do you think it is wrong to spank?
2006-09-09 09:52:43 · 17 answers · asked by sbarne8 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I love how people who personally don't agree with it automatically call it "wrong." Stupid. Just because you don't agree with something doesn't make it wrong.
Anyway, fact is, it works for some people and it doesn't work for others. As long as it's not done abusively, no big deal.
I know of kids whose parents don't spank but instead verbally berate them and isolate them for hours for "time out" and I think that's ten times worse than a smack on the butt.
2006-09-09 11:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have already answered one question on this subject--but I will approach this one a little differently.
No spanking is not wrong--it works. I know this from my personal experience (as a kid and a parent). There is a good reason that it is the most time tested parenting technique in the world--it has been used for thousands of years.
The other stuff--time outs, grounding, etc. are new. The anti-spanking movement is new and untested.
The no spank this started with pseudo=Freudian thought like Dr. Spock. It was pure theory--not based on any factual evidene.
The researchers who have come up with the the spanking is bad conclusion have used statistically flawed information. One way they have done this is ask adults it they were spanked as a child and then asked details and then try to correlate that with current emotional problems. This is obviously a problem--what can the adults remeber and how can you possibly draw a cause and effect realtionship.
The other method is to interview mothers and ask how often they spank and what the behavior of their kid is. They then show that mothers that spank most have the worst behaved kids. The flaw is that it is equally possilbe that the mothers who spank most do so because they have the worst behaved kids.
I think the latter is the case. Some kids need to be spanked more than others. Spanking does not lead to bad behavior--it is the other way around.
In fact there is one very comprehensive research project which surveyed all the research with a fine tooth comb--and to the surprise of the researchers came to the conclusion that spanking was the most effective way of getting kids to comply with the wishes of their parents.
I also think that spanking is fairer and less mean than other forms of punishment. Unlike time outs, grounding--the punishement is over and the air is cleared. With young kids dragging it out the whole reason for the punsihment is lost. With older kids a parental prison is no more effective than is jailing adults in modifying behavior.
2006-09-13 16:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible says "Spare the rod, spoil the child" I believe in that. Parents not disciplining their children in this country is one of the reasons that the country is going to hell in a hand basket. No you don't have to abuse them there is a big difference between spanking and beating. My children will be spanked when they need it. But if you teach your children right from wrong there won't be a huge need for spanking.
2006-09-12 15:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by autbrat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't, but I use that as a last resort. I talk to my children first, I ask questions, they answer, I try to understand their point of view. But if what they've done is just plain "wrong" I explain to them why it was wrong and why they are being punished ( No tv, toys, no playtime, etc..) and I warn them that if they do it again, mommy will get very upset. I let them know I love them very much but if they don't listen and behave, I will have to spank and that it hurts me as much as them but it's needed, and that they have been WARNED.
oh, by the way, I don't go around slapping faces, or hitting in the butt or anything like that......I usually pinch.....under the arm, just enought for it to burn....that gets to them. I do threaten with the belt though (old fashioned)....fortunately I've never had the need for it.
2006-09-13 06:32:18 · answer #4 · answered by Lirasgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES!! Spanking your child, if you noticed, makes them cry a lot louder, makes them afraid of you and insecure about themselves. Get a grip! Take some parenting classes or something but spanking is just not OK. Children are in need of LOTS OF LOVE, they need to know that they can trust you. If they can't trust you who can they trust but the stranger on the corner. Not a good thing at all.
2006-09-09 19:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by jewels 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I do. We live in such a bleading heart world nowadays. Kids are complete brats nowadays and if I had it my own way, I would personally visit each and every home I possibly could, day after day, just to give all those little spoiled rotten brats a spanking like they never ever had. A spanking like they would never ever forget.
Until parents wake up on the issue, kids are going to continue to spiral out of control. The young offenders act my ***! Young offenders should be caned until the point that they can't wear pants for weeks. But oh no, we coddle them, and cater to them instead. Yuck!
2006-09-09 19:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by Frugalmom 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Dont give the child a beating, but a good ol' spanking when needed keeps them in line.
2006-09-09 19:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by Tina 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
ME!ME!ME!!!!!
nah, i dont really think it is necessary to do all the time but now adays time outs dont work on many of the children and people need to learn to get up the nerve to spank thier child.
i advise you to watch carlos mencia sometime
2006-09-09 22:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jen L-Baby #1 due Nov 15, 2010 ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with spanking, no it is not wrong!
2006-09-09 17:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by LittleMermaid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing wrong with a little smack has long has your not beating them bad i agree look around this world today all these nasty kids harrasing neighbours wrecking there homes and there parents dont disapline them
2006-09-10 09:33:48 · answer #10 · answered by nicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋