty of nice guys out there who you can be into and yet treat you well. It certainly doesn't have to be one or the other.
2006-09-09 17:50:29 · answer #6 · answered by Carolyn G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u are not into him then the only fair thing to do is to let him go and move on. it doesnt matter how much he cares for u, if u dont feel the same way, it just isnt going to work. break it off now, sure he will be upset but he will get over it, the sooner u end it the better for both of u.
2006-09-09 20:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by crophilia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot imagine a future with him then there is no future for you with this guy. It sounds like he has low self esteem if he has to keep reminding you how nice he is. This doesn't mean you'll end up with some-one who'll beat you up... That's just ridiculous. Be careful, he sounds like a nutter
2006-09-09 20:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by carl_marriott 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow id he is saying that u might end up with some one that beats u then he isnt nice, he is abusive trying to make you feel like you need him. You should dump him if you don't like him, there are tons of better guys out there , dont feel like you need to date this guy cause he seems nice
2006-09-09 17:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could talk to HIM He is unknowingly pushing you away.
its the cat and mouse chase. As sick as it is we want a challenge.
..he is not giving you one and he is trying to plea his case, if he would back off and make you worry ...you would most likely be into him ....BUT I'm not talking to him am I ??
so I think you need to be smart and weight out the positives and negatives and think is it because hes so available that I'm not that into him or does he really not match my needs?
ON A SIDE NOTE Women are not in to BAD BOYS that is a misconception, we just need the challenge like men need a challenge too...think about it on the mans side who is he going to follow up with a girl he banged on the first night or who who has given him a challenge NO ONE WANTS TO BE ABUSED OR TREATED BADLY.
2006-09-09 18:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by seniorcaredallas@yahoo.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey he is trying to make u inseure so u will stay with him. they whole point of dating is to find that special some one. if it isnt him then move on. and the fact that he make u insecure abt ur future just says that he can manipulate u any time
2006-09-09 17:50:15 · answer #11 · answered by in ur face 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋