Isn't there enough people in the world? and they know how hard it is to actually look after babies, they are expensive etc. it REALLY annoys me that women are soooo despreate to have babies. i hate them! what is the actual reason they want babies. i asked my mam why she wanted children (its just me and my bro) and she just said: "i dont know i just wanted them". for you parents out there, why?
2006-09-09 09:49:20 · 50 answers · asked by stupid 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
We have built-in instincts for reproduction. For many women, like myself, this urge to have a baby is very strong. If nature didn't instill that within us, the human animal would die out.
2006-09-09 09:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by Just Ducky 5 · 9⤊ 14⤋
It adds an extra dimension to your life. There is no feeling like it and it is hard to explain to someone who has never had children. The love you feel for your child is unique and I would have ten if I could. Children are fascinating and interesting. Yes, I know many people say they're boring but that is because they're not looking at children properly. Haivng babies is a deep need for some women - that is the way we are designed. To want to further the human race.
Children are much more than screaming babies who stop you from going out with your mates. However, there are plenty of bad parents in the world, too, so if you don't feel the same way, stand your ground and don't have them! They're very expensive.
2006-09-09 23:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
well there are several answers to your question really i shall start with the wrong reasons
1) there was a time when teenage girls were having babies in order to get a coucil house probably still goes on
2) the rich aristocrat type parents (some not all) thought it was the done thing you got married to a rich person had a couple of kids gave them to the nanny
3)some working carrer types (again not all) thought it would make them happy in thier loveless lives had a kid hated it for the next 16 years til they could kick it out
the right reasons
4) in a loving relationship people want to start a family be it a straight or gay couple and they there fore had a child and loved it and bought it up
5) genuine accidents do happen and for those women who get pregnant by mistake but truley find they bond with that pregnancy or do not believe in abortion they bravely choose to have the child as a single parent and truely love it and bring thier baby up the best way they can
not everyone hates kids if you truely do at this t ime just dont have them
most parents would do anything for thier kids they would die for them until you have been a mum or a dad it is not something you will truely understand a child or children become your life your reason for getting out of bed in the morning.
the things they do can make you laugh and at times cry but they are a gift and should be looked on as such
my love to my niece baby isobel born 8/december/1999 died 8/december/1999 you were here for just a few minutes but always in our hearts
2006-09-09 10:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by sharrifarri 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
This is a really good question! I am an only child and when I got married, I didn't really have a leaning to have kids or not. If my wife did not want children, then I would have been happy to go along with that. As it happens we had two children. I think children come along for a variety of reasons ...... family tradition, brooding ( normally by the female ) or simple just because of a mistake. Some people seem to make an awful lot of mistakes! Add to that poor education and you have a cauldron to fuel excessive childbirth. But you are right, there are too many people in the world and as a result we get famine, slum housing and possibly unemployment. But is is peoples' right to have as many children as they want ..... and in the UK the availability of child tax credits can almost promote that!
I think we need better education, better availability of contraception and initiatives to stop teenage and unwanted pregnancies. I have often heard it said that childless couples don't have children because they are selfish ,,,, but they have that right to remain childless and in some ways I think that can be a good thing, moreso for the community rather than themsleves. Its just perhaps in our old age that we might need them around!
2006-09-09 10:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 3⤋
i think having children is really important . there has to be more to life than just living and dying . i think falling in love and making a family are very very important things to do . imagine having no children and no one to share xmas with and holidays . and no one to be a role model for . and to have an excuse to watch them grow and no one to give all your assets to when you go . and most of all some one to love and take care of . i have 3 children and one on the way . i am self employed and i have my own house and i have never let the fact that i have children stop me still living my life . it has limited it but not stopped it and i dont regret a single min . im 28 and i thank god for gor the healthy kids he has given me . and i some times wonder what made me bring kids into a world as awful as this . but thats life and it still goes on . and i am not going to let other problems ruin something that i am so thankful for . and that is my reason and i am sure that any other mother fels the same .
2006-09-10 08:39:44 · answer #5 · answered by LITTON M 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Having a child is life changing(good and bad). That being said, why on earth some people would have so many when they can barely afford one is crazy! My niece had 4 children back to back, and now she is pulling her hair out with all the damn homework they bring home each day.
2014-04-10 17:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To have someone to do the chores when I don't feel like it? Seriously, I don't know why. I really don't think there's a reason that can be summed up in a few words. I wanted children (and consequently had two of them) because I just wanted them. No special reason, other than I just wanted kids. I think part of it is hormonal, too. It's ingrained in a lot of women to have kids--because that's what women do. Instinct? idk
Judging from the sound of your post, I assume you're young. I'm guessing in another 5 years or so (maybe less, maybe more) when you find the right partner and "settle down" you will probably want a child, too.
2006-09-11 02:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 3⤊ 4⤋
for some its some one to love a reason to carry on to make some thing where u failed soem people never want them and that is fine but there are those who just have need to have children they are hard work dont apreciate u but at the end of the day they are ur children and u do what is best for them
2006-09-12 23:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
To find out how high their pain tolerance level is!! I dont just mean the birth either. Have 3 wonderful children myself and looking for a fourth but then i have a high pain threshold.
2006-09-12 11:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by slootsuk 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm a firm believer in having children ONLY if you REALLY want them. They change your life, you become unselfish, and they devour your existence. When they're young, it's such a huge responsiblity. But, it's so much fun being part of their maturity. It's true that the bigger they get....the bigger the problems. Kids are a product of their environment. It sounds like you are going through some rough times and are not the apple of your parent(s) eye anymore. Try sitting down and talking with them. They probably just don't know how to communicate with you anymore.
2006-09-09 10:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by Duma 2 · 8⤊ 2⤋
I felt the way you do when I was 16 too. I hated babies, NEVER thought I would want one, never wanted to get married, hated the thought of nappies, puke, middle of the night feeds etc, just didnt see what the big deal was.
As you mature and grow into adulthood, things may change. When you meet the right man and all your friends are settling down, it may seem prefectly natural to want to have kids.
Not everyone does, but the majority do, you are still growing and developing your sense of self and who you are in the world. You may feel the same way all your life, but you may get to the point that most others do, and realise that there is something more to life, something thats missing, and start to want kids.
I was totally anti-baby until I hit 31, then I think mother nature gave me a boot up the bum and I suddenly got all broody.
2006-09-09 11:34:59 · answer #11 · answered by lozzielaws 6 · 1⤊ 9⤋