I know that this may vary from person to persons or situation to situation, but are their some standard conventions that I can follow? As parent of the groom what should we expect to pay for or do in preparation for the wedding? Does the mother of the groom need to consult anyone about the colour choice of her wedding attire?
2006-09-09 06:45:49 · 18 answers · asked by Jo 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Tradionally the brides familly would pay for the big wedding, But then the groom would pay for the rings, and it should be the three month salary engagement ring. The groom's family would buy them a pretty nice gift and maybe even give them a cheque at the reception. The groom would also pay for the honeymoon. And then the bride and groom would move into the house that he has purchased. The bride would stay at home and not work.
The mother of the groom isn't in the ceremony so she should be able to wear what she wants as long as it's tasteful.
2006-09-12 06:45:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.... other than saying finally we got rid of him, their responsibilities GENERALLY fall into the following categories:
Pre-Wedding Duties
Work out the budget and agree the financial responsibilities for the wedding with the bride, groom and the grooms parents.
Prepare the guest list with the bride, groom and the brides parents.
Help where ever required
Now, as it concerns the actual Wedding day.. the general duties would be... might be:
Arrive at the church in good time and sit behind the groom and bestman.
Join the wedding party for the signing of the register.
Leave the church after the bride and groom with the brides parents.
Arrive at the reception after the bride and groom and join the receiving line.
Help the brides parents to ensure that the party go smoothly by dancing with guests, making introductions and anything else that may be required.
AND THEN AFTER the wedding:
Write thank-you letter to the bride's parents for a lovely wedding.
2006-09-09 14:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
None. However, in view of the costs of some weddings and the fact that the groom has as many if not more guests than the bride, it is a great gesture on the part of the groom's family to offer financial support.
Have a discussion with all parties involved and make an offer based on your economic situation. You can only afford what you can afford and so should the bride and her family.
As for your attire, it would be nice to speak to the bride about your choices. Remember, this young lady is going to be your daughter-in-law and she is also going to be the mother of your grandchildren. Start your family relationship on a good note.
2006-09-09 13:56:45 · answer #3 · answered by Notorious 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The groom's family traditionally pays for:
the rehearsal dinner
their own wedding attire
their own travel costs if any
but the groom pays for
flowers
bachelor party
rings
his attire
the officiant's fee
boutonnieres
2006-09-09 14:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ελλαδα 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like you say it varies, but I believe the grooms side pays for the wedding rehersal, and the drinks (liquor bar) at the reception. The bride side pays for the meal at the reception. The bride and groom pay for the band, and the flowers. At least that is the way it went with our wedding.
2006-09-09 13:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by tprincl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly in etiquette books the grooms' parents have no say or financial responsibilty about the wedding except a gift.....it is nice however to get all parents together and you two love birds pitch ideas and try to accommodate both families beliefs, wishes, etc.......... my in-laws paid for the band and got to choose it.....The band was pretty bad but that's ok they felt a part of the planning! Congrats!
2006-09-09 13:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by crownvic64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are books of etiquette on this subject actually, but these days many couples pay for everything themselves and accept gifts from caring family and friends. I like tradition better though....
Whose wedding attire color choices are you wanting to ask about? I think it's the bride who comes up with the color scheme of the bridesmaids' dresses and such.
Will leave this question open to wedding planners now! Coz I'm curious too.
2006-09-09 13:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally is was set that the bride's parents pay BUT please keep in mind that traditionally marriages were based on what the bride's family could offer the grooms family in means of a dowery. Think of your participation in the wedding as a reflection of how much participation you want your son to have in the marriage.
2006-09-09 14:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by peaceandlove™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rehearsal dinner, and usually the groom's parents pick up the tab for the liquor at the wedding. And a big down payment for their first house.
2006-09-12 20:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I know, and I am from the midwest....the only thing the grroms parents are responsible for is the rehearsal dinner. I am sure though that if groom's and bride's parents want to split the cost of anything it would be agreeable.
2006-09-09 13:48:52 · answer #10 · answered by Proud_Army_Wife26 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋