tell parents i am pregnant?

Question

I am pregnant in 12th grade and scared out of my mind! How do i tell my parents?

p.s. i am verrrry stressed out about this and getting sick from worying all the time is ths bad for my baby?

Answer 1

well you could verbally tell them or just wait until is starts to show, or just wait until you have the baby and then say "oh yeah, i forgot to tell you, I was pregnant and now you are grandparents!" but i suggest option number 1

Answer 2

If your parents are somebody you feel safe approaching about the matter, and have established that you can talk to them about anything, go to them. They will probably be disappointed and maybe a little angry, but they want you to come to them and they will love you no less.

That doesn't work for many teens in your situation. If you do not feel safe or you feel that you haven't gathered all your thoughts completely, then it might help for you to talk to another adult in your life, such a a counselor at school or a teacher, someone with an open mind and who will not think any less of you. This person doesn't not even need to be a professional. A slightly older adult would be good or a close friend, someone who can be there for you emotionally if things fall out with your parents or physically if you feel you are in danger.

DO NOT WAIT UNTILL IT STARTS TO SHOW. BAD ADVICE. You will need prenatal care, and it will be even more scary going through this alone. It may not be when you wanted it to happen, but it is, so be there for yourself.

Answer 3

I too ended up pregnant in the 12th grade. I never had regular periods (it would show up the first week, then the 3rd week the next month etc etc) and had bleeding up to the 5th month. I also didn't show until I was at 7 months. When it stopped completely I freaked out. I took a test even though I hadn't had sex in 3 months. It came back positive. I first went to the health department and got information about pregnancy, made an appt with a reputable doctor in town, and got prenatal vitamins. Then I came home and told my parents. It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I graduated with my class and had my baby in October.

My parents weren't too impressed, but what could they do? The "damage" was already done. So my mother, bless her heart, decided to look on the bright side of things. She was my Lamaze coach, we went shopping for baby clothes, furniture, etc together, and she was there for me. That meant a lot. Two years later, I had my second one. (She still wasn't impressed but she was supportive.) I'm 28 now, and expecting my 3rd child. She's just as excited about this one as she was for the others. Hopefully your parents will be as supportive as mine were. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Good luck honey, and try to stay and finish school, it was one of the best things I could have done. =)

Answer 4

It depends on your relationship with your parents. I have always told my daughter that I expected her not to have sex until marriage. I have also told her that if she does get pregnant that we expect to be the first ones she tells. We will be disappointed, angry, and upset, but we love her and will take care of her always. If you have a lousy relationship with your parents, you might want to have a place ready that you can go stay until things cool off. Don't tell anyone until you have told your parents. If you need counseling go to a Savalife center or something similar. It's free. If the father is still around and loves you, he should be with you when you tell your parents. My son and his girlfriend were pregnant when he was 25. It broke our hearts that he didn't come to us for several months. If you have told anyone else, you'd better hurry, because everyone has 2 or 3 people they think they can trust with a secret.
Start the conversation with your parents with something like this:
I love you. I know you're going to be hurt when I tell you this, but I hope you'll help me. I'm scared to death and I need you really bad right now. I'M SORRY I've disappointed you, but I know I can't change things now. I really need your help.
Expect some crying and possibly yelling at you.
Sit there and take it. They need time for it to sink in. A child that yells back only aggravates the situation. Imagine how you'll feel when oneday this child tells you the same thing after you've carried it for 9 months, been with it when it was sick with fever and throwing up, watched it grow into a beautiful person, loved it constantly no matter what, fed it, bathed it, held your breath everytime she tries to walk, ride a bike, drive a car, go on the first date. You can't imagine the hopes and dreams good parents have for their children. This will throw a big kink in all those dreams. Give them time
but let them know you really, really, need them.

Answer 5

I know this is hard for you but it is the best thing to do to get the help you will need. I would sit down and talk to your parents about the night you had sex (you don't need to go into too many details.) I know on another post you said it was your first time, so I would explain that to your parents and be as honest as can be. Wait for a time when they seem calm and let them know that you have some bad/good news that you need to to listen to you and promise not to yell at first. Tell them you are really frightened and the best thing for them to do right now is to listen to you first before getting mad. When you are talking let them know what you did was wrong (this may steer them away from this conversation) and that you want their support in anyway possible. If you partner is close such as a close boyfriend, tell him first and if he's willing have him be a part of the conversation so that your parents know that he supports you. Tell them you want to do the responsible thing and ask them for advice. Parents usually have a hard time hearing this kind of news so be prepared that they will be upset, but know that they love you and will be there for you. The best thing is to address them rationally so that they will be rationale in their conversation with you. If you bring it up hysterically they will more than likely be hysterical too. If you have a supportive friend, it might be a good idea to have your friend with you. If your parents are more than likely to blow up over this, having another person next to you might keep them calmer (which will give them time to think things through rationally.) Your friend could also be in the next room if you want to give you a hug when you are finished talking with your parents. I know this is a hard thing to do and is probably weighing heavily on your mind. The best thing really is to get it over with so you can relieve that bit of stress. Good luck. If you need anymore advice feel free to e-mail me :) I'm 9 weeks pregnant and can give you any advice if you are feeling lousey once you are further along or any of the other pregnancy questions.

Answer 6

I'm 19 well just turned in July. And i was pregnant in Feb i didn't find out until a little later but when i did i sat down with my dad and told him he was gonna be a grandpa. And if he wanted to know what i was having which kind of eased the situation because it's his first grandchild and he is a boy so my dad was way excited!! Of course he wanted me to finish school and have my career and be financially stable which i do have a good job and now im doing online college so it's not impossible just remind your parents that. And please still stay determined even more to reach your goals and stay in school and go all the way. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 7

I would tell them as soon as possible. I'm sure that if you have a good relationship with them, they'll be there for you. Being pregnant at your age is going to be hard and will change your life forever. But letting your parents know is the first responsible thing to do. From there, do the best you can for this baby that is totally going to be dependent on you! Pls. don't resort to having an abortion. You'll regret it later...I've had friends that had it done and they regretted it.

Answer 8

I felt weird telling my parents i was preganant and i was 22. But, i just did, and they were - which suprised me rather excited and pleased about it.
Your in 12th grade - im not sure what state you live in and the laws, but you need to decide if your going to have the baby or not. If not, you dont really need to tell them, but you said you were scared and it sounds like you could use some guidance.
If you are having the baby, you need to get proper pre natal care, etc. and you mineaswell tell them asap.

Answer 9

The longer you wait, the harder it will be, and stress is not good for you or the baby. Tell them you need to talk to them about something important, make an appointment if necessary, have them both paying attention, and tell them truthfully and honestly. They are going to be upset, but they will get over it eventually. You need their help, so the sooner you tell them, the sooner they will get over being mad and the sooner you will get the love and support you need. Good luck. Things will work out ok.

Answer 10

You should definitely tell them, because if they care about you, they'll care about the being inside of you. Don't be scared, the same thing happened to my cousin and she ended up not telling her mom & when her mom found out, she was disowned by the family, because she didn't say anything about it. There is a possibility where that might happen to you, but it is your decision, just know that every choice you make comes with consequences.

Answer 11

Oh honey, If your parents love you they will support you all the way, dont be afraid.Make sure you tell them right away. Im not sure how to answer this, but I wish you luck. Just make sure you take care of yourself and your new little baby. Good Luck