So many people today beleive that any relationship, no matter how bad, is better than being alone. I've noticed this by reading many questions asked by people who are seeking advice on making a hopeless situation better.
2006-09-09 08:28:05 · 26 answers · asked by Enough 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been there and couldn't figure out why I stayed for so long either. I'm not afraid of being alone. I guess, for me, I just had some outstretched faith that maybe I could turn things back around the way they were during the good times. I just got tired of living in misery and decided anything had to be better than
what I was doing. Right now I prefer to be alone. At least I'm not getting my feeling hurt all the time, and can come and go as I please. That's what he wanted to do and just expected me to sit around and wait. Well, waiting got old along with the relationship. So it was goodbye. We're still friends though. But I do think so many people stay in relationships, even horrribly bad ones because they are afraid to leave and afraid to be alone. That's sad because if they could just get away they would probably find out they really wouldn't be as alone as they're imagining.
2006-09-09 08:41:59 · answer #1 · answered by one_sahara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no psychologist or psychiatrist so my answer is simply from my perceptions.
People fear. They are so afraid of being alone, making someone angry, or being unpopular that they allow themselves to fall into these terrible vicious cycles. Our egos aren't so strong that we are impermeable to emotional damage. Some of these people grew up in an abusive family so, as they learned by example, they repeat what they learned. Others have a fascination with pain. It all depends on who that person is.
Something else I have learned is that the chemical Oxytocin has a lot to do with the decisions people make in relationships. Pardon my crude explanation,but it's the hormone released when people orgasm. You'll have to look up all the other things it does,but it's an essential hormone to us as humans. It's believed to be the chemical responsible for making people feel in love. So reason would dictate that people will stay in a terrible relationship because the other person is stimulating their production of Oxytocin. I realize it's a bit more complicate than that,but like I said I'm not a doctor.
2006-09-09 15:45:11 · answer #2 · answered by Usagi-Chan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say it's lonely out there and that can
also help explain why so many people are
loose and let themselves get used for booty
all the time,yet it doesn't excuse the behavior
because if this keeps up,no one will ever be
able to have sex safely anymore,and abuse
will keep growing stronger!!!
People need to learn to control themselves
and fight off the urges to hook up with people
they know are wrong for them.
being a weeney hopper or a vagina thumper
only spreads infections,disease,and germs.
these will spread eventually even if actual
VD has not developed yet,and new diseases
are being created all the time now.
People get lonely but sex is not the answer,it
can create more problems and even greater
lonliness later on.
2006-09-09 15:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by slappingfox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey i might be one of those who you are talking about.. for me it's because i'm in love and too blind to see and hoping things will get better and understand each other better, create better communication without blaming each other.. and just "hang in" there.. then finally see that will work out or not.. i just give it some time. Love is all about accept your partner exactly the way he/she is, sounds easy huh? but it's tough, nobody is perfect and we can always find something wrong on others even though we have "different partner" because it's also a matter of accepting and handling conflicts, and every relationship will always have problems and it's just.. can we handle our conflicts?
2006-09-09 15:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by Nadia Miller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right . a few of my friends stay in relationships that is not worth staying in. Especially females. They feel like this is the best as it gets or think that given time it will get better. When after the ump teeth time you have caught him cheating or when he has physically hurt you? Women tend to stay in a bad relation because they think they have no where to go. When we lower our standards and start settling for far less, We have lost all control and self-esteem. The grass isn't always greener on the other side, Your white/black knight might never come. Someone out there is looking for someone who he/she can give what they have to offer. We as women tend to look for someone who can provide for us whether we can take care of ourselves or not. This is what draws women in and stay. The sex might be good. He might be the best looking man she has ever met. It could be a number of things.
2006-09-09 15:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, thats true.
some think they would never find a better person. they fear they would end up being alone for the rest of their lives or end up with sombody worse.
some feels (or thinks) it is love. but the truth is its reason above.
thirdly, some thinks of the sacrifices they have made or the effort they have already put in the relationship. they think it would be wasted.
love is also a funny things.... it keeps us hoping when there is no more hope left!
2006-09-09 15:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually i experienced this situation
nothing can make a relation better... it should be a mutual decision... it becomes worse... less care and love from men and girls feel insecure and unhappy
"You failed and i think moving on would help" said mum "there are always lots of fish in the sea"
2006-09-09 15:36:51 · answer #7 · answered by adorable 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are scrared, worried and feel worthless because this is how their mates make them feel. Then they get thinking that they aren't any good so why not stay where they are. Also they may stay because of financial reasons. They don't realize that they have their own feet to stand on and forget how to do that.
2006-09-09 15:34:33 · answer #8 · answered by Gez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life gets complicated sometimes. My wife and I have very different sex drives. We decided she could have sex outside our marriage. We talked about getting a divorce but we have so many assets tied up together and we still like each other. We find this situation works out even tho it is what it is.
2006-09-09 16:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you suggested a lot of people stay out of fear of being lonely. Others for financial reasons. Some because of fear and or abuse. And finally I think some try and stick it out hoping that it will improve.
2006-09-09 15:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋