She's against mixing of the colors. I'm from a strict african/hispanic household so the tension is gonna run high. Someone please something smart! I love him and i love my mother but i'm scared of losing one over the other.
2006-09-09 10:36:37 · 15 answers · asked by hunnybee032001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
did i mention i'm nineteen and still a virgin?
2006-09-09 10:42:20 · update #1
If you waited 19 years and you have not had sex yet then don't.
If you love him and he loves you, both of you can wait. Let the relationship grow, Get married, I know your mother does not like mixing of colors, oh well, she will just have to get over that one won't she. I am a white male father of 5 children, my oldest daughter called me and said dad I am in love and going to have another baby. I said that is wonderful, then she told me that the babies father was black. I asked if they loved one another and does he treat you right, she answered yes to both. All I could say is that I am happy for you and I just want you to be happy. I don't care if my children want to marry a red, green, yellow, black, blue or an orange person, the main question is ARE YOU HAPPY.
That is what I am going to ask you, Are you Happy? If so, then tell your mother about your boyfriend, tell her you are still a virgin and that you are going to stay pure till you are married. Your mom will not disown you, your mom loves you and I bet she wants you to be happy too. God bless.
2006-09-09 11:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by morris 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, let's just think about this for a minute. Your mom is concerned about you, and she loves you.
The guy says he loves you but he wants to have sex.
Has he mentioned anything about marriage? Or long term relationships? Or children? Or does he just want sex?
If you're from a strict african/hispanic household, you've already got a mixed background. Hispanics don't come from Africa. Africans don't come from Spain or Mexico. So that argument won't wash.
Probably your mom is more concerned that the guy just wants sex -- and chances are she's right. If you aren't old enough to be out on your own and looking after yourself, you better listen to your momma.
And even if you are, think about what she's saying, and think about what I'm saying.
2006-09-09 17:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like your mother is a racist. However, when a racist has that kind of power over you, it might not be a good idea to go against their wishes, at least for the time being. If you're younger than about 18, your best course of action would probably be to inform your boyfriend that you're really sorry but you can't have sex with him just now because it would ruin your own life. If he's actually faithful, he shouldn't leave you, but if he does then of course that's his choice.
2006-09-09 17:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the age of eighteen you are legally an adult and over the age of consent. My boyfriend of two years is black and the older members of my family who came over on a boat from Italy weren't too fond of the idea, since they're oldskool.. but they eventually got over it. I never had a problem with my parents but I did have a talk with my Grandma. I suggest you sit down and have a calm talk with your mother, explain to her that you love this man and you truly want to be with him. Tell her that times have changed (I'm assuming she's moderately young because you're nineteen, I'm eighteen) and if she loves you she would want you to be happy regardless. Tell her that he is a human just like you and her and your relationship is genuine.. and that you really want her to give him a chance. If you can't sit down and talk with her, write her a letter. Hope it works out for you.
(I hope this guy is worth your troubles and that he honestly loves you! If not, drop him cause it's not even worth the drama with your mama.)
2006-09-09 17:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
color "shouldn't" matter in a relationship, but it does to parents sometimes. Your question though, sounds as if you are pretty young. My advice would be to hold off on the sex and let your parents get to know your boyfriend.
2006-09-09 17:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by VodkaTonic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should be married before you have sex. you are to young. it seems your mother is a racist. that is why you should wait until you are married and you mother will not have a say in the matter.
2006-09-09 17:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound old enough to have sex if you are worried about your mother's reaction. Wait.
2006-09-09 17:38:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
wow, thats a hard one. i had a black girlfriend and her parents were totaly cool with it, although we were to young to be doin that (15ish) i dont know honestly, do what you think you should. if you love the guy and want to make love to him, do it. if your just horny i wouldnt risk your relasionship with your mom for that.
gd luck baby.
2006-09-09 17:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by tom1122bb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you live at home, Mom's the word.
2006-09-09 17:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by SPLATT 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
should wait for a while.
but if you do want sex use everything to protect yourself from sexual diseases
2006-09-11 04:49:29 · answer #10 · answered by jwtaz1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋