Some months after a breakup I began talking seriously to this other guy, whom I had known before but never got to know. We had so much in common. He had just gotten out of a particularly bad relationship and made it clear from the get go verbally that he wasn't looking for another relationship. I obliged. But as the weeks moved on, his signals were way different than what was originally said. We kissed a couple of times, talked for hours each night and I began to think that he was changing his mind. He admitted that he was torn between wanting to be with me and thinking it was not best for him and decided once again against the relationship. This happened another time, when I stupidly told him that I thought I loved him. I couldn't understand why he could risk a chance. He made it clear no relationship but the prob now is that he refuses to talk to me...even when he sees me at uni which is every day. I can understand not being with him but I really miss his friendship. What can I do?
2006-09-09 08:17:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is what I also had tons of problem with the he doesn't love or want to be with me bit. Because...he admitted to having feelings and wanting to be with me...at one point and time he admitted to spending a couple of days thinking about it but realised that he was scared...or couldn't handle it.
I had a situation where he was saying one thing and doing a next...then he effectively and totally cut me out of his life. I'm not sure how to adjust.
2006-09-09 08:54:00 · update #1
I know this is extremely harsh. But this is true. He is trying not to lead you on. He is probably a nice person. He doesnt want to hurt your feelings.
MOVE ON....... He doesnt love you and he doesnt want to be with you.
Its simple
I suggest reading the book " He is just not that into you"
2006-09-09 08:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Sophia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell him that you miss his friendship and understand he does not want a relationship that when he kissed you it sent mixed signals
tell him whatever happened you still value him as a friend and would like to be able to at least say hi when you see each other
then let it be he will make his choice and you need to move on to another guy to show him you are serious
2006-09-09 15:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by someone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life.....this time listen to the other person instead of falling. In other words control yourself. He wasn't ready and now it's over. Go on girl...there's lots of fish in the sea...not only him. For every one that goes ....20 more come along. Take care and good luck.
2006-09-09 15:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Gez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Tell him that you like him but you would rather have him as a friend than not have him in your life at all. Tell him that you are willing to be friends but that if its "just friends" then the behavior needs to stay "just friends". Tell him he can't treat you like a girlfriend (kissing, snuggling etc) If your just friends.
2006-09-09 15:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your relationships and he will see that and possibly open a friendship back up with you.
2006-09-09 15:25:35 · answer #5 · answered by Amanda~Limited Time Only 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some time he`s been in a bad relationship
2006-09-09 15:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by mad manc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up but make sure u stay friends and if he kiss u except but have no realtionship!
2006-09-09 15:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it be
2006-09-09 15:20:15 · answer #8 · answered by ImSpoilednLoveit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋