2006-09-09 09:58:43 · 18 answers · asked by lady-t 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you apart pain. I hate love.”
Neil Gaiman quote
2006-09-09 10:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch... that's tough.
First you can take a vacation, a break from everything.
Second you should gather all your best friends and say what's on your mind until they succeed in making you smile.
Third, you must keep yourself busy with everything and anything.
And last but not least remember that this, too, shall pass. It might seem that the world is ending right now, but it really isn't. You will eventually move on when you accept what happened and learn that this person is only now part of your memory. Someone else will someday come into your life not to replace him but take a new place... Best of luck!
2006-09-09 17:10:08 · answer #2 · answered by FairyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One day at a time. Eventually when you're least expecting it, love will find you again. Next time, you'll do better anyway. You always learn from your mistakes. Look for someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated, like they are the luckiest person in the world to have you. You will be able to be happy one day, and you'll realize this breakup was the best thing that could have happened to you, even if you can't see it now. Good luck, I wish you all the best.
2006-09-09 17:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by lexicam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I had a 7 yr relationship that ended real bad, and Im still trying to figure out how to move on after year. I guess sometimes it helps to talk to people who have similar incidents.
2006-09-09 17:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to come of first stage whan you have it before 6 years . And feel free take care of your self .Try to be with you and see the world and the people in different angle God is Great and the world he has created is such a big that one have too much to search and find out .
2006-09-09 17:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by creed 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a workshop that help you build up your self esteem.
People often choose negative partners to challenge an aspect within themselves that needs healing. (example: having domineering parents may lead to domineering partners)
work on personality aspects within yourself that needs healing.
Learn to regain your own power and claim responsibility for your emotions rather than remaining a victim.
Do not enter another relationship until you feel good about yourself.
2006-09-09 17:10:20 · answer #6 · answered by nosy2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to heal emotionally first. Don't be in no hurry to date or see others. Learn who you are again. Then, ease back into the dating thing. There is no time limit on these things.
2006-09-09 17:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time to yourself you have so earned it, you could redecorate your house or bedroom. I know it sounds like Ive been possessed by Martha Stewart or something but it might help.
2006-09-09 17:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by slayerific 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on with your life. You were a person before the relationship, now you've got to reacquaint you with yourself. Peace.
2006-09-09 17:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by angieasee64 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay busy, don't wallow by yourself. Surround yourself with people who love you and who are in tune to your needs. Take care of yourself, exercise, eat healthy, go out and have fun. Get a pet, etc. Best of luck to you! *hugs*
2006-09-09 17:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋