i would really like to be more shy, but i'm like super-outgoing. i think i scare some guys, especially ones i really like, so i would like to be more shy. does anyone have tips on how to go about doing this? i would really help me a lot. mo sarcastic responses please.
2006-09-09 08:37:19 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, it isnt a secret, you dont have to change your personality. Just shut up a little and boys will come. We like talkative girls just as friends.
I mean, dont talk too much.
And listening more!!
2006-09-09 08:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by thor3000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you say no sarcastic responses, I will try my best to curb my 'tude and give you a straight answer.
You cannot be shy. Same as a cat cannot be a dog. You are outgoing and that is the way it is. What you CAN be is more restrained or you can PRETEND to be shy. You can try to be a better listener rather than a talker. Ask guys about themselves and be (or pretend to be) really interested. Do not be aggressive and do not be loud to draw attention to yourself.
Ok, with that said...I, personally, think you should just be yourself. You can pretend to be shy, restrained, blushing etc. to get the guy but in the end the real you will shine through. So, it's best to find a guy that likes you for who you are...an outgoing crazy gal (I am! and I promise you the FUN, SEXY guys...they don't scare easy)
2006-09-09 08:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what's funny is that I am a really outgoing person in most ways, but when it comes to guys that I really like and don't know very well, I am shy. That is until I get to know them. Shy is not something you can learn to be...You either are or you aren't...Just embrace who you are. When I tell people who know me that I'm shy, they laugh at me because all they know is the outgoing me. When they see me in action around guys that I like, they are amazed at how I transform...and believe me, I hate it. So while you are wishing you were shy, there are a lot of girls that are shy that wish they were more like you.
2006-09-09 08:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. I don't think you want to be shy, but perhaps more reserved. The way to accomplish this is to practice ladylike deportment and manners. If you are having difficulties learning this on your own, there are good books you can check out at the library on manners and etiquette. There's a start. Another way to become more reserved is to listen to what others are saying, think for a few moments longer than usual before speaking.
Pick someone you know who behaves the way you want to and watch what she or he does. That could also be helpful. There is nothing wrong with incorporating others' behaviors in your own, just continue to be yourself. Shy people aren't happy.
2006-09-09 08:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am shy and i would really like to be different in some situations...there are some possibilities for you:
1.just be you..the people around you will love you as you are
2.before saying or doing something try to think twice...like that you will control yourself a little bit and then you will get used to it
anyway,don't wish to be very shy because ,usually it's better to be"super-outgoing"..things don't get so complicated and some problems are solved faster...i really regret that i have lost a very important thing for be because i was shy. :( good luck!
2006-09-09 08:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Embrace your "out-goingness"! That just means you are more than those silly little guys can handle!!! Even if you think you like them, think about it? If they get scared of your lovely personality, how boring they will end up being for you, and how they probably dull down your life!
But if you really think that "shying down" will make you more irresistible to the guys you want, just smile and look pretty, and keep your opinions to yourself. (I don't mean that in a negative way).
Good luck with that and hope it all turns out good for you.
But 1 more thing ask yourself, why do you want a guy who doesn't like you the way you are?
2006-09-09 08:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're so cute. Honey, I'm afraid it's part of our genetic makeup whether we are shy or outgoing. Studies have proved it. If you think you are scaring the guys off just think about it a lot and tell yourself to be more low key and quiet. I warn you. You are going against nature. There are plenty of guys who prefer an exuberant woman though. Mine does. I'm feisty and he thinks it's adorable. Go figure. I am who I am. You be that too. Good luck. I bet you're an interesting person.
2006-09-09 08:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont be less shy, u dont wanna hide the real you, when the right guy comes along he wont mind how outgoing u are. But if u want, u can just let him talk let him take the wheel, see how that works for u
2006-09-09 08:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by sourgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grass isn't all way's greener on the other side. Some shy girls want to be more out going. but If you think that you out goingness is the problem than maybe you should try not being so forward. That might help.
2006-09-09 08:41:30 · answer #9 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why in the world would u want to be shy no one wants to be shy u should enjoy being outgoing thats a good way to be just dont be crazy outgoing be fun outgoing u dont wanna be shy trust me :)
2006-09-09 08:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by droppantsnotbombs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋