I went behind my mom's back and dated a 16 year old dude when I am only 13. I cannot say anything to her now without her getting mad and she doesn't trust me at all... What do I do???
2006-09-09 06:28:07 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I just broke up w/him 2day
2006-09-09 08:02:36 · update #1
Sum1 said i slept w/him... I didnt
2006-09-09 08:04:38 · update #2
Its only statutary rape if we have sex!!!
2006-09-09 08:05:24 · update #3
i cannot say i thot he was 13 cuz my aunt is his next door neighbor n already told my mom he was 16
2006-09-09 08:27:25 · update #4
my mom just assumed we were dating n stopped me from talking to him
2006-09-09 10:00:24 · update #5
HOW COME EVERYONE IS SAYING I SLEPT WITH HIM AND TELLING ME TO GO ON THE PILL???
2006-09-10 12:15:47 · update #6
im 13 and i like a guy whose 15 but u just need to have a mature conversation with her and tell her that u respect her and ull be responsible. it worked for me. bs ur way through it! haha, just kidding
2006-09-09 06:51:36 · answer #1 · answered by jordanthegrouch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 38 years old and I had my FIRST kid AT 15 YEARS OLD.MY life changed some much no school cuz all the girls wanted to kick my butt.no go out with you friends .stop and think about what you are doing really hard cuz you don't want a baby at this age.
I have a13 year old and i know she knows better cuz of what i went threw.life is hard and i know that,i'm haveing troubl with her now but i put her on the pill to be safe for ALL of us.
Set down with your mom and tell her you want the pill to help with your cramping and to make sure it comes the same time every month.And so you DON'T get knocked up .that is the most in importon .then any thing else. BE SAFE FOR SURE!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-09 16:59:30 · answer #2 · answered by syco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is tell her because she will find out eventually. We parents have a way of finding out about things like this. Wouldn't it be better for her to know now rather than later because she will think you are hiding more things from her. The trouble you will be in now will be far less than it will be if she finds out from someone later. My advice to my two daughters is don't lie and if you do something that you know you were not suppose to do admit it and we will work through it. Trust between a parent and a child is very important. Just think about it this way if you lie and sneak around behind your moms back one day you may really have a problem and she knows you have done that to her who are you going to turn to when you have really messed up.
2006-09-09 13:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by tadertotretard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you blew it and are paying the price. The next part of paying the price is proving again to your Mom you can be trusted. How do you do this? By keeping your communication open and your actions visible at all times. She is going to have to see that you learned a valuable lesson and you are not going to do something against her wishes again. That's a tough position to be in but you put yourself in it. Always tell her the truth regardless. Follow the house rules. Let her know where you are going at all times and with whom. If she says to be at home by 8, be there. Be consistent. You know what's amazing? After a couple of months you'll start seeing things change.
PS Don't smart off at your Mom. That will NOT help your cause ever!!
2006-09-09 13:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when i was 13 i went with a 15 year old and thought i fell in love and got my heart borken then i went with a 17 year old when i was 14 and thought i was in love and got my heart broken again. but since then i've learned life lessons that most guys just want sex. Wait im confused have u already told her? Me my parents knew about the 15 year old because my parents and his parents knew each other and they knew about the other boy they just didnt know how old he was. but like this summer i got in alot of trouble because i had a boy over my house while they were gone and he left a hickie. so my advise is older boyz get u in to a whole lot of trouble but dont lose her trust so i wouldnt tell her let this be one of those lesson u learn on ya own.
2006-09-09 15:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be many more "dudes" in life, but at 13 years old,please dream but listen to Mom.So much good will come to you,and I know you have heard it before, they only want one thing. If you want to tell yourself that it's different for you or for him,thats why your Mom is upset.You are not paying yourself the respect that Mom has tried to teach you to have.You may not agree and understand why she says things, but learn to trust that she knows why and she knows more.
2006-09-09 13:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by lauren m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she had her reasons for not letting you date. you blew it. tell her the truth. and aplogize, be honest with her. you are a child and shouldnt be with a 16 year old boy its a crime in most states called statutory rape. act like a child your age and in time she will start to trust you again but not anytime soon
2006-09-09 13:35:51 · answer #7 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eww. You dated a 16 year old?I'm 13 too. Anyway, drop him, forget about it, and move on. Act like it never happened.
2006-09-09 13:32:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have made a mistake and you should tell your mother, because she will find out. I would much rather hear it from my daughter than someone else. It will take awhile to get her trust back but you have to stop and ask yourself "Who's fault is it?"
2006-09-09 13:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by okkiegal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both can go to counseling to work things out. But if you're mature to sleep with a guy then you should be mature enough to talk to your mom. Be strong!
2006-09-09 13:34:49 · answer #10 · answered by asianpacificislandlaidbackgirl4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋