i met my gf 7months ago she was a virgin but we had sex now she is pregnant but i dont want the baby but she would not have an abortion so should i leave her
2006-09-09 09:22:02 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i am 27 she is 29 it is not the right time for a baby i am just starting to do well in my career and a baby would hold me back
2006-09-09 09:53:32 · update #1
Yes, leave her because you're obviously not parent material and she and YOUR baby deserve better. Now, let me talk to her for a minute so I can refer her to my attorney where she can get free legal assistance to take you to court and get the child support.
2006-09-09 09:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you made a baby. You are financially responsible for it for the next 21+ years and you want to leave her. That's acting like a man, huh? It's time you hunkered down and starting setting aside some money for her prenatal care and the $ 10-15K you are going to need to bring this child into the world, not to mention the $ 180-250k for the next 21 years (and college too). Your only choice now is will you do this voluntarily or will you have to be dragged into court. The only way out of this is if the child is put up for adoption. You do not mention your age but taking your equipment out and knocking up a virgin has made you liable for her expenses and the financial raising of your child whether you are there or not. I would stand by her until the baby is born and work out the details if you are going to leave.
You made a stupid decision to have sex w/o marriage now you will have to pay the price, literally.
2006-09-09 09:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may now don't want a child but a child can bring many benefits and is the most amazing thing, trust me. I'm a woman in fact pregnant with my first and i'm in my third trimester. I could have not done it with out my bf/husband. You will regret leaving and there are consquences so the best thing to do is stay and stick around. Because there is child support and you will have to pay for your child and if you know it or not, that baby is half you stop the negative and enjoy this time it's will be the best time of your life Make sure you check out this web site type in her due date and see what your baby has already developed. Make sure you click tickers!!!
2006-09-09 09:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can leave her, but that would be very wrong, and will affect the child in a bad way. If you don't want a child, then you shouldn't have had sex. If she doesn't want to have an abortion, you can not make her. You both should have had a talk, before having sex, about what you would do if she became pregnant.
2006-09-09 09:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should of thought about this before having unprotected sex with her..but all you cared about at the time is WOW shes a virgin i am gonna be her first..you worthless piece of trash.
And I appluad your g/f for not having a abortion..she is a smart women.
How do you plan on being a father one day if you keep wanting women to abort babies ? not all will cuz some like your current girlfriend do have a heart about what is growing inside them..
you done the deed now you gotta face the concequences..
so don't try making her feel bad cuz you don't want to be daddy..
So do her and the baby a favor leave them cuz you aint nowhere near a man,Your just a pathetic piece of crap that only worries about himself,I just hope she nails you for all she can in child support .
2006-09-09 09:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by steve 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You r such a loser. You r up shits creek without a paddle!! Your paycheck is gone for the next 18 years. But that really isnt the point. The point is .... how could you leave your own flesh and blood if she kept the baby? My brain couldnt even compute that. That is an innocent child. He / she didnt ask to be here. Take responsibility and be a man. Babys r so wonderful and cute they just tug at your heart strings. Just wait youll see that you can get used to a child.
2006-09-09 09:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Sue Q 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Well, regardless of whether you want the baby or not, it seems she is going to have it. I would make sure it is yours if she slaps a paternity suit on you for child support. Just because you have a biological child does not mean you have to physically involved, that is your choice. Don't let her make you feel bad if you decide you want other things in your life. I will say this however, if she is going to be a single mom, I would help her if she didn't have family support because raising a child on your own is very difficult. I hope things work out for both of you.
2006-09-09 09:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by pussnboots333 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Step up and be a man! You should have thought about all of this before you had unprotected sex. If you think you're responsible enough to be having sex then you're responsible enough to deal with everything that comes along with having sex. If you don't want to be with her that's one thing, but don't take it out on your child. Remember, even if you do leave her you're still going to be a father for the rest of your life. So either way you look at it you've got a serious responsibility ahead of you.
2006-09-09 09:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only a ******** would leave the female he got knocked up. You are nothing but a dirty SOB. You should have used protection or just kept your dick in your pants if you didn't want a child. Be a man and take on what you caused. Reap what you sow. The way it sounds you are going to be a worthless father. Your son/daughter will grow up to resent you for this for the rest of your life. If you leave her that just shows how much you really don't care and that you really didn't or do love her. That will also show just how much of a f*cking loser you really are. You no good worthless piece of ****.
2006-09-09 09:55:56 · answer #9 · answered by dolphin_lover692001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you think you are not ready you should NOT leave her. You helped make that baby you should be a man and help at least raise that baby. It took two in the bed not just her! I do NOT blame her for NOT giving the baby up.
2006-09-09 12:22:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can leave her if you want to be a heartless a*hole, but remember, as long as she can prove it's yours, your paycheck is in for the long haul: approx. 18 years.
If you didn't want a baby, you should have been more careful. Take responsibility for your actions and quit being such a slacker.
Of course if you're really that much of a dick that you would leave her just because YOU knocked her up, the baby's probably better off not having you as an influence in its life.
2006-09-09 09:26:12 · answer #11 · answered by desiderio 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋