I love her so much but I feel so bad about the way I may have treated her over the years.
2006-09-09 10:24:19 · 16 answers · asked by Pepper 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
People are just people. Sometimes we annoy each other, but if you love her, she surely knows that, even if she doesn't agree with everything you have said or done.
It's hard to comfort someone who is dying. Basically, what you can do is support her in whatever helps her. If it's prayer, then that's your cue to pray with her, or for her. If it's something else, then that's what you should do.
Perhaps, as she knows she is dying, you could talk with her about what she would like you to do in her memory. Set up a scholarship fund? Raise money for research into whatever is leading to her death? Or is there something that she has been interested in over the years that would be meaningful for her? That sounds morbid, but it isn't. It is something that will make her feel that something good will come from her death. My daughter and her husband did that, shortly before his death, and it was a comfort to both of them.
Just be there with her, and let her know you love her.
I wish I could send you a hug, because you sound like you need it.
2006-09-09 10:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by old lady 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We are all human beings, and we all do things that we regret in the past. It's a part of life and imagine if u didn't learn from ur mistakes. You wouldnt be seeking the help u need now. Now u are able to realize ur negative actions. It's all a part of growing up and maturing. Show her that u love her soo much, and be there for her when no one else is. Remember, once apon a time your mother prolly treated her mother the same way. This probably happened so that ur mother could be reassured that her child luvz her. You should spend time with her and have FUN! even though she's dying...dont wait closer to her death. have a blast and show her a good time. and tell her how sorry u r.
2006-09-09 17:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by riley715 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work in a funeral home and I see people like this almost everyday. Be there for her, if your relationship was not the best, talk with her, tell her how you feel, tell her you are sorry for the way you treated her. She is your mother, she loves you as you love her, tell her. Enjoy the days, months or years that you have left with her. You might not be able to make up for all those years but you will be able to share a better life with her now. God bless.
2006-09-09 18:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by morris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing don't walk around like she passed away already. As long as she is hear treat her pretty much the same. You want the time she has left to be good. The last thing she needs is for people to walk around in a daze. Make the time she has special talk to her about all the things you might have wanted to say but never did. She would feel good about it and you will to. You just remember a true love never dies, It just exist in a quieter place. I'm very for what your going through just try and be strong for her.
2006-09-09 17:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by robert d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, just make sure she know how truly and deeply sorry you are and that she is one of the biggest parts of your life, for with out her, you would not even be here to ask this question.
I feel it is never to late to let someone know (if they are living) but just remember actions are stronger than words show do the little things that help people know you love and care for them, just make her smile and tell her she is a wonderful person, be there, and pray I am so sorry to hear she id passing, I hope you and ur family will be alright, your in my prayers, Jalea
2006-09-09 17:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by LuckyCharm17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just apologize for what you did right now. And i dont think there is any way that you can comfort a person who is dying. But just let her know that you are there for her.
2006-09-09 17:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are human we get angry at each other especially with those that love us. Who else will put up with us and forgive us but family :-) The love that you feel for her and your sadness in your heart with that alone says to me very clearly that you love her very much I am sure she will forgive you for things that you did so ask her for her forgiveness. Tell her that you love her spend as much time with her now till the end and realize that life is only one realm we will all meet again on the other side. I pray for time for her and for you. Savour your time with her.
2006-09-09 17:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I believe in miracles but one way you can comfort her is tell her each and every day how much you love her and just be really really nice to her spend as much time as you can with her.
2006-09-09 17:26:48 · answer #8 · answered by ♥MG789♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your mom, I lost my mom back in 1993 to cancer and I also felt bad about the way I treated her. I wrote her a note and read it to her on her death bad. and of course I was in tears. It is not to late to make it up to her. hold her hand. tell her how much she really meant to you and how bad you feel about the way you acted when you were younger trust me she will understand.
2006-09-09 17:30:16 · answer #9 · answered by Robert G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best gift you can give your mother is a Holy Bible. If she doesn't know Jesus as her Savior, that is priority. A lot of people don't believe in Jesus but he has changed my life and made it beautiful. He can do the same for everyone if you only ask.
2006-09-09 17:36:33 · answer #10 · answered by Harley Moma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋