I usually have great advice and know what to say when things like this happen, but: My daughter concieved, she is very uphappy about it. She is 3 months in and found out its all-girl triplets. She wasn't even wanting to get pregnant yet. She is 22 and was planning on having a kid at 29 or 30. She was totally not expecting this and is very mad at herself, and her husband. Everytime we have dinner together it's always mad, mad, mad. At her husband, my husband, and me. She is always angry it seems and everytime we talk she is always just so depressed.
What can I do?
We are totally against abortion!
2006-09-09 10:25:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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ALTERNATIVES TO ABORTION
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http://www.lutheransforlife.org
http://www.jesus-is-lord.com/abortion.htm
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HELP WITH MENTAL PROBLEMS
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National Institute of Mental Health 1-888-ANXIETY Mental Health Resources and Information
SUICIDE PREVENTION
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2006-09-10 13:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by The Notorious Doctor Zoom Zoom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes hormones actually make a woman mad instead of the crying and things like that. Some of my pregnancies were actually like this. I would love to have girls, especially triplets. This will be a blessing in the end. She probably is upset about the plans that she had wanted to accomplish before a baby. Just try to help her figure out what it is. They might even put her on an anti depressant while she is pregnant.
2006-09-09 17:36:42 · answer #2 · answered by rutchy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good because abortion is not an option. I think a lot of woman who have game plans for their lives may get upset to find they are pregnant. Plus your daughter is going to have three. Talk to your daughter, tell her that it is a blessing from God and she should be happy about this. No reason to blame anyone, not even herself. I know having kids is hard, I raised 3 and they are all adults now, but it is also a wonderful experience to raise children. She has to get over this anger and I believe she will as time goes one and she starts to feel them move and she will fall in love with them. There is not doubt in my mind that before she gives birth she will change her feelings. All I can say is be there for her and her husband and don't take her feeling to heart.
2006-09-09 18:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi try to get her to go to the doctors and see if he can help her, if she is that misrable then there is not a lot you can do, because one thing she didnt want to get pregnant but you have to think of the consiquences. She will just have to deal with it, She shouldnt be mad as anyone, it happens and she maybe should of thought more about contraception. But these things sometimes dont work and this is what you get. It happend now for a reason. Just be there for her and bite your tongue when she snapps, or explain to her its out of order what she is doing, people do anything to have a baby and having 3 she is lucky even though she thinks she isnt. At the end of the the babys have you and your husband and you daughthers husband to look after them. its not easy for any of you to deal with it. You want her to have the baby, she may want an abortion, but the rest of the family will feel hurt then and she will have to live with herself and everybody being angry with her.. I agree you shouldnt agree to abortion. but this is what happend if you are not careful she needs to except it and be happy. Take her to the doctors and see what is what.She must have to go back sometime.
2006-09-09 17:42:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be hormones making her miserable. Plus the thought of getting huge with triplets. She didn't even want one, now she is getting three. So just let her be mad, mad , mad. Why do you feel like you can do something about it. Just try to be patient with her, and not fight back when she is acting hateful. Hopefully as the babies grow inside of her she will chill out a little. It is a lot to be told you are having triplets! Help her out by helping her get ready for the babies. Taking her to her appointments. They will be twice a week in the later months. Just pamper her a bit. She will get over it. She has no choice. If worse comes to worse she will be miserable the whole pregnancy. She wouldn't be the first.
2006-09-09 17:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel☺ 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, I can appreciate she is depressed - could be hormones - but I would say dont leave it too late.
I was the 'sensible' girl - was always careful, went on the Pill when married at 21 - wait till Im older kind of thing - when divorced, was careful - condoms - etc...... turned 30, met the man of my dreams, who it turns out, has had a vasectomy, and there, my hopes of children are completely dashed. He already has 3 and wont have more.
I would say, this could turn out to be a blessing for her although she doesnt realise it yet. She is young enough to grown with her girls, and once they are older, like teens, she and her hubby are still young enough to have lives of their own.
All you can do is be there to support her, and listen to her despair. Remain positive, and try to bear in mind these things are meant. You are all so lucky. I grieve for my lack of children every single day.
2006-09-09 17:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by firefightersbabe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am against abortion also. it is murder. if she did not want to pregnant she should of been careful. now it is to late. she will get over it. I am sorry that my husband and I waited until I was married eight years and I was 29 when I had my first baby. my mom in law kept saying you are to young, so we waited. afterwards we said we should of not waited because you grow with the children
2006-09-09 17:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
oh i'm sorry about that....really.
i think you can do nothing, if u are against abortion. try to cheer her up, she will be a mom later, tell her how happy u r when you had her. pregnant moms with angry mood needs to calm down, otherwise it will influence the kids' health. It's nice to be a mom right? well she's got the responsibility earlier than she expected.
2006-09-09 17:36:30 · answer #8 · answered by ☆LiAn☆ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pray for her.these are her first babies it's not easy for here.she need strong support.and understanding.she want be like that all 9 month's she needs time to adjust.just pray for her and be their.also remember how it was for you when you had your first.encourage her let her know we have know control of when the babies are to come.everything happens fro a reason.babies are a blessing their are people out their that try hard to have babies and can't so be bless and pray for her
2006-09-09 17:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by nicole o 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
adoption is always an option.
there are many families who want children, and can afford them!!
2006-09-09 17:28:38 · answer #10 · answered by silver butterfly 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋