I've been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years and at first our relationship was good and he paid attention to me.Then he started being with his friend (one in particular) all the time.He would always put him before me.I know he loves me because at times I would threaten to break up with him he would beg me to stay but yet he would still give his attention to his friend. He lets him do everything for him like coming to pick him up from work even though i always offer since i stay down the street from where he works.I can even admit that I am jealous of how their relationship is because that is the type of relationship I want with him.The thing that made me question his sexuality was I caught him playing with "himself" when he was on the phone with the guy and also he doesn't ask me for sex anymore although I am scared to do it because of HIV/AIDs associated with homosexuals.Also me and him argued because he claimed you can't AIDs from being gay which made me suspicious. Please Help!
2006-09-09 08:08:11 · 39 answers · asked by danab718 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it may be a question of when he will start irregardless of whether he is now or not. I was with my first husband for 7 years (2 years married) before he finally admitted he was gay and we got a divorce. They say hindsight is 20-20 and now looking back there are some things I just failed to notice, but it was also because he was hiding his feeling from me and fighting them himself. I would end this relationship. It doesn´t mean you can´t be friends down the line...I am very good friends with my ex. But it is important for you to get everything you need out of a relationship and it sounds like he can´t give that to you now and may not ever be able to.
2006-09-09 08:19:57 · answer #1 · answered by forallitsworth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HIV is a people problem not a gay thing.I understand your concern. Safe sex is a better option,abstinence another.Men tend to touch themselves no matter who they talk to.Do you have friends or a close friend or life beyond the relationship??Please don't threaten to leave just let him know that you are uncomfortable with the way things are going,find out what is going on with him,seek compromises that work for both of you or move on.Always make informed choices. Go in peace.
2006-09-09 08:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by wildrover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have manufactured quite a story in your head, and found lots of evidence to support it.
Probably would have found evidence to support any story that you dreamed up.
Fact is you really don't know and you're creating one hell of a drama by thinking of a these things in your head. This is maybe why he's losing interest, he can't be with the drama.
And yes likelihood is that you split up and it of course will be all his fault.
Hmmm, just get a reality check and start communicating in a non confrontational way with him instead of dreaming stuff up.
Good luck, you are responsible for the quality of your relationships nobody else.
2006-09-09 10:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure that this was a guy on the phone and not a girl? Have you ask him about this? I mean asking him why was he playing with him self while talking on the phone. Baby girl if I was you I would have dumped his a** a long time ago. If you don't have no trust then there is no relationship. So move on while you can.
2006-09-09 08:14:39 · answer #4 · answered by goodies100 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God.
First step- Make sure you're ok
If he has been sleeping with someone else (man or woman) he could have caught something; get a test done as you don't know when it started.
Second step- Deal with your boyfriend
The whole phone thing sounds very odd. Talk to him about it, say how you are feeling, say that you don't feel comfortable with how he behaves with this 'friend'. If he loves you then he will want to put your mind at ease. If he doesn't then its time to reass the relationship (i.e. dump him).
Take care
2006-09-09 08:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by All the answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AIDS is not a homosexual disease, so you need to get that crap out of your head right now. Anyone can get AIDS.
As to your boyfriend, whether or not he's cheating on you (don't think he is) isn't the important issue. If he's not giving you the same kind of attention he did before, you should break up with him and find someone else.
2006-09-09 08:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by medellia1984 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him outright.....if he was masturbating whilst on the phone to his mate, then i would seriously think about your relationship with him...if he is with this guy....then he's cheating on you, if you leave it for too long you may see something you dont want to see, so ask him right out and demand he tells you whats going on, they may just be best mates, but masturbating on the phone whilst talking to him, is a bit wierd, dont sleep with him until you find out whats going on, plus if i were you i would still get tested for AIDS/HIV if you have both been sexually active in the past 6 months or so.... dont let him lie to you, get the truth out of him, and yes you can catch aids from a gay person, just like you can from a straight person, your suspicions may be right, but the only way to find out is by asking him and demanding the truth, dont let him pull the wool over your eyes, cheaters also become good liars, so look him straight in the eye and find otu what he's playing at.... there you can make a decision about yours and his future.....on the flip side it could just be that they are good mates and nothing is going on, it was the phone scenario that disturbed me, get peace of mind for your own sake
2006-09-09 08:23:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, thats a heck of a question... i lived the bi life before (i am a girl).. and gay/bi men dont bother me but if it bothers you and you dont think you could be in a relationship with him if he happen to be involved with a guy then stop threatning to leave and jsut leave (if hes with a guy that is) but me , i would just say hey hon, lets be honest if you are with a guy just let me know and maybe we can all hang out ;) but wow i sure would like to know what happens when this whole situation is said and done .... hope the best for you gal and if he is with a guy and its not something you can deal with i hope you find the right man for yourself....
2006-09-09 08:14:16 · answer #8 · answered by liberty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something definitely wrong with a guy who plays with himself while he talks to a guy. That, plus his defensive attitude about AIDS makes me think that there is more here than meets the eye.
2006-09-09 08:34:59 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch out just as lesbians have beards Men to be in public with, Gays have women for the same purpose. Sounds like time to go, do not hang on just cuz it is easier.
2006-09-09 08:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋