I have a 23 yo son that is in love with a girl 2000 miles apart. They have never met face to face but are constantly on the phone with each other and I have cought him having "phone sex" on a number of occasions. Maybe I am old fashioned but I really don't understand how this could be possible. We live in a big city and he is a good looking guy so he should have no problem finding a "real" girlfriend. Have you any explanation or answers to (in my mind) this weird behavior?
2006-09-09 07:41:49 · 6 answers · asked by P/T Doctor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The interent is a way of getting to know someone in a way that person to person sometimes you don't... I mean... You have a way of opening up and saying things to each other that you could not say face to face... You are not afraid to be open or shy... If you went out and met some one local.. Would you just open up and talk about anything and everything... NO... But online you meet new people develope friendships... Sometimes more... You make a bond... And yes... Sometimes fall in love...Online dating is a way of looking for people of your interests.. I think it is a good thing... You can chat..Talk about anything and everything before you really have to meet face to face... Can you do that if you just meet for the first time ? NO.......You get to learn more about the person and if you really want to know them further... Love ? Yes you can fall in love... The Phone sex thing... Well along with falling for the person you have met online also comes the feelings of romance.......Or as we would say.Wanting to be with them... So if your son has passion for this woman..... Please let them enjoy there time together........Masterbation safe sex.........
2006-09-10 05:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by levita45 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Internet dating is possible. But I would suggest having a serious chat with your son. And for this to happen, you would first have to let go of traditional/old-world type notions (if you have any, that is). The internet is just another way to meet new people, and many people do meet online and initiate relationships.
On the other hand, bring up the suggestion when you talk to your son that he shouldn't be so quick to define his feelings as 'love' just yet. If he has never met the girl in person, right now the only thing he would be 'in love' with would be the IDEA of her, not the actual girl. Does that make sense? It goes along with what you said about not being able to fall in love merely over the internet. Of course, you would definitely have to meet him/her before you can define your feelings to such a length. Perhaps your son is interested in a casual relationship--it might be that he's experimenting. A talk with him will bring all of this to light.
2006-09-09 07:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by calamityjanedoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible. I'm 42 and I found my love on an internet dating site. I fell in love with him before we had met. A person gets to know someone without all the hang ups of appearance and social awkwardness. It's easier to talk and get to know someone online or on the phone than sitting across from them. You just feel more free to say what's really on your mind.
Maybe your son is shy and this is a comfortable way for him to meet someone.
2006-09-09 07:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is YES. You need to get over it. This may be your daughter in law you are talking about. It happens. He is 23, let him do what he thinks is right. I know many happily married couples that met this way. Some of them lived as much as 10,000 miles apart when they met. That is no lie. Chill out. It is 2006.
Jon
2006-09-09 07:46:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
online love is as real as falling in love with someone you have met. my future wife is from the uk and i am from the usa. we met online and have been best friends and in love with each other for over a year. we talk daily and yes we have arguments. the phone sex is something you will need to ask him about. whatever you do, dont treat his online love as a joke.
2006-09-09 08:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by icameheretosleepnotchat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes !
Without a doubt you can fall in love with someone you've never met.
2006-09-09 07:50:09 · answer #6 · answered by herbs411_42719 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋