what if u r so sorry for the way u treat your kids is killing u and your so called perfect husband who thinks he does no wrong claims u r a horrible parent and a horrible person all the time, no matter what u do - is just leaving the kids with him and running away better or killing yourself??
2006-09-09 10:16:36 · 37 answers · asked by sbarne8 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Killing yourself probably isn't best for your kids. . . you do need to do something, though.
2006-09-09 10:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, killing youself is only being selfish. Sounds like you need to get help for yourself and your family. Ask your husband for help, help you be better. Maybe that means taking more time for youself. Getting a massage, pedicure, hanging out with girlfriends or maybe just shopping by yourself. Every mom needs time to herself to be a good mom. You can not make your life all about the kids. Go away for a few days by yourself and read some good books on parenting, really look at yourself to see what needs to change in you and maybe your household. Don't give up on yourself, and have your husband start supporting you and stop putting you down. Tell him this is when you really need him to step up to the plate and be your partner!
2006-09-09 12:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like an ***. Don't punish yourself or your kids. That's what you'd be doing by killing yourself. Your kids didn't do anything wrong, right? Leave the jerk. And if you believe, if you really believe that you don't treat your kids well, can you get a divorce and give the kids to him? It's a lot better than the other option and lets you go on with your life. I wish you the best.
2006-09-09 10:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Iknowsomestuff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Killing yourself is probably one of the cruelest forms of emotional abuse that exists. You cannot be so terrible as to deserve death penalty,unless you are sexually abusing your children or mutilating them in some way. If you, yourself, feel you are mistresting your children in someway, call one of the parent hotlines available in most places, or talk to your pastor or rabbi, or go to parenting classes or counseling. There is help out there. Most states will have a parinting componant in their child abuse and neglect units. It would be much better for children to have both parents, even if one needs counseling or other types of help. Get some help. That would be the best thing you could do for children. Hope that helps. There are also national suicide help lines that you can call. Just don't kill yourself. You are a person with intrinsic value because you are living, breathing human being that cares enough about her kids to ask a question in a public forum to seek help. That takes guts. It also takes love and compassion.
I wish you the best , for you and for your kids. And that is not finding their mother laying somewhere dead. No. Seek help. SOON>
2006-09-09 11:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by ShikinahMoon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hold up thats insane. You could be suffering from post partum depression, killing yourself is not the answer. Also, mistreating a child should'nt be an option for anyone. Also if your "so called perfect husband" isn'nt more concerned about getting you some help he is also taking place in the abuse. Maybe you need some time to regroup maybe in-patient treatment for depression or for suicidal tendencies. Your husband should step back and take a long hard look at himself, NO ONE is perfect.l
2006-09-09 10:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by kwayno1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe neither answer is the solution. First, define abuse? If punishing them for things they have done wrong is abuse in your husband's eyes then he is wrong. There is a proper way of punishing a child without being abusive. Sometimes I think I am a terrible parent just for grounding my children. In the end its for the best though. You don't sound like a terrible parent to me. Just don't kill yourself...that is DEFINITELY NOT the answer. God Bless.I will be praying for you and your family.
2006-09-09 10:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by KyStar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know how damaging the suicide of a parent could be to a child?
Take you children to family counseling, divorce your abusive husband, and seeking personal counseling for yourself. Your husband's comments don't make you a bad parent, and if he's this aggressive toward you, just imagine what he would say to your children if you left them with him. Seriously, do what you must to remove yourself and your children from whatever situation you are in, but don't abandon them by suicide or fleeing. That's the worst thing you could do to your kids.
2006-09-09 10:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeking help is the best thing, running away or killing yourself is going to be worse for your kids!
Get some family counselling and probably lose that so called perfect husband, he sounds like an ***!
2006-09-09 10:19:29 · answer #8 · answered by kid666_nz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just noticed that you've asked a lot of questions about abuse and marriage.
You need to get some help. No one here can give you the peace that you are looking for. See a professional today. Killing yourself is not the answer, it's a cowards way out and you will scar your children for the rest of their lives. Call and get help today, don't wait.
2006-09-09 10:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Killing yourself is also abusive to your kids. It will leave them with emotional scars they will never be rid of. The best thing to do is get some counseling, if you're really sincere about being a better parent. And you might find out, as I did, that the problem is with the HUSBAND, who keeps trying to convince you that you're a bad parent. It may be a simple solution of getting rid of him! (Divorce, that is! Nothing more sinister...)
2006-09-09 10:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to take your question seriously, but it seems obvious to me that making a child live on after a parental suicide is another form of child abuse. They will blame themselves, no matter what anyone tells them to the contrary. I feel sure you don't want to put anyone through that kind of trauma and guilt.
Get professional help NOW. Your death is NOT the way to handle it.
You have the power to act - your children do not, and you have the chance to show them what you're made of. In my experience, people are always stronger than they realise. Try and hold it together, if only for the children.
Please, don't give in and don't give up.
2006-09-09 10:23:06 · answer #11 · answered by His Best Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋