Ok, there is this girl and in the beggining we were just somewhat friends we only saw eachother once while introduced by another friend. We didn't click at all, but I wanted her as soon as I saw her and I asked my friend if I can talk to her and she said no which pissed me off. Now we are very close and have been talking online and we turn out to really like eachother, she has a bf but it isnt a good relationship, She wants to go out with me but she is too busy so she says during the summer, I tell her how I feel straight up and tell her I have a lot of issues with her but I like her alot at the same time, is it normal/ok if she can be just a girl to be with next summer if I'm single? Is it worth it? Shes a great girl for me but too many guys bother her and stuff. Now were aruging and not really getting along, What should I do?
2006-09-09 10:01:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have read your story three times and what comes to my mind is she wants her cake and eat it too. It kind of sounds like she wants you on the back burner.
Maybe it would be a good idea if you told her for now, you will be her friend and that you are going to date other girls.
It sounds like your relationship is only through the computer? Can you settle for that? It seem's obvious to me that you want more than this and she just isn't there with you as she has a Boy Friend and she is busy.
Life is to short to stay on the back burner for someone and you need to start living. Who is to say what next summer will bring.
2006-09-09 11:13:29 · answer #1 · answered by Plain Jane 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We have clearly only heard one side of this story and it will inevitably turn into a he said she said argument. We know she consented to a threesome, she agreed to go to the room, she knew who the men were, she knew what she was doing. Yes, it is sad that agreeing to go to a hotel room with a man is seen as consent, but I am a young woman and if I agree to go to someone's hotel room, in my eyes, that is consent. Not just in the male's eyes. The police didn't lay charges, obviously the only crime he committed was a moral one. Some people can't deal with the fact that sometimes, people have sex with more than one person at once. In her interview, she says that men came through the bathroom window. How does she know this? Was she in the bedroom or the bathroom? Other men were coming through the doorway, so why then the window? I'm confused about that part. She says she didn't know what to do, she could have, should have, revoked her consent at that immediate moment that she felt uncomfortable. She didn't so as far as these men were concerned, she was not uncomfortable with the situation. Now, for another he said she said, it has been alleged that apparently she even said at one point, "Who's next?" What has happened here, is an example of the media blowing things up. Obviously they heard about this event just recently, tracked the woman down and have blown it up. It happened 7 years ago, leave it in the past. If the woman had a problem, she should have acted 7 years ago, not waited until she got paid big bucks by the television networks and newspapers. PS I'm not in anyway condoning this behaviour, I think we just can't judge anything we don't know the full story for. We weren't there, we are listening to one person tell their version of the events, not everyone's versions.
2016-03-27 04:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your story carefully, and it sounds like she is playing you along. She is still with this other guy - for some reasons she thinks he is good to be with - maybe he is popular or rich or good looking or anything like that...(just guessing)... Anyway - he has something to offer her that you probably can't offer her right now - so she hangs onto him. But she may be truely attracted to you as a person. Maybe she is shallow - or fickle - and she doesn't want to follow her heart. Maybe she is just too immature for you.
The best thing to do, since I know you are emotionally tied up in getting together with this girl... Is try to play it cool. Don't jump through hoops for this girl. See if she comes to you. She knows how you feel - and maybe it scares her and that is why she's been arguing with you. So, play it cool and if she comes to you she will be yours - if she doesn't come to you - she never was going to be your girl. Keep your options open too. Best of luck to ya.
2006-09-09 10:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship, you should be honest and sincere. The vital things needed in a relationship are Love, understanding and Sacrifice. If both of you cannot listen to each other, care for each other and simply find time to argue, its better that you can split apart in good terms. Atleast one of you should be sensible and open to practical part of life rather than going behind silly issues.
Try to undersatnd what she is actually expecting from you. if you consider yourself as a great friend of her, try your best to make her happy. Look out for GIVING and not TAKING
2006-09-09 10:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by A-jay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has a boy pass. Nothing good comes of that, and if you are just hearing her side who knows if it is a bad relationship or not? Too busy, sorry mate, she isn't really feelin it in reality. More likes the idea. You need to find a grrl with no drama! Good luck, and hang in there!
2006-09-09 10:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by MadeaQueenOfScotts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There R sometimes those relationships where U spend it in bed, as that's the only time U got on.
UR relationship sounds like 1 of them, complicated & destined 2 fail, sorry.
Being blunt like I am, I think it's not going 2 make U or her happy.
Walk away, better luck next time, dude.
:)
2006-09-09 10:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look she states she is too busy but really she hanging out with her boy friend if she really liked u she would move the mountains for you u could hang out iknoe from experience all u do is loose a friend do you want too stay here friend then give her some spase she could be confused if she dosent come forward for you then move on
2006-09-09 10:08:58 · answer #7 · answered by bubbalovesbears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should always put your self in the other person's situation. How does she feel? Is it her fault? Is the fight really a stupid 1? and if you really like the girl go for it and tell her every thing you feel about her (don't miss any details) girls like it when you compliment them in anything. they feel needed. trust me i am a girl. and do you guys fight constantly over stupid stuff. also pay attention how she is with her exes that might give you a clue how she would treat you:)
2006-09-09 10:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think it sounds like more trouble than it's worth. You aren't even dating her yet and you guys are already arguing. Maybe you should move on...
2006-09-09 10:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by yumyum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eat a candy bar
2006-09-09 10:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋