My fiance and I never had sex as he came from a conservative & decent family who disapprove of premarital sex. In our one-year engagement, the most we had was kissing. But he had no idea how intimate I & my ex-bf used to be (every night we were having sex), and though we broke up more than two years ago,
my Ex thinks I am still his (even though I have told him many times over the phone that I already have a new love). When my Ex and I met so I can finally tell him everything is over between us (& to also give him a wedding invitation), he took advantage of my being alone & he raped me right inside the car which I borrowed from my future husband. My Ex was so strong that he got what he wanted, ignoring my plea for him to stop abusing me... & he just kept on shooting his sperm into my fertile womb. I was cried the whole time, & he said he wanted me pregnant with his child on my wedding day. A few days after, a visit to the doctor confirmed what I feared most - I'm pregnant. Pls help.
2006-09-09 08:01:54 · 37 answers · asked by Len Rose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are so many issues with this I don't know where to begin. First of all you need to alert the authorities!!! If you were raped your Ex needs to be behind bars. Secondly you most definitely need to tell your future husband!! He is going to find out anyway if in fact you are pregnant with this other mans child and you have never slept with your future husband. Do not base your marriage off of lies!! It is not fair to your future husband. I don't know how you feel about having a child that was produced from rape, but I don't think that I could have the child. I think that it would constantly remind me of the tragic abuse. Does your future husband know that you met with your Ex? Sit down and explain this all to him and call the police and make a report!! How long ago did this occur? Did you have marks or bruises, do you still? If this took place a while ago or even a week or so ago, it may be difficult to prove the rape. All physical evidence will be long gone. When are you getting married? It must be soon if you already have the invitations printed.... this may postpone your wedding plans. Don't be scared and do what you know is right. Good Luck
2006-09-09 11:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by **hope/faith**1744 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just don't believe you. I hope your fiance doesn't either. Because #1 you should have no communication with your ex. How do you expect anyone to believe you when the first thing you said was every time I talked to him on the phone. Why were you still talking to him? Oh and come on about the raping in the car I mean seriously. No one hand delivers their wedding invitation to an ex boyfriend who wont take no for an answer when it comes to them being together. I have never been raped, but who gets raped in a car? I mean it is not impossible, but that set up will prove to have more of a struggle when it comes to someone doing something against their will. I think you were horny, I think you screwed your ex, but you just found out you are pregnant so you want to call it rape so you won't lose your fiance. Good luck on this one.
2006-09-09 15:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Um, I'm kind of not buying the story here, but on the off chance that it is 100% truth and your fertile womb was in fact impregnated by your ex bf in your (virgin) future husband's car, on the night you borrowed the car to deliver a wedding invitation to the guy who thought HE was your actual boyfriend (though you broke up two years ago), but was in fact your ex bf who is very strong, and has projectile semen/sperm, you might want to tell the poor guy. You obviously have different values if you were intimate 365 with the last guy. If you have not been honest enough to tell your (virgin) fiancee "the whole truth" about your previous relationship, you might want to get to know each other a little better before tying the knot.
Plus, he should know so he can get his car detailed.
2006-09-09 09:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by sendmedaisies 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Okay, given the way you ended this question ("& he just kept on shooting his sperm into my fertile womb."), I tend to doubt what you say happened really did. However, that's not the point so, if it did happen, definitely tell your fiance and go to the police. Even aside from this particular incident, it's obvious your Ex is never going to leave you alone so your fiance needs to be aware of what is happening with this guy now. As for this particular incident, he abused you - plain and simple. It's against the law and he needs to be dealt with.
I hope everything works out for you and that your fiance understands and is supportive because you are going to need some help to get through the next little bit.
2006-09-09 10:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you have no business marrying one guy when you are still having sex with your EX. That should be the first sign of potential problems.
How can you call sex with him Rape when you just got done telling us that you were having sex with him every night.? This one night was different? Were you still going to have sex with your EX after you were married??? Probably.....As for the pregnancy story. That could have happened at any of the other sexual encounters before your alleged "rape". You should just stay with your ex because you make a good couple. You are both "Twisted". Leave the nice guy alone, and maybe he will have a chance at finding a nice girl, not a two timing slut like you...Oh, and please have an abortion, because as selfish as you are, you would make a terrible parent.
Harsh, but TRUE......
2006-09-09 09:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by whidd2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is rape. You need to report it to the authorities. Tell the cops that you were scared about what had happened and thats why you didn't come forward sooner. This man also sounds abusive.
You then have to tell your financee. Its unfair for him not to know that you are pregnant. Let him know and hope that he understands. He might leave you-this is a risk you have to take. If he does then you know the type of guy that he is-leaving you after being raped by someone else.
Good luck! I will pray for you and this situation. It sounds horrible but you will get through it.
2006-09-12 04:48:29 · answer #6 · answered by newjerseygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, why on earth would you be inviting a guy who can't take a hint to your wedding? And why would it take you two years to finally tell him everything's over? I think your story is a load of BS and if it's not, you have some serious issues and should see someone about it!
2006-09-09 09:13:46 · answer #7 · answered by Amy Lynn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A little boy cried "wolf" too many times and people came to his rescue.
The third time a wolf really did come and happily had a meal of the little boy, and no one came to the rescue.
Bless you dear person, and may you never encounter a situation like you described, because wishes and desires of this kind, may come true for you.
2006-09-09 08:54:37 · answer #8 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the cops.
Cancel your wedding.
Decide if you are keeping this pregnancy.
Get some counseling to help you figure out why you would have continued to speak to this guy well after you had committed to someone else, and why in gods name you met up with him and why, and frankly this is the worst of all of this, would you INVITE him to your wedding.
2006-09-09 09:58:27 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe this story for a minute. I think it takes a little longer than a few days after you have sex to be able get a positive reading on any pregnancy test. Sorry!
2006-09-09 11:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by grace 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋