well, me and my boyfriend, we didtn c each other for like 2months because is summer holiday so both of us went bk to our home country, but during 2 month, we still kept contact each other by emails and phone (but always send sms to each other everyday to catch up what we r doing). while he was in his home country, i always trust him. but i feel hurted coz we were so far away, but he told me that jus trust him he wont do anything wrong there. then now we come bk to school, he picked me up in airport but i feel that he acted weird and he didtn allow me to look at his cell phone, so i was wonder why, then we came bk home i found one girl picture and this folder was hided it wasnt on my picture document. I asked him who she is, he told me that she is jus a friend. but i can see that he's telling me a lie coz he face look so pale. and he never use yahoo messenger and i saw there is only 2 contacts in his yahoo . one is his sister and the other one is that girl,
2006-09-09 08:19:13 · 17 answers · asked by LC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dump him as he will cheat again
2006-09-09 08:21:23 · answer #1 · answered by angel 36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you are overly worried about nothing. You and your boyfriend are allowed to have friends of the opposite sex. If he says she's just a friend then just leave it at that unless he's giving you other reasons to believe he's cheating. If he is cheating then that should be the end of things, because if he's done it once he'll do it again. Be sure of things first though. If he's cheating you'll know it, because you will see a really big change in him, and he won't act like he use to, he won't spend as much time with you as he did before etc..... Unless you know for sure he's cheating, don't make a big deal out of him having female friends.
2006-09-09 08:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by bambi2626 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you had to discover things this way. There are two important aspects of healthy relationships: honesty and trust. He seems to be slipping in both areas. He's given you reason to not trust him and he doesn't seem to be completely honest with you (not letting you see his phone when there should be nothing to hide between you two). What does this all mean? It doesn't mean he's cheated on you per se but you might have reason to doubt him based on what you've seen so far. First though, he has to be completely honest with you about what that girl means to him (and that he hasn't developed feelings for her). If he refuses, that trust will never completely be regained and unfortunately I don't see this relationship lasting. But I wish you luck.
2006-09-09 08:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sin™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same position with you, we have sux long distance relationship. Sometimes i'm sick of being together and apart again, i just feel like i can't do it anymore.. to make it even worse i have this trust issue based on his past, i haven't caught him cheating on me though.. but sometimes i become so paranoid for something that not happen "yet" and drive both of us crazy.. I hope you can make it work, just follow your instinc.. it's always right.. i know i should do that too, i just sometimes too blind too see.. and it's because i love him so much but i don't trust him that much.. confusing.. and i know if i can't get over this trust issue feelings soon, it can create much worse problem in the future.. i don't know, i'm totally confused.. anyway, good luck to you!
2006-09-09 08:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Nadia Miller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even as he with out word has activities that he in no way had to do before...even as he avoids your calls, or isn't there to take them, if his ideas-set in route of you is replacing, if he tells you he "basically desires some ME time" in case you stay at the same time a number of those are signs and indications too... a million. decrease want to be with you sexually. 2. with out word tries new sexual positions. 3. operating late more desirable typically. 4. Mysterious telephone calls. 5. receives indignant once you seem on the cellular telephone, pager, or laptop. Is secretive of such. 6. scent of body spray on their clothing. 7. Takes a bath once he comes homestead. 8. you discover hairs or different gadgets on his body or in his possessions. 9. starts taking more desirable care with his visual attraction. 10. Accuses you of dishonest. 11. he alterations his popular recurring with out reason or reason.
2016-11-25 22:20:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him. if he's not telling the truth, he's not worth it. i agree. he probably is cheating on you. then again, he might be planning something. so make sure you sit him down and have a long talk with him. tell him that if he doesnt tell you the truth and complete truth immediately, then you have nothing to do but think that he's cheating, and dump him. he'll come clean. and if he doesnt, then he just doesnt want to have to say that he was cheating.
be strong. just do it, honey.
2006-09-09 08:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by give it to me baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Not only did he cheat on you, but lied outright to your face. Is that someone worthy of your time?? You deserve better and liars very rarely change.
2006-09-09 08:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, no one deserves to be cheated on and you deserve a better guy that's nice and trustworthy.
2006-09-09 08:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by pinkhometinkerbell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating really sucks..leave that loser in the dust and find a real man!
2006-09-09 08:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by MC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
instead of digging up whats gone just ask him to choose which girl he wants. Good luck. Give him 24 hrs to decide...
2006-09-09 08:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF you find out? You already found out, so whatever you would do, you are now doing.
2006-09-09 08:22:10 · answer #11 · answered by Grist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋