Okay I am 13 just like my twin brother. We live w. our other brothers- one is 16 and one is 22. Our parents are off doing who-knows-what (yes this is legal- my brother is our legal guardian). Okay but then out of the blue my parents come back and say hey guess what? You guys cant live with (the 22 year old brother) anymore. We're shipping you off to foster homes until he's older! (yes they cannot get any more clueless. Gawd I hate them.) But now I'm in a foster home and I've kind of changed a bit. Like, I used to be a tomboy and stuff, but now that I'm in a different town and a different school, I'm more of a girly popular person. My brother (the 16 year old) is coming to live with this foster family also tomorrow. I really hope he doesn't hate me because I've changed- advice? Words of comfort? Help please!
2006-09-09 09:02:12 · 13 answers · asked by coolbluepot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry for the tumultuous situation you find yourself in, so young in life. My words of comfort to you are that it's a fact that people will grow, evolve and change throughout their lifetimes. The trick in staying close to your loved ones and friends (and someday spouse) is growing, evolving and changing along with them. Your brother may have changed (or may change in the future), too, so it's up to you both to communicate with each other, share your dreams and ideas, and respect any differences that come up. You don't have to be completely alike to like and respect each other. Best of luck to you both!
2006-09-09 09:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by nido_tr3s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your older brother had legal custody and is providing a good life for all of you then they shouldn't have taken you away.Your older brother can fight it. But you are also old enough to say who you want to live with if it goes to court. Call a legal aid in your community and see if they can help you out. But also remember people change and just because you looks may have changed your personality should stay the same. I was a tomboy but when I got my first boyfriend I went girly but I still hung with they guys and acted like myself. Your brother should love you for who are and not what you look like.
2006-09-09 09:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should get a hold of your 22yr old brother and find out if he wants to petition for you guys to come back. But you need to understand that it is a lot of responsibility for him to take on. Don't worry about having changed your growing up and you'll continue to change as time goes on. Your brothers won't get upset with you but they may just worry more about you now! Now they may feel like they have to protect you. Enjoy your life while it's great, it doesn't sound too bad, being popular and having a great new start. I think you should look at your parents and think that you will do better in life and learn from their mistakes. Make better choices in yours and everything will turn out great for you and your brothers.
2006-09-09 09:27:15 · answer #3 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you have changed you are just becoming a young lady instead of a little girl. It happens to everyone. Perhaps you need to sit down with your brother and tell him your feelings. There is nothing wrong with who you are and what you are becoming. It is very natural that you will want to become more of a woman as you grow older. There is really nothing to be upset about or have problems about. We all change over time. You might find that since you last saw your brother he has changed some also. Hang in there and become who you are and don't apologize for being yourself.
2006-09-09 09:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by rhutson 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This time in your life is one of enormous changes, and even if you had a perfect domestic life, you would still be experiencing the transition from childhood to adulthood. What you're going through is normal, and to be expected. Relax, and just be who you are. If your brother has a problem with your metamorphosis, then that is his problem, not yours. If his love for you comes with strings attached, then there is nothing you can do about it. It will be one of those major bummers that you have no control over. Concentrate on things you CAN control, and look for approval and support from within yourself. If you can look at yourself in a mirror, and like what you see, that's most of the battle. If you see things you don't like, work on changing them.
Good luck!!
2006-09-09 09:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by yellowcab208 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't borrow trouble....your brother most likely will be overjoyed to be reunited with you, as you must be. The bond that you have had with each other will not be broken so easily. There may be an awkward patch while you adjust to each other, but I'm sure that will be brief. Then, together, you can decide what you want to do about your living and custody situation. It's going to be O.K......relax.
2006-09-09 09:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by pessimoptimist 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are your parents making decisions for the 22 year old adult? He is of legal age to keep you.
I'm sorry that your parents aren't behaving like adults. Talk to you older brother and see if he can't fight to have you live with him.
2006-09-09 09:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is your BROTHER and he has stuck with you through thick and thin right?? well then you have nothing to worry about! people change and thats something that takes getting used to just because your girly doesnt mean you cant hang out w/ ur bro and be buds with hum and still do your normal stuff!
best wishes
2006-09-09 09:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by elemenopee. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about all the issues in your life. (( )) *hug
He should accept you for who you are no matter what. That's what family is for! If he doesn't like the new you then too bad. You are going to be who you want to be and you don't need any ones approval. Good luck!
2006-09-09 09:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by songbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you ever been in this pill? the 1st twelve months, it extremely is unpredictable. being pregnant is possilbe yet unlikely. try testing back in a week or so. perhaps you have a abdomen malicious program or your era is coming early.
2016-09-30 12:39:22 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋