mi stepmom says that she went through the same thing but ive been in several foster homes. now im not allowed to see, talk, or make any contact with mi mom.
2006-09-09 09:38:05 · 10 answers · asked by lil mami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe one of these numbers can help. You need more than a few lines on a screen.
HELP WITH MENTAL PROBLEMS
Mental Health Info Source 1-800-447-4474 Mental Health Resources and Information
National Institute of Mental Health 1-888-ANXIETY Mental Health Resources and Information
SUICIDE PREVENTION
Suicide & Crisis Hotline 1-800-999-9999 Help for Troubled Teens
National Hope Line Network 1-800-784-2433 Suicide Prevention
SOMEONE TO TALK ABOUT IT TO
Talk Zone 1-800-475-TALK Peer Counselors
Teen Help Line 1-800-400-0900 Help Line For Troubled Teens
Teen Hot Line 1-800-747-8336 Hot Line For Troubled Teens
VOICES In Action, Inc. 1-773-327-1500
Youth Development International 1-800-HIT-HOME (448-4663) Youth Crisis Hotline
National Crisis Line 1-800-334-4357 Crisis Help Line
National Youth Crisis Hotline 1-800-448-4663 Youth Crisis Hotline
2006-09-10 14:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by The Notorious Doctor Zoom Zoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could reach through the computer and give you a hug. That is a very difficult situation for you. But may I share something Dr. Laura said at a recent public lecture?
We can not change the past, so we have to let it go. We can only change the present, and that will change our future.
That's a very hard thing to do, I know, but she was right. If you let something from the past hang around your neck like a millstone, it will simply drag you down and ruin both your present life and your future prospects. Especially when, in this case, you have no prospect of changing things.
Obviously conditions between you and your mom must not have been good, or you would not have been in several foster homes, or be prohibited from making contact with your mom. That doesn't mean you should have harsh thoughts about her. Whatever made her the way she was, neither she nor you had any control over. So you simply have to accept that and get on with your life. She did, however, give birth to you, and that was a good thing. Now it's up to you to decide what you want to do with your gift of life -- and this truly is your decision.
When you get depressed during school, turn it off. Just refuse to think about it. Think about something that makes you feel good. Or something you are looking forward to doing later on that day. Keep it all about the present, and don't let your thoughts swing backwards.
It isn't easy, but you can do it. And for what it's worth, I'll send you a big hug any time you need one. Just think about it, and it will be there.
Keep your chin up, keep your goals high, and stay in there. You can do it!
2006-09-09 09:50:17 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not your fault that you cant pay attention. I went thru something like that when my parents got divorced. But then you just have to rememeber that things happen for a reason, you might not be able to keep in contact with your mom now, but later on down the line you will.
2006-09-09 09:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not your fault that you can't pay attention. just try to get your mind off of your mom, and think of the mother you have now. She cares and loves you alot, and try to really focus at school, do it for both of your moms. :)
my best wishes for you sweetie.
2006-09-09 10:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Givererer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll pass. Wait until you're 18 and then nobody in the world can prevent you from seeing your mom. In the meantime please learn how to spell correctly because your letter is terrible.
2006-09-09 09:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are a young man who would really want to be with HIS MOTHER..YOU could be going through a DEEP DEPRESSION.YOU should contact your DOCTOR.
2006-09-09 09:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by Terry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all what did u do to your mom that she would do that? But I can totally understand the way you feel and it is not your falt.....
2006-09-09 09:45:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens to avery normal human being when they are denied of something they really need or want to experience.i think u shld see ur counsellor at school
2006-09-09 09:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by benjyblazy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand you.if you miss her,search the way that she contacts you and apologize.THE MOTHER*HEART IS A RAVINE AND IN DEPTH OF THIS HEART YOU WILL FIND ALWAYS FORGIVENESS
2006-09-09 09:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's certainly not your fault.
Just do the best you can in all things...and things will work themselves out. :)
2006-09-09 09:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by Kyle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋