What i mean is my mother is always on my ***, about something im not doing right, and she forever saying that my child is going to be a direct reflection of me and i hope so. But she thinks my personality is reason that my sons mother doesn't call or come to see our son its all my fault.
What can i do?
How can i handle this situation please help?
2006-09-09 09:23:21 · 6 answers · asked by trey a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry you have to deal with he negativeness of your mother, I think it is wonderful that you have stepped up as a father and are raising your son. If it is really bothering you, then set your mother straight, tell her that while you understand that she has the best intentions when giving you advice that it is unwelcome and that if she cannot be nice then you will have no choice but to see her less often, because you have decided that her negative influence is not one that you want your son to be around
Good Luck!
2006-09-09 09:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should let your mother do what mothers do best and "Nag". You know you're a good father and mother so why worry about what she says? A mother will always feel that a child needs a "woman's touch" in their lives for them to grow up as good children. But the fact is that so many fathers are doing a really good job on their own. The fact that she blames you for the mother of your children not coming may just be her own frustration at not being able to help her grandkids and you. My brother does an excellent job with his two children, ex-wife left for an affair and since has never participated in kids life, the kids are now 14 and 15 they were only 2 and 3 at the time everything happened. Good luck to you stay strong and let her words just be "WORDS" you're doing a great job with your kids just being there for them.
2006-09-09 16:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound to me like you are outcast. Your mother is trying to help you, even if she is going about it in a negative way. Ask her for more specific ideas about what you need to do differently. If she can't tell you more specifically, then she is not being fair. Is it because you don't do anything to help around the house? What? If she has given you specific requests and you are refusing to listen, then she is right. A man who cannot take criticism and cooperate with his mother or his son's mother.... needs to seriously think about things.
"Get with it" as my father said many years ago.
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2006-09-09 16:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
being a single parent is nothing to be proud of. At the rate this country is going, unfortunately, it will be the norm instead of the exception. Your mom is on your a** because she has a higher standard of morals and knows whats right and whats not. Listen to her.
Also, I am a 40 yo single father raising my boys becasue my ex thought like you.
2006-09-09 16:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your mother said so then it must be true. I think that you need to go get your BIG BOY PULLUPS and do the right thing. I am sure that you are giving your baby's mama a lot of drama.
2006-09-09 16:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing I can think of is that you'll have to do whatever you think is right for your child, no matter what your family says. You are the parent here.
2006-09-09 16:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋